Advertising
Advertising

37 Weird Things That Happen When Your Boyfriend Is Indeed Your Bestfriend

37 Weird Things That Happen When Your Boyfriend Is Indeed Your Bestfriend

Is your boyfriend your best friend, too? Some relationships come and go, but when you have something special it is very different. You respect and love your partner, even after seeing all of their gross habits – check out 37 weird things that happen when your boyfriend is your best friend.

1. You occasionally have moments where you think you can’t stand to be around anyone other than your boyfriend.

2. You have accidental outfit ensembles, such as your nearly matching blue jumpers.

3. You sometimes wear each other’s clothes. He thinks your dressing gown is comfy, and you know that his boxers are comfier than your own pants.

4. Embarrassment is no longer an issue in your relationship – you’ve even had a few burping competitions.

5. You’ve let him see you in your true form; wearing your favorite PJ’s, make-up free and smothered in moisturizer – and he thought you looked cute.

6. You know his family well, and you no longer worry about impressing them; you know they already like you.

7. You have tons of inside jokes, and often your conversations make no sense to other people.

Advertising

8. You actually find his gross habits kinda cute and endearing.

9. You know all of his favorite interests, and you are always finding funny videos and pictures that would make him laugh.

10. You have a favorite restaurant and a favorite takeaway – and it took many, many meals to settle on the best option.

11. You know each other so well that you would be able to tell if he was acting weird or strange.

12. Despite #11, you’ve never worried that he would do anything bad to you anyway.

13. You have a selection of excellent TV shows that you always watch together.

14. In fact, watching one of these TV shows without your boyfriend would be the easiest way to make him mad.

15. Sometimes you look at him while he is checking his phone, laughing or doing something else random, and you realize in that moment how much you love him.

Advertising

16. He knows everything he possibly could about your period, and he finds it interesting rather than weird.

17. You know his favorite snacks off by heart, and he knows yours.

18. You don’t talk to your boyfriend every day, but you do think about him every day.

19. He knows all of your co-workers by name, and he never forgets which ones you like and which ones you find annoying.

20. You have become experts at taking afternoon naps together.

21. You like to embrace your inner child with your boyfriend by watching cartoons and building forts.

22. You occasionally like to get crazy drunk with each other – even if you’re just sat at home.

23. You can have an entire conversation silently with facial movements if other people are around.

Advertising

24. Your play-fighting could actually be mistaken for real fighting.

25. You know each other’s favorite bands – even if you hate them.

26. You have hundreds of pictures together – and on most of them, you’re both pulling goofy faces.

27. You dislike people together.

28. You bring out each other’s competitive sides, so even the most boring board game becomes intense when you two play it.

29. You have a mental list of things you and your boyfriend want to do together, such as travelling and trying out the new Thai restaurant on your block.

30. You love each other’s pets like they are your own.

31. You like to create silly dance routines together in the house.

Advertising

32. You used to take showers together for intimacy.

33. Now you actually share showers because its practical and it is extra time to hang out together.

34. You both have extremely embarrassing pictures of each other.

35. You always know if your boyfriend has had a bad day at work, and how to make him feel better.

36. You know what his favorite alcohol is.

37. Your partner being sad makes you sad, and their happiness makes you happy.
What did you think of this list? Do you agree? Share this list with your boyfriend and see what he thinks!

More by this author

Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

10 Health Benefits Of Avocado If You Feel Trapped, Do These 9 Things To Take Your Life Back If You Feel Trapped, Do These 9 Things To Take Your Life Back This List of 50 Low-cost Hobbies Will Excite You Daily Routine of Successful People That Will Inspire You to Achieve More 15 Inspirational Weekend Activities to do by Yourself

Trending in Communication

1 19 Golden Pieces of Relationship Advice From the Experts 2 Signs Of Low Self-Esteem And The Root Causes You Might Not Know 3 How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship 4 How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future 5 This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

Advertising

The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

Advertising

If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

Advertising

In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

Advertising

It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

More Articles About Effective Communication

Featured photo credit: Kenan Buhic via unsplash.com

Reference

Read Next