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All Independent Women Want Their Partners Know These 6 Things

All Independent Women Want Their Partners Know These 6 Things

Independent women should be considered a treasure to be with for many reasons. If you are lucky enough to be a partner to an independent woman, you know she’s playing for keeps. Independent women don’t need a partner to thrive so when they find someone special, they allow themselves to be a part of your life. The love is legitimate and her commitment to you is a coveted gift that you should never take for granted. She takes care of herself and has the strength to take care of you too if necessary.

Here are 6 things all independent women want their partners to know:

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1. We Thrive When We Feel Free

If you are with an independent woman, one of the most important elements to the success of your relationship is allowing her to be who she is. Accept that your partner has a greater need for feeling free. It in no way means they love you less, just because they might not want to hang out with you every night. If she wants to go on a vacation alone or with her girlfriends, she’ll appreciate it when you allow her the freedom to do so.

2. We Stay Close to Our Partner When We’re Given Space

Independent women that are given the space they need to thrive will tend to stay closer to their partner by choice. They will appreciate that you honor their independence and give you much in return. Independent women have a good sense of self and have so much to offer. What they expect in return is that you believe in their ability to take care of themselves and that you support them on their journey. She will appreciate the space you allow her and through your actions, she will know you truly love her.

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3. We Like Taking Care of Ourselves

Independent women like taking care of themselves; it’s a personal choice and personality trait that they’re proud to have. Going for walks, to a movie or even to dinner by themselves is easy for them. They buy their own jewelry, open doors for themselves and pump their own gas. They succeed in finance and in relationships because they depend on themselves. She is extremely proud to make her own money and make her own way in the world. She will rarely, if ever, rely on you for things she can do herself. Many times, she will do more for you than she expects you to do for her.

4. We are Emotionally Stable

Women who live their life the way they want to are emotional stable. She doesn’t sweat the small stuff and won’t let little things in life break her confidence. She knows who she is and is comfortable with herself. Due to her true and genuine nature, she is comforting to be around. When she does make a mistake (because she’s a risk taker), she won’t put blame on others. She is accountable for her own life and accepts situations.

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5. We Honor Your Space

As an independent woman, she will honor you and your space. She will give you all the Independence you need and support your personal endeavors. She will do this because she knows how it feels to her to have that support. She believes in your strengths and you ability to handle life, just as she does.

Although independent women value their independence, they still require the same amount of support and love that any woman wants. Independent women also love deeply, passionately and offer support to their partners. They don’t play games as a rule and are genuine people that want the best for the people they love. They don’t suck energy from you or take advantage of you. If your partner is an independent woman, she is with you because she wants to be and not because she needs to be.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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