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Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

No woman wants to leave the man she loves. Of course, she will feel terrible about it. It takes courage and a resolute spirit to walk away. Commitment comes at a price. A woman would love it if her man stuck around, did not cause her pain and was always the ideal man she loved in the first place. For a woman to continue stay in a relationship, the man has to learn how to value the woman and make her an important part of his world. Here are some reasons why women leave the men they love:

He lies

He may be a decent man, but lying breeds dishonesty and a tense environment. If he lies and makes it apparent that he is taking her for granted by lying to her, she should walk out on him.

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He is always working

Many women love luxury to come with their relationship with a man. It could be a nice car, a nice apartment or a trip to Paris. What lady doesn’t respect and love a man with drive and ambition? But this drive can’t put the relationship in jeopardy. Women love to see you, check in with you, and talk to you. Spending time with your woman could be the most important luxury in a relationship, and should not be taken for granted.

He is not attentive

Sometimes what a woman wants is for you to listen, to be attentive and for you to understand what she is about to say even when she has not said it. A woman loves an attentive man. But if the man is always caught up in his world, and never connects with his woman emotionally, things could go south.

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He is impassive

No woman adores a man who is bland or tasteless. He must not only be able to tell her he loves her – he has to show it. He has to prove it and be passionate about it.

He is immature

A woman needs someone who they can respect, not some man who has failed to abandon his childish habits. A woman wants someone who can stand up to his responsibilities. There is nothing great in having a man who still makes stupid decisions with his friends every now and then, or gets his mother’s opinion on everything he wants to do. Long term relationships require maturity, and a woman will look for that in her partner.

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He is selfish

I met a lady who told me this was the one reason she abandoned her man: he was selfish. Being selfish showed he was cheap, and could never go the extra mile to please his woman. It is cool if a man is trying to be frugal with his money, but when a man starts looking for free drink specials at a local bar every time he goes on a date, then he really is cheap and not just frugal. He’s more concerned with saving small amounts than his partner’s happiness.

He is secretive

A woman likes to know what a man is up to. A relationship needs trust and communication. But when the man starts hiding who he is or pretending to be what he is not, it turns a lady off and makes her uncomfortable in the relationship.

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Though these are some reasons a woman would leave a man she loves, not all women respond the same way to a particular crisis in a relationship. Some will stay put, others will become intolerant and leave. But for the man, it is always best to avoid a situation that will cause a divide between him and the woman who loves him.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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