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Why It’s Perfectly OK Not To Have Kids

Why It’s Perfectly OK Not To Have Kids

Why should everyone be a parent? Or why should everyone be responsible for another person? We all are not the same in perceptions and reasoning. There are good reasons to not have children and it is perfectly alright if you really want to do your thing and make a mark on your environment even without kids. Here are some benefits from not having any children.

You are free

Whether it is traveling and going to destinations like Ibiza, Rabat, or Bangkok, when you do not have kids you’re more responsible for yourself and your pleasures. You really could pursue goals out of freedom, passion, and curiosity.

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You are less pressured

Of course with kids you want to be the ideal parent or someone your little one can look up to. When you have children there is the challenge of putting your children first and giving to them what they need to become better adults in the society.That pressure is not what everyone can deal with or feel comfortable with.

You have fewer choices to make

We all have different opinions on choices. For some, making too many choices is not their thing. They simply want to streamline and keep decision making as minimal as possible. However, with kids you don’t do that. Your choices can be one thing, which has to be considerate of them, and making choices for them can be another thing.

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The world is not really a nice place

Truthfully, not everything comes fairly these days. There are a lot of factors that are working against our society from global inequality to climate change. Certainly, there are so many horrors to deal with and you may be attentive or reflective enough not to bring a child into a world that is pretty far from perfect.

There is already a population that is out of control

There are a lot of cities with overcrowding already. There are also environmental concerns to worry about. For some, overpopulation is great. But beyond this debate, we can all agree that there is a rapidly growing population globally. You really may not want to add to a population crisis.

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You really may want to divert your funds to some other avenue

The average cost of raising a child in the United States is a quarter of a million dollars. You have to consider a lot of costs when it comes to raising kids. There are medical bills to pay, educational fees, and many others that could add up to a lot when raising children. All that money can be diverted into retirement funds or charitable causes.

You can find fulfillment in so many ways

Many consider having kids as a major way of finding fulfillment in our world today. Yes, this can be true; however, there are other ways one can seek fulfillment. You may find it by pursuing a career, or find delight in adventure, or engaging in creative pursuits. It doesn’t have to be simply through having children. We all have different ways of finding fulfillment.

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You really can build adult relationships

Not everyone is excited to listen to the sound of bickering from a bunch of noisy kids. Yes, children come with their own excitement, energy, and amusement, but some of us would really love to keep the relationships around us more mature and more intellectual. Such peace and serenity of being with people that have that mature intellectual ability may be what distinguishes you as an individual from others who are parents. You really are more selective in your relationships. It is not as if you are egotistical about it, it is just what tickles you and makes you happy.

At the end of the day, it is left for you to choose. Parenthood is pretty awesome for some, and there is nothing wrong with that. That said, you should also see the world from the perspective of those who do not want to have children.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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