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7 Old-Fashioned But Desirable Dating Ideas That Need Immediate Revival

7 Old-Fashioned But Desirable Dating Ideas That Need Immediate Revival

An urge to assist men in meeting their romantic needs is overwhelming me at the moment; this is an urge that makes me want to send out to all my gentlemen readers as many elegant dating ideas as possible, so that they can bring back a sense of excitement, glamour, passion, and amour to their relationship.

The reason you might be feeling perplexed and exhausted when continuously searching for new dating ideas to impress your lady is because it is more than likely that you’re looking in the wrong place.

By trying to create an abracadabra type of a date, you not only rob yourself of the pleasure of putting together the experience, but you also forget what dates are all about. Taking her out to an amazingly expensive restaurant and ordering the best champagne on offer will not surprise anybody, anymore.

It’s been done.

For us ladies, dates are about having your undivided attention, knowing that you put your heart, soul and imagination into the preparation. We want the feeling that the rest of the world stopped existing for you just for the few hours that we’re together.

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Either you have just asked out a girl that you’ve had your eyes on for centuries, but haven’t thought about planning your date yet, or you’re already making plans for Valentine’s Day. It’s even possible that you have been with your partner for a long time and you really want to show her your appreciation and admiration.

Whatever the situation, I have you covered. I’ve put together a real world list of dating ideas that have been tested over many centuries by many great men.

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    1. A Romantic Picnic

    Serenity and tranquility. Minimum distractions. If you feel ambitious, cook or order take-out. Pack a couple of appetizers, biscuits or macaroons, and tea or coffee in a thermos with real cups- not paper. Make it your main goal to ensure that your date will feel comfortable. If it’s a sunny day, bring sunscreen and water. If fall or winter is in town, pack warm blankets, sweaters, and warm socks. Last but not least, invest time into getting some décor for the romantic setting: candles, a table cloth, decorative birds… use your imagination. Do you know her favorite color? If so, use it as a theme.

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      2. Mini Roundtrip Adventure

      Take her for a long night ride out of the city. Living in Vancouver, I can barely see the stars. But I always remember the night sky as it can be seen from the Russian village where my grandmother lives. There is something magnetic and mesmerising about allowing yourself to be devoured by the beauty of the sacred sky sprinkled with stars. It helps women to unleash their femininity. Before nature, in its vastness and beauty, we are forced to let our barriers down.

      Take her to a panoramic viewpoint. On your way there you can stop by a drive-in movie theater. Warm coffee with Baileys, city lights, music, and a slow dance – it could lead to kisses… and maybe more.

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        3. Staycation

        Women adore it when a man cooks. There is nothing more sexy and tasty. Without any hesitation, tell her that you will pick her up from work next Friday and will surprise her with your mastery of French cuisine. Download romantic saxophone music to set the mood. Hang “Love Harbour Restaurant” on the entrance door to tease her curiosity, light up candles to warm her heart, and arrange rose petals on the floor to take her breath away.

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          4. Winter Fairy Tale

          Winter activities are another way to create an amazing time together. Do you remember your childhood when you had so much fun sledding? Oh my God, there were so many screams, and there was laughter, and joy- how could I possibly forget? She will remember, also. Gift her the bouquet of these emotions by taking her back to the world of the marvelous and carefree time of her childhood. Sprawling on the snow might also be a great time to start kissing. Then stop by a café for some hot mulled wine to warm up.

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            5. Zoo in the Winter

            Take her to the zoo during winter time. During summer there is a huge crowd plus it’s packed with kids who scream their lungs out. During winter there is almost nobody around. Another game-winner is that some of the animals, such as polar bears and snow leopards, are actually more active during this time of the year. Watching them cavort in the snow can be really fun and exciting.

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              6. A Walk in the Park

              Take her to the park. Walk around the pond and don’t forget to pack some bread or sunflower seeds to feed the local swans. If there are no swans, then doves and sparrows will be happy that you brought them a little snack. Treat your lady to some ice-cream. But don’t mix it all up! Seeds are for birds, ice-cream is for the girl.

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                7. Live Theater

                When was the last time you went to the theater? And I’m not talking about the cinema that is often called theater now. I don’t know what happened to people going to see live theater in North America. Not long ago there was a lot of glamour involved in attending one of the local performances. Embrace it! Chances are that having a theater date will be a refreshing and exciting experience for both of you. Dress to impress, get tickets for a romantic comedy or a story about a couple falling in love, and be ready to be enchanted.

                Dates are about experience and emotions. Remember this the next time you’re planning a date; otherwise, you might end up giving it your all, not realizing that you’re actually running east looking for a sunset.

                Photo credits: Evgeny Bodrug, Strawberry Chocolate Deserts On Display, Street performer With Puppet , White Swan On A British LakeWhite Swan On A British Lake via stokpic.com, prazdnik-kamin-ogon-pechene via ru.123rf.com

                Featured photo credit: Evgeny Bodrug via mywed.ru

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                7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

                7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

                Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

                For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

                Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

                1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

                A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

                It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

                It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

                How it helps you:

                If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

                Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

                2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

                Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

                Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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                How it helps you:

                Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

                Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

                If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

                Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

                3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

                Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

                Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

                How it helps you:

                This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

                For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

                Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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                A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

                4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

                To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

                A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

                How it helps you:

                One word: hierarchy.

                All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

                In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

                If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

                5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

                Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

                Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

                How it helps you:

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                Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

                If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

                This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

                6. What do you like about working here?

                This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

                Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

                How it helps you:

                You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

                Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

                Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

                7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

                What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

                As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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                How it helps you:

                What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

                First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

                Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

                Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

                Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

                Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

                Making Your Interview Work for You

                Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

                Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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