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15 Times You Realized You Were Raised By Really Strict Parents

15 Times You Realized You Were Raised By Really Strict Parents

Were you raised by really strict parents? From having to ask permission to go somewhere weeks before the actual event to making sure your parents were definitely in a good mood when you did ask, being raised by strict parents really was a minefield.

Check out 15 times you realized you were raised by really strict parents here.

1. Piercings Were A No-Go

Your parents hated piercings, and you would never have dared to ask for a belly button piercing, never mind a facial piercing like your nose or eyebrow. Getting your earlobes pierced was as far as your strict parents were willing to stretch – and even then they thought they were being pretty laid-back about it.

2. You Always Changed The Channel If Your Parents Came In While You Were Watching TV

If you heard your parents in the hall, you always changed the television channel. What if the characters kissed or swore? Totally not worth the lecture.

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3. Asking To Go Somewhere Took Immense Effort

Asking your strict parents for permission to go somewhere became an art form for you. You would mentally prepare to ask them for at least a day, and then you would practice coming up with solutions to the problems your parents would inevitably raise.

Then you would make sure they were in a good mood and finally ask for permission – and then, finally, you would agree on a ridiculously early time for you to come home. Phew.

4. You Were Always The First To Leave When You Hung Out With Your Friends

Your friend’s house, the park, the cinema – it didn’t matter where you were or who you were with, you were always the first to leave. Sigh.

5. If Your Friends Made Plans For That Night, You Knew You Wouldn’t Be Able To Go

If you friends made plans for later that day, you wouldn’t even bother to ask your parents if you could go. You really wanted to – you just knew you parents needed at least one business day to make a decision.

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6. You Only Needed To Ask If You Could Go Somewhere Once

You never understood why your friends thought asking your parents again after they had already said no would work. If your parents said no, they meant no – there was never any wriggle room.

7. You Couldn’t Believe What Your Friends Were Allowed To Get Up To

Their boyfriends and girlfriends were allowed to sleep over? While their parents were HOME?! You could barely even imagine what it would be like to have such cool, relaxed parents.

8. You Had To Prioritize Plans

When you lived with your parents, everything was about prioritizing; you couldn’t go out on both Friday and Saturday, you just had to pick one.

9. Your Friends Changing Plans Made You Stressed Out

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Every time your friends changed their plans, you would have a mini-freak out in your head, because you knew you would have to provide your strict parents with a detailed explanation as to why the plans changed – and then you had to get permission all over again.

10. Your Parents Intensely Disliked One Of Your Friends

Your parents absolutely hated one of your friends; even though you thought they were kind and funny, your parents thought they were a terrible influence on you and hated you two hanging out together.

11. You Lied Constantly To Have A Social Life

You’re not a liar by nature, but you didn’t have a choice. It was lie and have a fun exciting social life, or tell the truth and sit inside every day.

12. You Talked About Grades Rather Than Friends With Your Parents

Family conversations at dinner were focused on your education and your achievements. Your strict parents never wanted to hear about your social life – especially if you’d been hanging around with that one friend they really hated.

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13. Your Parents Still Live In Your Mind

If you put on a particularly revealing outfit, you can’t help feeling a little guilty because you know your parents would disapprove if they could see. Get out of my head!

14. Manners Were Everything

If you didn’t say please or thank you as a child, you would get a two hour lecture on manners and being polite, so you are pretty well-mannered.

15. You Fantasize About Being Rebellious

You always fantasize about doing something rebellious and crazy, like getting your belly button pierced – but then you remember that even though you’re an adult, your parents are still happy to lecture you. Oh well.

What did you think of this list? Do you agree with the points? Share this list with your friends who had strict parents to see what they think!

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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