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10 Wildly Successful People Explain Why You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection

10 Wildly Successful People Explain Why You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection

No one likes rejection – especially not the idea of outright failure. If you are worried about either of these negative concepts, don’t fret. Some of the most successful people in the world, and throughout history in general, have experienced a series of rejections that made it seem like they would never get to where they are today. Don’t believe me? Here are ten people who might disagree with you:

1. Oprah Winfrey

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    The queen bee of television herself has nothing less than a heartbreaking past. Oprah started out being molested by several members of her own family and trapped in a dysfunctional and abusive nightmare that would challenge anyone. Her young life was a heartbreaking and serious one, especially considering that she had to endure losing her own child. Oprah gave birth at 14 years old and the child unfortunately did not live for long. Despite her more than rough beginnings, Oprah has worked her way to a net worth of 2.9 billion USD and is a beacon of hope to all those in need.

    2. Walt Disney

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      The king of animation and the original Mousekateer did not have a smooth ride to the top. In fact, he started out his career by being fired from a newspaper for “not being creative enough.” Let that sink in for a moment. His initial Mickey Mouse cartoons were also rejected for being too scary for women (no stools or tables around to jump on, I guess). The point stands – if Walt had listened to his naysayers and had given up, the movies of our childhoods, the animation industry, and the arts as a whole would have a serious hole left in them.

      3. Stephen King

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        The author of horror galore is one of the most prolific and profitable writers of our time. Millions of books sold and many of them turned into motion pictures – King is living a writer’s dream. Stephen King actually got his start having his first novel turned down thirty times, enough that he chucked it in the trash. Fortunately for him, and for fans of his worldwide, his wife encouraged him to pick it back up and keep working on it. With her encouragement, King would go on to produce his very first work in a long line, Carrie.

        4. Theodore Giesel aka Dr. Seuss

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          Another prolific writer and artist, Theodore Giesel got as much of a rocky start as Stephen King did. His attempts to write a novel that publishing companies would find enticing failed a total of 27 times, with each one calling his novel “pure rubbish.” Giesel refused to quit, thankfully. It was by chance that he ran into an old friend that had taken over as a children’s literature editor who agreed to publish his work. The now famous “Dr. Seuss” refused to give up, and probably had a good laugh after his first book saw major success – he always was a bit of a rebel.

          5. Albert Einstein

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            Before we get too ahead of ourselves: no, him failing algrebra was just a myth. However, the certified genius did get a lot of flack in school for not speaking to anyone until he was four years old and asking abstract questions that made no sense to his teachers or his peers. In short, they assumed that he was lazy and had no interest in understanding the material. Now, the situation has been flipped with his theory of relativity being a sticking point in science. His work helped advance several fields and Einstein is now not only a scientific legend but a nickname for someone who is very smart.

            6. Steve Jobs

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              Now, here is a familiar name that many of you will applaud. Steve Jobs, a known innovator, got his start by being fired from an early job for trying to think outside of the box. Instead of giving up, Steve went full force with his ideas, creating the Apple line of computers and machinery and even helping give birth to the animation giant Pixar, working closely with founder John Lasseter on the very first 3D graphic picture Toy Story. Steve Jobs turned a profit on every single endeavor that he ever put his mind to, creating a culture of artists and innovators that wanted to follow in his footsteps.

              7. Michael Jordan

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                Everyone who has seen Space Jam remembers the scene of a young Michael Jordan outlining his dreams to his father while throwing a basketball. Ignoring the whole Looney Tunes bit, that scene is exceptionally accurate to how Michael wanted his life to go. Unfortunately, and try your best to picture this, he got turned down frequently because prospective coaches found that he was just too short for basketball. Even using his wits to get to a basketball camp got him nowhere except further disheartened. Instead of giving up, he decided to prove those who didn’t believe in him wrong. Looking back at his career as an NBA hall-of-famer, it’s easy to see that he succeeded.

                8. Benjamin Franklin

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                  You might not expect one of the USA founding fathers to be on this list, but Ben Franklin really is the spirit of what some ingenuity and hard work can do. His family could not finance his education past an elementary level, but a young Ben did not let that deter him. Instead, he spent his time pouring over as many books as he could get his hands on. The knowledge-hungry young man would eventually turn into an accomplished inventor, politician, and founding-father of America – you can’t ask for much more.

                  9. Henry Ford

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                    The innovator, inventor, and big name in the automotive industry didn’t start out with a smooth journey. Well known for starting the Ford Motor Company and creating the innovative automotive assembly line, Ford actually lost more businesses than he could keep up initially. His failed companies left him broke a total of five times before he finally got the Ford Motor Company up and running. That’s some determination right there.

                    10. Winston Churchill

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                      The sharp, quick-witted figure is a stoic man in history – but he didn’t get there without plenty of setbacks. In school, he saw many failures, including failing out of the sixth grade. Now recognized as a Nobel Peace Prize winner and powerful Prime Minister of the UK, Churchill actually lost a plethora of elections in his career. He wouldn’t become Prime Minister until he was 62 years old. You have to give the old guy some credit though, he was as wiley as ever, no matter how old he got, and is now regarded highly worldwide.

                      For those out there who are feeling disheartened, just remember that all of these people had to pay some serious dues and overcome quite a few trials before they found success. The key always seems to be, as Walt Disney put it, to “keep moving forward.”

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                      Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

                      Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

                      How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

                      Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

                      The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

                      Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

                      Perceptual Barrier

                      The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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                      The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

                      The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

                      Attitudinal Barrier

                      Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

                      The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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                      The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

                      Language Barrier

                      This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

                      The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

                      The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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                      Emotional Barrier

                      Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

                      The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

                      The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

                      Cultural Barrier

                      Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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                      The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

                      The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

                      Gender Barrier

                      Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

                      The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

                      The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

                      And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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