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10 Wildly Successful People Explain Why You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection

10 Wildly Successful People Explain Why You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection

No one likes rejection – especially not the idea of outright failure. If you are worried about either of these negative concepts, don’t fret. Some of the most successful people in the world, and throughout history in general, have experienced a series of rejections that made it seem like they would never get to where they are today. Don’t believe me? Here are ten people who might disagree with you:

1. Oprah Winfrey

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    The queen bee of television herself has nothing less than a heartbreaking past. Oprah started out being molested by several members of her own family and trapped in a dysfunctional and abusive nightmare that would challenge anyone. Her young life was a heartbreaking and serious one, especially considering that she had to endure losing her own child. Oprah gave birth at 14 years old and the child unfortunately did not live for long. Despite her more than rough beginnings, Oprah has worked her way to a net worth of 2.9 billion USD and is a beacon of hope to all those in need.

    2. Walt Disney

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      The king of animation and the original Mousekateer did not have a smooth ride to the top. In fact, he started out his career by being fired from a newspaper for “not being creative enough.” Let that sink in for a moment. His initial Mickey Mouse cartoons were also rejected for being too scary for women (no stools or tables around to jump on, I guess). The point stands – if Walt had listened to his naysayers and had given up, the movies of our childhoods, the animation industry, and the arts as a whole would have a serious hole left in them.

      3. Stephen King

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        The author of horror galore is one of the most prolific and profitable writers of our time. Millions of books sold and many of them turned into motion pictures – King is living a writer’s dream. Stephen King actually got his start having his first novel turned down thirty times, enough that he chucked it in the trash. Fortunately for him, and for fans of his worldwide, his wife encouraged him to pick it back up and keep working on it. With her encouragement, King would go on to produce his very first work in a long line, Carrie.

        4. Theodore Giesel aka Dr. Seuss

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          Another prolific writer and artist, Theodore Giesel got as much of a rocky start as Stephen King did. His attempts to write a novel that publishing companies would find enticing failed a total of 27 times, with each one calling his novel “pure rubbish.” Giesel refused to quit, thankfully. It was by chance that he ran into an old friend that had taken over as a children’s literature editor who agreed to publish his work. The now famous “Dr. Seuss” refused to give up, and probably had a good laugh after his first book saw major success – he always was a bit of a rebel.

          5. Albert Einstein

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            Before we get too ahead of ourselves: no, him failing algrebra was just a myth. However, the certified genius did get a lot of flack in school for not speaking to anyone until he was four years old and asking abstract questions that made no sense to his teachers or his peers. In short, they assumed that he was lazy and had no interest in understanding the material. Now, the situation has been flipped with his theory of relativity being a sticking point in science. His work helped advance several fields and Einstein is now not only a scientific legend but a nickname for someone who is very smart.

            6. Steve Jobs

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              Now, here is a familiar name that many of you will applaud. Steve Jobs, a known innovator, got his start by being fired from an early job for trying to think outside of the box. Instead of giving up, Steve went full force with his ideas, creating the Apple line of computers and machinery and even helping give birth to the animation giant Pixar, working closely with founder John Lasseter on the very first 3D graphic picture Toy Story. Steve Jobs turned a profit on every single endeavor that he ever put his mind to, creating a culture of artists and innovators that wanted to follow in his footsteps.

              7. Michael Jordan

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                Everyone who has seen Space Jam remembers the scene of a young Michael Jordan outlining his dreams to his father while throwing a basketball. Ignoring the whole Looney Tunes bit, that scene is exceptionally accurate to how Michael wanted his life to go. Unfortunately, and try your best to picture this, he got turned down frequently because prospective coaches found that he was just too short for basketball. Even using his wits to get to a basketball camp got him nowhere except further disheartened. Instead of giving up, he decided to prove those who didn’t believe in him wrong. Looking back at his career as an NBA hall-of-famer, it’s easy to see that he succeeded.

                8. Benjamin Franklin

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                  You might not expect one of the USA founding fathers to be on this list, but Ben Franklin really is the spirit of what some ingenuity and hard work can do. His family could not finance his education past an elementary level, but a young Ben did not let that deter him. Instead, he spent his time pouring over as many books as he could get his hands on. The knowledge-hungry young man would eventually turn into an accomplished inventor, politician, and founding-father of America – you can’t ask for much more.

                  9. Henry Ford

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                    The innovator, inventor, and big name in the automotive industry didn’t start out with a smooth journey. Well known for starting the Ford Motor Company and creating the innovative automotive assembly line, Ford actually lost more businesses than he could keep up initially. His failed companies left him broke a total of five times before he finally got the Ford Motor Company up and running. That’s some determination right there.

                    10. Winston Churchill

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                      The sharp, quick-witted figure is a stoic man in history – but he didn’t get there without plenty of setbacks. In school, he saw many failures, including failing out of the sixth grade. Now recognized as a Nobel Peace Prize winner and powerful Prime Minister of the UK, Churchill actually lost a plethora of elections in his career. He wouldn’t become Prime Minister until he was 62 years old. You have to give the old guy some credit though, he was as wiley as ever, no matter how old he got, and is now regarded highly worldwide.

                      For those out there who are feeling disheartened, just remember that all of these people had to pay some serious dues and overcome quite a few trials before they found success. The key always seems to be, as Walt Disney put it, to “keep moving forward.”

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                      12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

                      12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

                      The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

                      However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

                      “Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

                      Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

                      1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

                      When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

                      Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

                      2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

                      That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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                      Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

                      3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

                      If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

                      For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

                      People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

                      This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

                      4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

                      Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

                      Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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                      Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

                      Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

                      “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

                      5. Crack a smile.

                      If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

                      Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

                      6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

                      Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

                      And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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                      7. Groom yourself.

                      This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

                      A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

                      8. Dress nicely.

                      Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

                      While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

                      9. Do activities you enjoy.

                      Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

                      You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

                      10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

                      Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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                      Why?

                      Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

                      Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

                      Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

                      11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

                      Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

                      Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

                      12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

                      Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

                      The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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