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7 Old-Fashioned But Desirable Dating Ideas That Need Immediate Revival

7 Old-Fashioned But Desirable Dating Ideas That Need Immediate Revival

An urge to assist men in meeting their romantic needs is overwhelming me at the moment; this is an urge that makes me want to send out to all my gentlemen readers as many elegant dating ideas as possible, so that they can bring back a sense of excitement, glamour, passion, and amour to their relationship.

The reason you might be feeling perplexed and exhausted when continuously searching for new dating ideas to impress your lady is because it is more than likely that you’re looking in the wrong place.

By trying to create an abracadabra type of a date, you not only rob yourself of the pleasure of putting together the experience, but you also forget what dates are all about. Taking her out to an amazingly expensive restaurant and ordering the best champagne on offer will not surprise anybody, anymore.

It’s been done.

For us ladies, dates are about having your undivided attention, knowing that you put your heart, soul and imagination into the preparation. We want the feeling that the rest of the world stopped existing for you just for the few hours that we’re together.

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Either you have just asked out a girl that you’ve had your eyes on for centuries, but haven’t thought about planning your date yet, or you’re already making plans for Valentine’s Day. It’s even possible that you have been with your partner for a long time and you really want to show her your appreciation and admiration.

Whatever the situation, I have you covered. I’ve put together a real world list of dating ideas that have been tested over many centuries by many great men.

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    1. A Romantic Picnic

    Serenity and tranquility. Minimum distractions. If you feel ambitious, cook or order take-out. Pack a couple of appetizers, biscuits or macaroons, and tea or coffee in a thermos with real cups- not paper. Make it your main goal to ensure that your date will feel comfortable. If it’s a sunny day, bring sunscreen and water. If fall or winter is in town, pack warm blankets, sweaters, and warm socks. Last but not least, invest time into getting some décor for the romantic setting: candles, a table cloth, decorative birds… use your imagination. Do you know her favorite color? If so, use it as a theme.

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      2. Mini Roundtrip Adventure

      Take her for a long night ride out of the city. Living in Vancouver, I can barely see the stars. But I always remember the night sky as it can be seen from the Russian village where my grandmother lives. There is something magnetic and mesmerising about allowing yourself to be devoured by the beauty of the sacred sky sprinkled with stars. It helps women to unleash their femininity. Before nature, in its vastness and beauty, we are forced to let our barriers down.

      Take her to a panoramic viewpoint. On your way there you can stop by a drive-in movie theater. Warm coffee with Baileys, city lights, music, and a slow dance – it could lead to kisses… and maybe more.

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        3. Staycation

        Women adore it when a man cooks. There is nothing more sexy and tasty. Without any hesitation, tell her that you will pick her up from work next Friday and will surprise her with your mastery of French cuisine. Download romantic saxophone music to set the mood. Hang “Love Harbour Restaurant” on the entrance door to tease her curiosity, light up candles to warm her heart, and arrange rose petals on the floor to take her breath away.

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          4. Winter Fairy Tale

          Winter activities are another way to create an amazing time together. Do you remember your childhood when you had so much fun sledding? Oh my God, there were so many screams, and there was laughter, and joy- how could I possibly forget? She will remember, also. Gift her the bouquet of these emotions by taking her back to the world of the marvelous and carefree time of her childhood. Sprawling on the snow might also be a great time to start kissing. Then stop by a café for some hot mulled wine to warm up.

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            5. Zoo in the Winter

            Take her to the zoo during winter time. During summer there is a huge crowd plus it’s packed with kids who scream their lungs out. During winter there is almost nobody around. Another game-winner is that some of the animals, such as polar bears and snow leopards, are actually more active during this time of the year. Watching them cavort in the snow can be really fun and exciting.

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              6. A Walk in the Park

              Take her to the park. Walk around the pond and don’t forget to pack some bread or sunflower seeds to feed the local swans. If there are no swans, then doves and sparrows will be happy that you brought them a little snack. Treat your lady to some ice-cream. But don’t mix it all up! Seeds are for birds, ice-cream is for the girl.

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                7. Live Theater

                When was the last time you went to the theater? And I’m not talking about the cinema that is often called theater now. I don’t know what happened to people going to see live theater in North America. Not long ago there was a lot of glamour involved in attending one of the local performances. Embrace it! Chances are that having a theater date will be a refreshing and exciting experience for both of you. Dress to impress, get tickets for a romantic comedy or a story about a couple falling in love, and be ready to be enchanted.

                Dates are about experience and emotions. Remember this the next time you’re planning a date; otherwise, you might end up giving it your all, not realizing that you’re actually running east looking for a sunset.

                Photo credits: Evgeny Bodrug, Strawberry Chocolate Deserts On Display, Street performer With Puppet , White Swan On A British LakeWhite Swan On A British Lake via stokpic.com, prazdnik-kamin-ogon-pechene via ru.123rf.com

                Featured photo credit: Evgeny Bodrug via mywed.ru

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                12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

                12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

                The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

                However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

                “Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

                Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

                1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

                When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

                Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

                2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

                That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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                Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

                3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

                If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

                For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

                People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

                This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

                4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

                Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

                Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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                Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

                Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

                “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

                5. Crack a smile.

                If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

                Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

                6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

                Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

                And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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                7. Groom yourself.

                This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

                A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

                8. Dress nicely.

                Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

                While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

                9. Do activities you enjoy.

                Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

                You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

                10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

                Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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                Why?

                Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

                Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

                Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

                11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

                Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

                Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

                12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

                Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

                The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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