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9 Qualities That Make Him A Man You Could Commit to Forever

9 Qualities That Make Him A Man You Could Commit to Forever

Do you think your boyfriend would make a good husband? While passion is often enough to maintain a relationship at the beginning, there are other important qualities that you should look for in someone if you plan on spending the rest of your life with them.

From being committed to being willing to discuss problems, check out 9 qualities that make him not only a good boyfriend, but a good husband you would be happy to commit to.

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1. He Is Willing To Address Relationship Problems

A long-term relationship will struggle if your partner can’t tell when something is wrong. In a healthy relationship, problems will be brought up by both partners and they will be willing to discuss the problems without becoming angry or sad. Your husband should be someone who pays attention to your feelings regarding the relationship. It is very difficult for a marriage to last without putting in time and effort.

2. He Spends Time Thinking About Your Personal Problems

As well as caring about your feelings towards the relationship, your husband should be invested in your overall happiness in life. The person who you spend the rest of your life with should want to comfort you and help you whenever you are struggling. You should both take on each other’s problems and spend time thinking of ways to solve the problems as a team.

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3. He Is Committed To The Relationship

A marriage is a strong partnership between two people that can weather a few storms. If you are going to spend the rest of your lives together, you will go through hard times and sadness, and it is important to find a husband who is devoted to your relationship even if things are not going well.

4. He Is Wise

While it is nice to marry someone who is book smart, it is often more important to marry someone who is wise beyond as well as being book smart. Life experiences and other factors make him wise and able to support you during the tough times.

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5. He Knows You Better Than Anyone Else Does

If your husband doesn’t understand you, problems will arise that you will be unable to predict. The person you marry should know you well and be able to occasionally predict your reactions in tough situations. This will help you two to work as a team, and he will be able to rationalize and reduce your stress.

6. He Knows How To Comfort You

Your husband is your life partner, and one of his main duties is comforting you in a way that no-one else can. After a hard day he will know exactly what to do to make you feel better, from giving you a long hug to pouring you a glass of wine. His love will raise your spirits and motivate you to go on.

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7. He Understands That You Make Mistakes

Everyone screws up, and your life partner should be there to help you when you do. Instead of becoming angry or frustrated, your partner should be understanding and patient. You’re in this together, and it is important to help each other rather than watch each other suffer.

8. He Gives You Feedback Rather than Silence

In a healthy relationship, no-one is scared to be honest. Communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship and your partner should understand the right time and place to give you feedback. Everyone makes mistakes – discuss them without anger, fix the mistakes, then laugh about them together.

9. He Pays Attention To The Little Things

Your husband doesn’t need to know every single detail of your life, but he should take note of the little things that are important to you. From putting on your favorite DVD to remembering to walk the dog, your husband should make little gestures that show his love.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your boyfriend or husband to see what they think!

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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