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5 Things to Understand if Your Significant Other Is An Introvert

5 Things to Understand if Your Significant Other Is An Introvert

When your partner is an introvert it can take some time to understand why they prefer to have alone time to recharge. Introverts are often confused with people who are shy, but introversion is actually to do with feeling drained after a social situation, as opposed to feeling energized from it (extroverts).

There is a whole spectrum of introversion, from introverts who would always prefer to stay at home, to those who want to go out and socialize. People who appear to be social butterflies can in fact be introverts, but you would never be able to tell since they enjoy socializing in small doses. It is important to know how you can support your introverted partner, especially in social situations. Here are a few ways that you can help:

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You should understand the reasons for them wanting to leave a social situation

There is only so much social interaction an introvert can tolerate until they start to feel drained. It is important to accept that when your partner wants to leave it’s not a personal attack on the event or an indication that they are bored, but they need to escape to find some solitude and recharge. If you prefer to stay for longer, discuss this beforehand and either take two cars or find a friend that can drive you home.

You should help out with the small talk

Introverts often dread small talk and it is important for your partner that you take the reins on this so that they do not feel as much pressure to come up with witty comebacks or thoughtful questions. It is important for you to understand that introverts often prefer to listen, especially in large groups of people. Another way that you can help your partner out is by bringing up topics in the conversation that you know are of interest to them and that they can easily talk about.

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You should give them space

When your partner needs to decompress after a social event, it is important to let them do so without pestering them. It may be hard to realize that they are benefiting from this time alone (especially if you want to hang out), but after awhile it will become easier. Your relationship will also benefit immensely if you let your partner do their own thing for awhile.

You should always check-in with your partner about your social calendar

Scheduling two social events back-to-back can create a lot of friction with your partner, especially if they are the type of introvert that prefers to be alone most of the time. During times of the year such as the holiday season it is important to be extra vigilant and not over-pack your schedule. A good system to use is to have a clearly marked calendar in a place that is easily visible for both of you, so that there is no miscommunication. Also, last minute invitations should be discussed in detail with your partner to gauge how they feel and how much they can handle; introverts prefer to know about social events well in advance so that they can mentally prepare.

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You should not worry about them every moment they are quiet

Introverts are often quieter than their extroverted counterparts, but that does not necessarily mean something is wrong. If you find them sitting alone at a party, trust that they are not being anti-social, but just taking a moment to regroup. On the other hand, it is important to be able to tell if something is wrong with your partner and if they are feeling overwhelmed in a social situation. Discuss beforehand a discrete signal that they can give you if they are feeling this way.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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