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Why It’s Perfectly OK Not To Have Kids

Why It’s Perfectly OK Not To Have Kids

Why should everyone be a parent? Or why should everyone be responsible for another person? We all are not the same in perceptions and reasoning. There are good reasons to not have children and it is perfectly alright if you really want to do your thing and make a mark on your environment even without kids. Here are some benefits from not having any children.

You are free

Whether it is traveling and going to destinations like Ibiza, Rabat, or Bangkok, when you do not have kids you’re more responsible for yourself and your pleasures. You really could pursue goals out of freedom, passion, and curiosity.

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You are less pressured

Of course with kids you want to be the ideal parent or someone your little one can look up to. When you have children there is the challenge of putting your children first and giving to them what they need to become better adults in the society.That pressure is not what everyone can deal with or feel comfortable with.

You have fewer choices to make

We all have different opinions on choices. For some, making too many choices is not their thing. They simply want to streamline and keep decision making as minimal as possible. However, with kids you don’t do that. Your choices can be one thing, which has to be considerate of them, and making choices for them can be another thing.

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The world is not really a nice place

Truthfully, not everything comes fairly these days. There are a lot of factors that are working against our society from global inequality to climate change. Certainly, there are so many horrors to deal with and you may be attentive or reflective enough not to bring a child into a world that is pretty far from perfect.

There is already a population that is out of control

There are a lot of cities with overcrowding already. There are also environmental concerns to worry about. For some, overpopulation is great. But beyond this debate, we can all agree that there is a rapidly growing population globally. You really may not want to add to a population crisis.

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You really may want to divert your funds to some other avenue

The average cost of raising a child in the United States is a quarter of a million dollars. You have to consider a lot of costs when it comes to raising kids. There are medical bills to pay, educational fees, and many others that could add up to a lot when raising children. All that money can be diverted into retirement funds or charitable causes.

You can find fulfillment in so many ways

Many consider having kids as a major way of finding fulfillment in our world today. Yes, this can be true; however, there are other ways one can seek fulfillment. You may find it by pursuing a career, or find delight in adventure, or engaging in creative pursuits. It doesn’t have to be simply through having children. We all have different ways of finding fulfillment.

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You really can build adult relationships

Not everyone is excited to listen to the sound of bickering from a bunch of noisy kids. Yes, children come with their own excitement, energy, and amusement, but some of us would really love to keep the relationships around us more mature and more intellectual. Such peace and serenity of being with people that have that mature intellectual ability may be what distinguishes you as an individual from others who are parents. You really are more selective in your relationships. It is not as if you are egotistical about it, it is just what tickles you and makes you happy.

At the end of the day, it is left for you to choose. Parenthood is pretty awesome for some, and there is nothing wrong with that. That said, you should also see the world from the perspective of those who do not want to have children.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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