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Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

No woman wants to leave the man she loves. Of course, she will feel terrible about it. It takes courage and a resolute spirit to walk away. Commitment comes at a price. A woman would love it if her man stuck around, did not cause her pain and was always the ideal man she loved in the first place. For a woman to continue stay in a relationship, the man has to learn how to value the woman and make her an important part of his world. Here are some reasons why women leave the men they love:

He lies

He may be a decent man, but lying breeds dishonesty and a tense environment. If he lies and makes it apparent that he is taking her for granted by lying to her, she should walk out on him.

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He is always working

Many women love luxury to come with their relationship with a man. It could be a nice car, a nice apartment or a trip to Paris. What lady doesn’t respect and love a man with drive and ambition? But this drive can’t put the relationship in jeopardy. Women love to see you, check in with you, and talk to you. Spending time with your woman could be the most important luxury in a relationship, and should not be taken for granted.

He is not attentive

Sometimes what a woman wants is for you to listen, to be attentive and for you to understand what she is about to say even when she has not said it. A woman loves an attentive man. But if the man is always caught up in his world, and never connects with his woman emotionally, things could go south.

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He is impassive

No woman adores a man who is bland or tasteless. He must not only be able to tell her he loves her – he has to show it. He has to prove it and be passionate about it.

He is immature

A woman needs someone who they can respect, not some man who has failed to abandon his childish habits. A woman wants someone who can stand up to his responsibilities. There is nothing great in having a man who still makes stupid decisions with his friends every now and then, or gets his mother’s opinion on everything he wants to do. Long term relationships require maturity, and a woman will look for that in her partner.

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He is selfish

I met a lady who told me this was the one reason she abandoned her man: he was selfish. Being selfish showed he was cheap, and could never go the extra mile to please his woman. It is cool if a man is trying to be frugal with his money, but when a man starts looking for free drink specials at a local bar every time he goes on a date, then he really is cheap and not just frugal. He’s more concerned with saving small amounts than his partner’s happiness.

He is secretive

A woman likes to know what a man is up to. A relationship needs trust and communication. But when the man starts hiding who he is or pretending to be what he is not, it turns a lady off and makes her uncomfortable in the relationship.

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Though these are some reasons a woman would leave a man she loves, not all women respond the same way to a particular crisis in a relationship. Some will stay put, others will become intolerant and leave. But for the man, it is always best to avoid a situation that will cause a divide between him and the woman who loves him.

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Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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