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7 Signs He’s Not Just Your Boyfriend But Your Best Friend

7 Signs He’s Not Just Your Boyfriend But Your Best Friend

So having a boyfriend is great.. you get free compliments, a lot of cuddles, and something that’s not too bad to look at. But when do you know that your boyfriend has also become a best friend too? You’ve gone past the fussing about what to wear or which new lipstick to put on before you meet him or even worrying about why he hasn’t text back in the past half an hour, that’s because you’ve reached a new stage in the relationship that is a lot more natural. It’s called true friendship. So when do you know that you’ve gained not only an awesome boyfriend but a best friend? These are some of the most obvious signs:

1. You can complain to him about other people.

He’s almost like an “agony aunt” you can go to him when somebody’s annoyed you and he won’t judge you, in fact he’ll even join in. You’ll even create little characteristics and nicknames for people when you’re speaking about them.. “So Amy came in today.” “The one with nice hair but walks a bit funny?”

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2. He makes a hangover less painful.

The day after a night out when you’re feeling a little worse for wear is even (kind of?) enjoyable. This day is spent with you both in your pyjamas, Netflix on, holding a cup of tea and a bacon butty and laughing about the events of the night before. “Did you see Sarah getting with that weird bald guy who had a Star Trek tattoo?”

3. You send a picture.. the uglier, the better.

Long gone are the days of applying a bit of lippy or a smudge of foundation to make yourself look better for a shameless Snapchat selfie. The sillier the face, the funnier it is! You’re comfortable with him – he’s seen you without make up, slightly (majorly) drunk, and even hungover with one eyelash on your eye and the other stuck to your cheek and guess what? He still loves you!

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4. He looks after you when your on your period.

He might not understand the torture of bleeding for 4 days in a month and the horrible cramps and cravings for chocolate that come with it but he’s there. Ready with a good film, a lot of loving and a vast amount of carbs. And if he’s an extra good boyfriend, he might even nip to the shop for you for extra stock if you give him the puppy dog eyed look.

5. He’s easy going.

Why are men so relaxed and calm about everything?! Do they not realize that we’re 10 minutes late or that we have an exam tomorrow? Unfortunately for us girls we do get anxious and we do worry which is why it’s great to have a guy there. He calms you down and puts everything into a more positive perspective and has a more relaxed view on things. Hurrah!

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6. He compliments you.

Isn’t it great receiving compliments? One nice comment and suddenly your day seems a lot brighter. You put on an outfit you haven’t worn in a while and inside your worrying that it didn’t look as nice the first time you wore it but fear not there’s a gentle voice on your bed with the sweet words “You look really nice today babe.” Brownie boys for you Mister Boyfriend.

7. You don’t have to impress.

You’re at complete ease with him, you don’t feel like you have to put on an act or be somebody you’re not. Whether it be a day watching films together in sweats or a romantic meal at a nice restaurant, every date is a good one when it’s with him regardless of the price.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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