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Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

Yes, It Hurts. Why Women Leave The Men They Love

No woman wants to leave the man she loves. Of course, she will feel terrible about it. It takes courage and a resolute spirit to walk away. Commitment comes at a price. A woman would love it if her man stuck around, did not cause her pain and was always the ideal man she loved in the first place. For a woman to continue stay in a relationship, the man has to learn how to value the woman and make her an important part of his world. Here are some reasons why women leave the men they love:

He lies

He may be a decent man, but lying breeds dishonesty and a tense environment. If he lies and makes it apparent that he is taking her for granted by lying to her, she should walk out on him.

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He is always working

Many women love luxury to come with their relationship with a man. It could be a nice car, a nice apartment or a trip to Paris. What lady doesn’t respect and love a man with drive and ambition? But this drive can’t put the relationship in jeopardy. Women love to see you, check in with you, and talk to you. Spending time with your woman could be the most important luxury in a relationship, and should not be taken for granted.

He is not attentive

Sometimes what a woman wants is for you to listen, to be attentive and for you to understand what she is about to say even when she has not said it. A woman loves an attentive man. But if the man is always caught up in his world, and never connects with his woman emotionally, things could go south.

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He is impassive

No woman adores a man who is bland or tasteless. He must not only be able to tell her he loves her – he has to show it. He has to prove it and be passionate about it.

He is immature

A woman needs someone who they can respect, not some man who has failed to abandon his childish habits. A woman wants someone who can stand up to his responsibilities. There is nothing great in having a man who still makes stupid decisions with his friends every now and then, or gets his mother’s opinion on everything he wants to do. Long term relationships require maturity, and a woman will look for that in her partner.

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He is selfish

I met a lady who told me this was the one reason she abandoned her man: he was selfish. Being selfish showed he was cheap, and could never go the extra mile to please his woman. It is cool if a man is trying to be frugal with his money, but when a man starts looking for free drink specials at a local bar every time he goes on a date, then he really is cheap and not just frugal. He’s more concerned with saving small amounts than his partner’s happiness.

He is secretive

A woman likes to know what a man is up to. A relationship needs trust and communication. But when the man starts hiding who he is or pretending to be what he is not, it turns a lady off and makes her uncomfortable in the relationship.

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Though these are some reasons a woman would leave a man she loves, not all women respond the same way to a particular crisis in a relationship. Some will stay put, others will become intolerant and leave. But for the man, it is always best to avoid a situation that will cause a divide between him and the woman who loves him.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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