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5 Reasons Why Geeky Boys Are Seriously The Best Boyfriend Type

5 Reasons Why Geeky Boys Are Seriously The Best Boyfriend Type

I’ll be straight with you, I’m no “lady killer” (at least, I think that’s what the kids are calling it these days). I am; however, a pretty big geek, and thus I thought it would be cool to write an article espousing the reasons why we make awesome boyfriends – of course. My hope is that in doing so, girls will be just a bit more informed about guys like me. If I’m lucky, maybe I’ll convince a few of you to ditch the football player in exchange for the guy wearing the bow tie!

So let’s start with the basics. What’s so special about geeks?

1. We have potential

Yes, it’s true. Us geeks generally don’t have the best bodies, and we usually aren’t “alpha males.” That said, underneath our awkward outer shell lies gobs of potential just waiting to be tapped. Anyways, isn’t it supposed to be true that most girls like picking boyfriends who they feel they can “fix?” What makes geeks awesome is that most of us are fairly intelligent and driven people. All that we lack is proper social training and someone who can tell us which clothes look best on us.

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In other words, there’s a high chance that with a bit of poking and prodding, us geeks can be turned into the perfect all-around boyfriend package. I can use myself as an example. Although I’m still pretty geeky, I’ve slowly evolved over time through exercise and social interaction (not unlike a Pokémon). I’m by no means perfect, but I think having that geeky base layer to my personality adds an inherent complexity to me that many other “normal” types lack.

2. We are super sincere

We geeks might not always do the right thing, and we might do it in an incredibly socially awkward way, but at the end of the day there is one thing you can always count on: we’re sincere.

Now, I’m not saying that all geeks are angels (far from it). However, we’ll definitely be way more honest with you than the average dude would be.

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On the flip side, many of the guys that girls usually go for have no trouble toying with their emotions. We geeks are too used to having our emotions toyed with to have the gall to do that to other people!

3. We can help you with your tech problems

Sure, this is kind of a stereotype, but it’s also one that holds true most of the time. Because we geeks aren’t out there getting all dirty in the mud whilst playing football, we get to spend our spare time figuring out how all of the gadgets and gizmos we all use work. I know that I personally spend a lot of time gaming on my PC, which eventually led to me figuring out all of these little tricks and workarounds to get the most performance out of it that I could. In a similar vein, I learned how to optimize the settings on my phone as well.

I shall spare you all of the tech-y specifics. Bottom line is that geeks, more often than not, can help you with just about any issue you’re having with your technology.

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4. We aren’t mysterious… or are we?

The best part about being an awkward geek is that you often learn to embrace your awkwardness. By the way, this makes us really good at using self-deprecating humor by the way. What this means is that most geeks have stopped trying to be somebody they’re not. Most normal guys usually have this false air of confidence and chivalry that they surround themselves in when they want to impress people. We geeks have trouble masking our true selves thanks to our quirkiness, so what you see is usually what you get!

That said, geeks usually act differently with good friends than they do with strangers. As you get to know your geeky boyfriend, you might find that there’s far more there than what originally met your eyes.

5. We evolve

This one reminds me of that song by The Verve, “Bittersweet Symphony”. Its lyrics talk about how, for the most part, people can’t really change who they are at a core level. I believe that to be mostly true. However, I will say that us geeks try our darnedest to edit ourselves in ways that we believe our loved ones will appreciate. You, as the potential significant other of a geek,  should be super happy about that, as there are many folks out there who are dead-set on not making any changes to themselves no matter what kind of external factors are present.

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I might contend that our ability to evolve in this manner is derived from our near-universal love of the super geeky show Doctor Who, in which the Doctor once said…

“…we all change. When you think about it, we’re all different people, all through our lives. And that’s okay, that’s good; you’ve gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be.”

When you’re a geek, you’re mind is exposed to so many fantastical worlds and concepts that it’s hard to think of yourself as “normal.” Thus, it’s almost impossible to live a “normal” life. Of course, that also has its pros and cons, but I think that you’ll enjoy the pros far more than you’ll dislike the cons.

With all that said, if you are a geek, or are currently dating one, I’d love if you sounded off in the comments below!

Featured photo credit: Am I Handsome?/Aikawa Ke via flic.kr

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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