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12 Reasons Why People Who Speak Their Minds Are Incredibly Attractive

12 Reasons Why People Who Speak Their Minds Are Incredibly Attractive

It is a cliché that truth is always bitter. That said, what would we do without truth, honesty or vividness? In actuality, sometimes our actions and the decisions aren’t the best. We need certain people who can tell us the way it is. These people are not simply attractive, they also make the world a better place by providing more truth.

Here are 12 reasons why people who speak their mind are incredibly attractive.

1. They don’t mince words

You can always know what they’re thinking because their words somehow reveal their emotions, feelings, and perspectives. They know that being pretentious will make them pretty uncomfortable in the relationship with you, so they will pour it out in words and expressions.

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2. They are honest

People who speak their minds are advocates of honesty. They don’t simply preach it, they practice it. At the end of the day, there is so much strength and solidity that can be achieved with honest – like trust, transparency, and awareness.

3. They are bold

Bold is sexy and appealing. People who speak their minds are bold and courageous. They really are not focused on what they have to lose, but rather on what they will gain by telling you the truth. They just are not worried about compromise. When push comes to shove this quality could be what your relationship is valued on.

4. They don’t give soft love

All that pampering and smothering may never make you aware of the smart and hard decisions you have to be making. They wouldn’t flatter you. Everything you will get from them is something you deserve.

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5. They are clear

Sometimes this is what you need in a relationship – clarity. With clarity you know where you are heading or where you are coming from. They offer clarity to a relationship rather than vagueness or distortions.

6. They can cut through your pretentiousness

You can be pretentious or fake. They will not only see through it, they will break through it with their honesty and vividness.

7. They understand that life is short

We do not have too many chances or opportunities in life to express how we feel or take those decisive actions. However, a person who speaks their mind takes the slim opportunities they have and still makes such moments matter. They know that life is too short to be holding in feelings and not expressing yourself.

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8. They are not scared of confrontation

Actually, they revel in confrontation, and are great at confronting others. They consider confrontations as a way of making a statement. Such moments can make you see a person who speaks their mind for what they are. You are forced to accept them this way or not.

9. They offer an honest opinion

At this point, they can attract people who want to be mirrored by them. They have no problem giving anyone an honest opinion on any given issue. Actually, they attract a lot of people who want an honest piece of advice.

10. They are not needy

They don’t feel insecure or beg for attention. They do not feel obligated to butter the truth. They are stable. You can deal with that because it makes them really attractive and complete.

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11. They will apologize if they have to

They are responsible. They know that they will not always be right. When they are on the edge of a mistake, they are okay with telling you that they are sorry and they are on the wrong. They are never too egotistic to admit a mistake because they know how to reveal their hate, love, fears, distaste, and their mistakes.

12. They don’t limit themselves

They see possibilities in the cold wilderness. They know that a hard truth doesn’t hide these possibilities, but actually reveals them. It makes them aware of all the chances and options that they can urge you to take.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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