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5 Reasons Why Geeky Boys Are Seriously The Best Boyfriend Type

5 Reasons Why Geeky Boys Are Seriously The Best Boyfriend Type

I’ll be straight with you, I’m no “lady killer” (at least, I think that’s what the kids are calling it these days). I am; however, a pretty big geek, and thus I thought it would be cool to write an article espousing the reasons why we make awesome boyfriends – of course. My hope is that in doing so, girls will be just a bit more informed about guys like me. If I’m lucky, maybe I’ll convince a few of you to ditch the football player in exchange for the guy wearing the bow tie!

So let’s start with the basics. What’s so special about geeks?

1. We have potential

Yes, it’s true. Us geeks generally don’t have the best bodies, and we usually aren’t “alpha males.” That said, underneath our awkward outer shell lies gobs of potential just waiting to be tapped. Anyways, isn’t it supposed to be true that most girls like picking boyfriends who they feel they can “fix?” What makes geeks awesome is that most of us are fairly intelligent and driven people. All that we lack is proper social training and someone who can tell us which clothes look best on us.

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In other words, there’s a high chance that with a bit of poking and prodding, us geeks can be turned into the perfect all-around boyfriend package. I can use myself as an example. Although I’m still pretty geeky, I’ve slowly evolved over time through exercise and social interaction (not unlike a Pokémon). I’m by no means perfect, but I think having that geeky base layer to my personality adds an inherent complexity to me that many other “normal” types lack.

2. We are super sincere

We geeks might not always do the right thing, and we might do it in an incredibly socially awkward way, but at the end of the day there is one thing you can always count on: we’re sincere.

Now, I’m not saying that all geeks are angels (far from it). However, we’ll definitely be way more honest with you than the average dude would be.

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On the flip side, many of the guys that girls usually go for have no trouble toying with their emotions. We geeks are too used to having our emotions toyed with to have the gall to do that to other people!

3. We can help you with your tech problems

Sure, this is kind of a stereotype, but it’s also one that holds true most of the time. Because we geeks aren’t out there getting all dirty in the mud whilst playing football, we get to spend our spare time figuring out how all of the gadgets and gizmos we all use work. I know that I personally spend a lot of time gaming on my PC, which eventually led to me figuring out all of these little tricks and workarounds to get the most performance out of it that I could. In a similar vein, I learned how to optimize the settings on my phone as well.

I shall spare you all of the tech-y specifics. Bottom line is that geeks, more often than not, can help you with just about any issue you’re having with your technology.

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4. We aren’t mysterious… or are we?

The best part about being an awkward geek is that you often learn to embrace your awkwardness. By the way, this makes us really good at using self-deprecating humor by the way. What this means is that most geeks have stopped trying to be somebody they’re not. Most normal guys usually have this false air of confidence and chivalry that they surround themselves in when they want to impress people. We geeks have trouble masking our true selves thanks to our quirkiness, so what you see is usually what you get!

That said, geeks usually act differently with good friends than they do with strangers. As you get to know your geeky boyfriend, you might find that there’s far more there than what originally met your eyes.

5. We evolve

This one reminds me of that song by The Verve, “Bittersweet Symphony”. Its lyrics talk about how, for the most part, people can’t really change who they are at a core level. I believe that to be mostly true. However, I will say that us geeks try our darnedest to edit ourselves in ways that we believe our loved ones will appreciate. You, as the potential significant other of a geek,  should be super happy about that, as there are many folks out there who are dead-set on not making any changes to themselves no matter what kind of external factors are present.

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I might contend that our ability to evolve in this manner is derived from our near-universal love of the super geeky show Doctor Who, in which the Doctor once said…

“…we all change. When you think about it, we’re all different people, all through our lives. And that’s okay, that’s good; you’ve gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be.”

When you’re a geek, you’re mind is exposed to so many fantastical worlds and concepts that it’s hard to think of yourself as “normal.” Thus, it’s almost impossible to live a “normal” life. Of course, that also has its pros and cons, but I think that you’ll enjoy the pros far more than you’ll dislike the cons.

With all that said, if you are a geek, or are currently dating one, I’d love if you sounded off in the comments below!

Featured photo credit: Am I Handsome?/Aikawa Ke via flic.kr

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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