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9 Qualities That Make Him A Man You Could Commit to Forever

9 Qualities That Make Him A Man You Could Commit to Forever

Do you think your boyfriend would make a good husband? While passion is often enough to maintain a relationship at the beginning, there are other important qualities that you should look for in someone if you plan on spending the rest of your life with them.

From being committed to being willing to discuss problems, check out 9 qualities that make him not only a good boyfriend, but a good husband you would be happy to commit to.

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1. He Is Willing To Address Relationship Problems

A long-term relationship will struggle if your partner can’t tell when something is wrong. In a healthy relationship, problems will be brought up by both partners and they will be willing to discuss the problems without becoming angry or sad. Your husband should be someone who pays attention to your feelings regarding the relationship. It is very difficult for a marriage to last without putting in time and effort.

2. He Spends Time Thinking About Your Personal Problems

As well as caring about your feelings towards the relationship, your husband should be invested in your overall happiness in life. The person who you spend the rest of your life with should want to comfort you and help you whenever you are struggling. You should both take on each other’s problems and spend time thinking of ways to solve the problems as a team.

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3. He Is Committed To The Relationship

A marriage is a strong partnership between two people that can weather a few storms. If you are going to spend the rest of your lives together, you will go through hard times and sadness, and it is important to find a husband who is devoted to your relationship even if things are not going well.

4. He Is Wise

While it is nice to marry someone who is book smart, it is often more important to marry someone who is wise beyond as well as being book smart. Life experiences and other factors make him wise and able to support you during the tough times.

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5. He Knows You Better Than Anyone Else Does

If your husband doesn’t understand you, problems will arise that you will be unable to predict. The person you marry should know you well and be able to occasionally predict your reactions in tough situations. This will help you two to work as a team, and he will be able to rationalize and reduce your stress.

6. He Knows How To Comfort You

Your husband is your life partner, and one of his main duties is comforting you in a way that no-one else can. After a hard day he will know exactly what to do to make you feel better, from giving you a long hug to pouring you a glass of wine. His love will raise your spirits and motivate you to go on.

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7. He Understands That You Make Mistakes

Everyone screws up, and your life partner should be there to help you when you do. Instead of becoming angry or frustrated, your partner should be understanding and patient. You’re in this together, and it is important to help each other rather than watch each other suffer.

8. He Gives You Feedback Rather than Silence

In a healthy relationship, no-one is scared to be honest. Communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship and your partner should understand the right time and place to give you feedback. Everyone makes mistakes – discuss them without anger, fix the mistakes, then laugh about them together.

9. He Pays Attention To The Little Things

Your husband doesn’t need to know every single detail of your life, but he should take note of the little things that are important to you. From putting on your favorite DVD to remembering to walk the dog, your husband should make little gestures that show his love.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your boyfriend or husband to see what they think!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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