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Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

No woman wants to leave the man she loves. Of course, she will feel terrible about it. It takes courage and a resolute spirit to walk away. Commitment comes at a price. A woman would love it if her man stuck around, did not cause her pain and was always the ideal man she loved in the first place. For a woman to continue stay in a relationship, the man has to learn how to value the woman and make her an important part of his world. Here are some reasons why women leave the men they love:

He lies

He may be a decent man, but lying breeds dishonesty and a tense environment. If he lies and makes it apparent that he is taking her for granted by lying to her, she should walk out on him.

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He is always working

Many women love luxury to come with their relationship with a man. It could be a nice car, a nice apartment or a trip to Paris. What lady doesn’t respect and love a man with drive and ambition? But this drive can’t put the relationship in jeopardy. Women love to see you, check in with you, and talk to you. Spending time with your woman could be the most important luxury in a relationship, and should not be taken for granted.

He is not attentive

Sometimes what a woman wants is for you to listen, to be attentive and for you to understand what she is about to say even when she has not said it. A woman loves an attentive man. But if the man is always caught up in his world, and never connects with his woman emotionally, things could go south.

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He is impassive

No woman adores a man who is bland or tasteless. He must not only be able to tell her he loves her – he has to show it. He has to prove it and be passionate about it.

He is immature

A woman needs someone who they can respect, not some man who has failed to abandon his childish habits. A woman wants someone who can stand up to his responsibilities. There is nothing great in having a man who still makes stupid decisions with his friends every now and then, or gets his mother’s opinion on everything he wants to do. Long term relationships require maturity, and a woman will look for that in her partner.

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He is selfish

I met a lady who told me this was the one reason she abandoned her man: he was selfish. Being selfish showed he was cheap, and could never go the extra mile to please his woman. It is cool if a man is trying to be frugal with his money, but when a man starts looking for free drink specials at a local bar every time he goes on a date, then he really is cheap and not just frugal. He’s more concerned with saving small amounts than his partner’s happiness.

He is secretive

A woman likes to know what a man is up to. A relationship needs trust and communication. But when the man starts hiding who he is or pretending to be what he is not, it turns a lady off and makes her uncomfortable in the relationship.

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Though these are some reasons a woman would leave a man she loves, not all women respond the same way to a particular crisis in a relationship. Some will stay put, others will become intolerant and leave. But for the man, it is always best to avoid a situation that will cause a divide between him and the woman who loves him.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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