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7 Signs He’s Not Just Your Boyfriend But Your Best Friend

7 Signs He’s Not Just Your Boyfriend But Your Best Friend

So having a boyfriend is great.. you get free compliments, a lot of cuddles, and something that’s not too bad to look at. But when do you know that your boyfriend has also become a best friend too? You’ve gone past the fussing about what to wear or which new lipstick to put on before you meet him or even worrying about why he hasn’t text back in the past half an hour, that’s because you’ve reached a new stage in the relationship that is a lot more natural. It’s called true friendship. So when do you know that you’ve gained not only an awesome boyfriend but a best friend? These are some of the most obvious signs:

1. You can complain to him about other people.

He’s almost like an “agony aunt” you can go to him when somebody’s annoyed you and he won’t judge you, in fact he’ll even join in. You’ll even create little characteristics and nicknames for people when you’re speaking about them.. “So Amy came in today.” “The one with nice hair but walks a bit funny?”

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2. He makes a hangover less painful.

The day after a night out when you’re feeling a little worse for wear is even (kind of?) enjoyable. This day is spent with you both in your pyjamas, Netflix on, holding a cup of tea and a bacon butty and laughing about the events of the night before. “Did you see Sarah getting with that weird bald guy who had a Star Trek tattoo?”

3. You send a picture.. the uglier, the better.

Long gone are the days of applying a bit of lippy or a smudge of foundation to make yourself look better for a shameless Snapchat selfie. The sillier the face, the funnier it is! You’re comfortable with him – he’s seen you without make up, slightly (majorly) drunk, and even hungover with one eyelash on your eye and the other stuck to your cheek and guess what? He still loves you!

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4. He looks after you when your on your period.

He might not understand the torture of bleeding for 4 days in a month and the horrible cramps and cravings for chocolate that come with it but he’s there. Ready with a good film, a lot of loving and a vast amount of carbs. And if he’s an extra good boyfriend, he might even nip to the shop for you for extra stock if you give him the puppy dog eyed look.

5. He’s easy going.

Why are men so relaxed and calm about everything?! Do they not realize that we’re 10 minutes late or that we have an exam tomorrow? Unfortunately for us girls we do get anxious and we do worry which is why it’s great to have a guy there. He calms you down and puts everything into a more positive perspective and has a more relaxed view on things. Hurrah!

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6. He compliments you.

Isn’t it great receiving compliments? One nice comment and suddenly your day seems a lot brighter. You put on an outfit you haven’t worn in a while and inside your worrying that it didn’t look as nice the first time you wore it but fear not there’s a gentle voice on your bed with the sweet words “You look really nice today babe.” Brownie boys for you Mister Boyfriend.

7. You don’t have to impress.

You’re at complete ease with him, you don’t feel like you have to put on an act or be somebody you’re not. Whether it be a day watching films together in sweats or a romantic meal at a nice restaurant, every date is a good one when it’s with him regardless of the price.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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