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10 Wildly Successful People Explain Why You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection

10 Wildly Successful People Explain Why You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection

No one likes rejection – especially not the idea of outright failure. If you are worried about either of these negative concepts, don’t fret. Some of the most successful people in the world, and throughout history in general, have experienced a series of rejections that made it seem like they would never get to where they are today. Don’t believe me? Here are ten people who might disagree with you:

1. Oprah Winfrey

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    The queen bee of television herself has nothing less than a heartbreaking past. Oprah started out being molested by several members of her own family and trapped in a dysfunctional and abusive nightmare that would challenge anyone. Her young life was a heartbreaking and serious one, especially considering that she had to endure losing her own child. Oprah gave birth at 14 years old and the child unfortunately did not live for long. Despite her more than rough beginnings, Oprah has worked her way to a net worth of 2.9 billion USD and is a beacon of hope to all those in need.

    2. Walt Disney

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      The king of animation and the original Mousekateer did not have a smooth ride to the top. In fact, he started out his career by being fired from a newspaper for “not being creative enough.” Let that sink in for a moment. His initial Mickey Mouse cartoons were also rejected for being too scary for women (no stools or tables around to jump on, I guess). The point stands – if Walt had listened to his naysayers and had given up, the movies of our childhoods, the animation industry, and the arts as a whole would have a serious hole left in them.

      3. Stephen King

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        The author of horror galore is one of the most prolific and profitable writers of our time. Millions of books sold and many of them turned into motion pictures – King is living a writer’s dream. Stephen King actually got his start having his first novel turned down thirty times, enough that he chucked it in the trash. Fortunately for him, and for fans of his worldwide, his wife encouraged him to pick it back up and keep working on it. With her encouragement, King would go on to produce his very first work in a long line, Carrie.

        4. Theodore Giesel aka Dr. Seuss

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          Another prolific writer and artist, Theodore Giesel got as much of a rocky start as Stephen King did. His attempts to write a novel that publishing companies would find enticing failed a total of 27 times, with each one calling his novel “pure rubbish.” Giesel refused to quit, thankfully. It was by chance that he ran into an old friend that had taken over as a children’s literature editor who agreed to publish his work. The now famous “Dr. Seuss” refused to give up, and probably had a good laugh after his first book saw major success – he always was a bit of a rebel.

          5. Albert Einstein

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            Before we get too ahead of ourselves: no, him failing algrebra was just a myth. However, the certified genius did get a lot of flack in school for not speaking to anyone until he was four years old and asking abstract questions that made no sense to his teachers or his peers. In short, they assumed that he was lazy and had no interest in understanding the material. Now, the situation has been flipped with his theory of relativity being a sticking point in science. His work helped advance several fields and Einstein is now not only a scientific legend but a nickname for someone who is very smart.

            6. Steve Jobs

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              Now, here is a familiar name that many of you will applaud. Steve Jobs, a known innovator, got his start by being fired from an early job for trying to think outside of the box. Instead of giving up, Steve went full force with his ideas, creating the Apple line of computers and machinery and even helping give birth to the animation giant Pixar, working closely with founder John Lasseter on the very first 3D graphic picture Toy Story. Steve Jobs turned a profit on every single endeavor that he ever put his mind to, creating a culture of artists and innovators that wanted to follow in his footsteps.

              7. Michael Jordan

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                Everyone who has seen Space Jam remembers the scene of a young Michael Jordan outlining his dreams to his father while throwing a basketball. Ignoring the whole Looney Tunes bit, that scene is exceptionally accurate to how Michael wanted his life to go. Unfortunately, and try your best to picture this, he got turned down frequently because prospective coaches found that he was just too short for basketball. Even using his wits to get to a basketball camp got him nowhere except further disheartened. Instead of giving up, he decided to prove those who didn’t believe in him wrong. Looking back at his career as an NBA hall-of-famer, it’s easy to see that he succeeded.

                8. Benjamin Franklin

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                  You might not expect one of the USA founding fathers to be on this list, but Ben Franklin really is the spirit of what some ingenuity and hard work can do. His family could not finance his education past an elementary level, but a young Ben did not let that deter him. Instead, he spent his time pouring over as many books as he could get his hands on. The knowledge-hungry young man would eventually turn into an accomplished inventor, politician, and founding-father of America – you can’t ask for much more.

                  9. Henry Ford

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                    The innovator, inventor, and big name in the automotive industry didn’t start out with a smooth journey. Well known for starting the Ford Motor Company and creating the innovative automotive assembly line, Ford actually lost more businesses than he could keep up initially. His failed companies left him broke a total of five times before he finally got the Ford Motor Company up and running. That’s some determination right there.

                    10. Winston Churchill

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                      The sharp, quick-witted figure is a stoic man in history – but he didn’t get there without plenty of setbacks. In school, he saw many failures, including failing out of the sixth grade. Now recognized as a Nobel Peace Prize winner and powerful Prime Minister of the UK, Churchill actually lost a plethora of elections in his career. He wouldn’t become Prime Minister until he was 62 years old. You have to give the old guy some credit though, he was as wiley as ever, no matter how old he got, and is now regarded highly worldwide.

                      For those out there who are feeling disheartened, just remember that all of these people had to pay some serious dues and overcome quite a few trials before they found success. The key always seems to be, as Walt Disney put it, to “keep moving forward.”

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One of the hardest parts, and the most obvious, of achieving success is the actual work. Procrastinating, making excuses or tricking yourself into loafing is just going to cement the fact that nothing will ever get done. It might not sound pretty, or even too easy, but the easiest way to get to success is to just jump in and get going (which is exactly how I got started). 2. Blaming It's not your fault you're not successful – the industry is bad, you don't have the money, etc, etc. When it comes down to it, however, who is the one responsible for your success? You. This is the day and age where people are launching successful start-ups in a few months, getting published online and finding their way to success one way or another. Some things might be out of your control, but blaming others is just going to waste the energy and time you need to get going. 3. Sour-grapes Being envious of the success of others is almost as bad as blaming them. 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Talking about your goals and what you're going to accomplish is all well and good, but talking time is better spent actually doing. Talking about your goals has actually been shown to make you less likely to reach them, so zip up those chattering lips and dive in. 6. Making assumptions You know what they say about the word ‘assume’, it makes (a word I’ll leave out of this article) out of ‘u’ and ‘me’ . Unsuccessful people are the best at making assumptions without considering other outlets or opportunities. Missed chance after missed chance can put anyone behind or completely ruin something that you poured a lot of hard work into. People are often surprised at what happens if they take a chance instead of listening to that little pessimist inside their heads. ‘Never assume’ is good advice and it is a mindset you should get out of as quickly as possible. 7. Procrastinating This one is obvious, isn't it? 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                      How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                      How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                      They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                      In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                      How to Spot Fake People?

                      When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                      Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                      1. Full of Themselves

                      Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                      Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                      2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                      Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                      It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                      3. Zero Self-Reflection

                      To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                      Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                      4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                      Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                      A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                      5. Love Attention

                      As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                      6. People Pleaser

                      Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                      Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                      7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                      Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                      8. Crappy friend

                      Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                      It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                      The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                      How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                      It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                      There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                      1. Boundaries

                      Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                      2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                      Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                      3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                      If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                      4. Ask for Advice

                      If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                      Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                      5. Dig Deeper

                      Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                      Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                      6. Practice Self-Care!

                      Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                      Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                      Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                      Final Thoughts

                      Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                      We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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