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7 Old-Fashioned But Desirable Dating Ideas That Need Immediate Revival

7 Old-Fashioned But Desirable Dating Ideas That Need Immediate Revival

An urge to assist men in meeting their romantic needs is overwhelming me at the moment; this is an urge that makes me want to send out to all my gentlemen readers as many elegant dating ideas as possible, so that they can bring back a sense of excitement, glamour, passion, and amour to their relationship.

The reason you might be feeling perplexed and exhausted when continuously searching for new dating ideas to impress your lady is because it is more than likely that you’re looking in the wrong place.

By trying to create an abracadabra type of a date, you not only rob yourself of the pleasure of putting together the experience, but you also forget what dates are all about. Taking her out to an amazingly expensive restaurant and ordering the best champagne on offer will not surprise anybody, anymore.

It’s been done.

For us ladies, dates are about having your undivided attention, knowing that you put your heart, soul and imagination into the preparation. We want the feeling that the rest of the world stopped existing for you just for the few hours that we’re together.

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Either you have just asked out a girl that you’ve had your eyes on for centuries, but haven’t thought about planning your date yet, or you’re already making plans for Valentine’s Day. It’s even possible that you have been with your partner for a long time and you really want to show her your appreciation and admiration.

Whatever the situation, I have you covered. I’ve put together a real world list of dating ideas that have been tested over many centuries by many great men.

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    1. A Romantic Picnic

    Serenity and tranquility. Minimum distractions. If you feel ambitious, cook or order take-out. Pack a couple of appetizers, biscuits or macaroons, and tea or coffee in a thermos with real cups- not paper. Make it your main goal to ensure that your date will feel comfortable. If it’s a sunny day, bring sunscreen and water. If fall or winter is in town, pack warm blankets, sweaters, and warm socks. Last but not least, invest time into getting some décor for the romantic setting: candles, a table cloth, decorative birds… use your imagination. Do you know her favorite color? If so, use it as a theme.

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      2. Mini Roundtrip Adventure

      Take her for a long night ride out of the city. Living in Vancouver, I can barely see the stars. But I always remember the night sky as it can be seen from the Russian village where my grandmother lives. There is something magnetic and mesmerising about allowing yourself to be devoured by the beauty of the sacred sky sprinkled with stars. It helps women to unleash their femininity. Before nature, in its vastness and beauty, we are forced to let our barriers down.

      Take her to a panoramic viewpoint. On your way there you can stop by a drive-in movie theater. Warm coffee with Baileys, city lights, music, and a slow dance – it could lead to kisses… and maybe more.

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        3. Staycation

        Women adore it when a man cooks. There is nothing more sexy and tasty. Without any hesitation, tell her that you will pick her up from work next Friday and will surprise her with your mastery of French cuisine. Download romantic saxophone music to set the mood. Hang “Love Harbour Restaurant” on the entrance door to tease her curiosity, light up candles to warm her heart, and arrange rose petals on the floor to take her breath away.

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          4. Winter Fairy Tale

          Winter activities are another way to create an amazing time together. Do you remember your childhood when you had so much fun sledding? Oh my God, there were so many screams, and there was laughter, and joy- how could I possibly forget? She will remember, also. Gift her the bouquet of these emotions by taking her back to the world of the marvelous and carefree time of her childhood. Sprawling on the snow might also be a great time to start kissing. Then stop by a café for some hot mulled wine to warm up.

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            5. Zoo in the Winter

            Take her to the zoo during winter time. During summer there is a huge crowd plus it’s packed with kids who scream their lungs out. During winter there is almost nobody around. Another game-winner is that some of the animals, such as polar bears and snow leopards, are actually more active during this time of the year. Watching them cavort in the snow can be really fun and exciting.

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              6. A Walk in the Park

              Take her to the park. Walk around the pond and don’t forget to pack some bread or sunflower seeds to feed the local swans. If there are no swans, then doves and sparrows will be happy that you brought them a little snack. Treat your lady to some ice-cream. But don’t mix it all up! Seeds are for birds, ice-cream is for the girl.

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                7. Live Theater

                When was the last time you went to the theater? And I’m not talking about the cinema that is often called theater now. I don’t know what happened to people going to see live theater in North America. Not long ago there was a lot of glamour involved in attending one of the local performances. Embrace it! Chances are that having a theater date will be a refreshing and exciting experience for both of you. Dress to impress, get tickets for a romantic comedy or a story about a couple falling in love, and be ready to be enchanted.

                Dates are about experience and emotions. Remember this the next time you’re planning a date; otherwise, you might end up giving it your all, not realizing that you’re actually running east looking for a sunset.

                Photo credits: Evgeny Bodrug, Strawberry Chocolate Deserts On Display, Street performer With Puppet , White Swan On A British LakeWhite Swan On A British Lake via stokpic.com, prazdnik-kamin-ogon-pechene via ru.123rf.com

                Featured photo credit: Evgeny Bodrug via mywed.ru

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                Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

                Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

                What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

                As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

                The Success Mindset

                Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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                The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

                The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

                The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

                How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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                How To Create a Success Mindset

                People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

                1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

                How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

                A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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                There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

                2. Look For The Successes

                It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

                3. Eliminate Negativity

                You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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                When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

                4. Create a Vision

                Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

                If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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                For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

                What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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