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5 Things to Understand if Your Significant Other Is An Introvert

5 Things to Understand if Your Significant Other Is An Introvert

When your partner is an introvert it can take some time to understand why they prefer to have alone time to recharge. Introverts are often confused with people who are shy, but introversion is actually to do with feeling drained after a social situation, as opposed to feeling energized from it (extroverts).

There is a whole spectrum of introversion, from introverts who would always prefer to stay at home, to those who want to go out and socialize. People who appear to be social butterflies can in fact be introverts, but you would never be able to tell since they enjoy socializing in small doses. It is important to know how you can support your introverted partner, especially in social situations. Here are a few ways that you can help:

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You should understand the reasons for them wanting to leave a social situation

There is only so much social interaction an introvert can tolerate until they start to feel drained. It is important to accept that when your partner wants to leave it’s not a personal attack on the event or an indication that they are bored, but they need to escape to find some solitude and recharge. If you prefer to stay for longer, discuss this beforehand and either take two cars or find a friend that can drive you home.

You should help out with the small talk

Introverts often dread small talk and it is important for your partner that you take the reins on this so that they do not feel as much pressure to come up with witty comebacks or thoughtful questions. It is important for you to understand that introverts often prefer to listen, especially in large groups of people. Another way that you can help your partner out is by bringing up topics in the conversation that you know are of interest to them and that they can easily talk about.

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You should give them space

When your partner needs to decompress after a social event, it is important to let them do so without pestering them. It may be hard to realize that they are benefiting from this time alone (especially if you want to hang out), but after awhile it will become easier. Your relationship will also benefit immensely if you let your partner do their own thing for awhile.

You should always check-in with your partner about your social calendar

Scheduling two social events back-to-back can create a lot of friction with your partner, especially if they are the type of introvert that prefers to be alone most of the time. During times of the year such as the holiday season it is important to be extra vigilant and not over-pack your schedule. A good system to use is to have a clearly marked calendar in a place that is easily visible for both of you, so that there is no miscommunication. Also, last minute invitations should be discussed in detail with your partner to gauge how they feel and how much they can handle; introverts prefer to know about social events well in advance so that they can mentally prepare.

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You should not worry about them every moment they are quiet

Introverts are often quieter than their extroverted counterparts, but that does not necessarily mean something is wrong. If you find them sitting alone at a party, trust that they are not being anti-social, but just taking a moment to regroup. On the other hand, it is important to be able to tell if something is wrong with your partner and if they are feeling overwhelmed in a social situation. Discuss beforehand a discrete signal that they can give you if they are feeling this way.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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