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8 Things You’ll Understand If You’re An Introvert Dating An Extrovert

8 Things You’ll Understand If You’re An Introvert Dating An Extrovert

It is difficult to understand why and how introverts and extroverts could connect with one another so well. Sometimes this is difficult to explain or understand for the introvert. However, while you (the introvert) may offer perspective and depth to the relationship, the extrovert is there to light up the room and provide some intensity. Meanwhile, the clarity and peace you offer the relationship may help keep a balance in it. However, there are obstacles that your reserved nature may cause in the relationship and such you may find difficult to absorb.

Here are some things only you will understand if you are an introvert in a relationship with an extrovert.

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1. You disagree on everything related to socializing

You just can’t give out as much energy in a social gathering as your partner (the extrovert) can. You would prefer to do your things quietly with serenity, but because you love them you have to try to get out of your cocoon and tag along when it comes to socializing.

2. You can’t just deal with their spontaneity

While you carry a lot of depth and do a lot of thinking before you speak or act, they are spontaneous and attack issues just as they come. You try to deal with this because sometimes they simply say words that they don’t mean.

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3. You may sometimes be regarded as being insensitive in your actions

Really, every introvert needs some space and solitude to tackle their issues. You would want your partner to understand this and grant you the space you deserve. However, any time you really demand this it comes off as if you are not caring, loving, and willing to involve them in your world.

4. You just want to be understood

Sometimes the hardest thing in a relationship with an extrovert is that you just demand to be understood. You want your partner to know that even in your relationship there are borders and boundaries. It is not as if you do not care, it is just that your identity may be standing in the way of going into the relationship full throttle. Simply speaking, the extrovert just has to understand you the best way they can and relate with your personality.

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5. You envy how they connect with others

This is not your strength. Meeting someone new and instantly having a good flow of communication with the person can be a struggle. Your partner has this quality and while it is meant to complement your weakness, you sometimes feel envious of their proficiency at connecting with people around them.

6. You are sometimes not comfortable with their friends and family

You can deal with them. They are your partner, after all. However, having more than one person to bond or connect with is such an enormous obstacle for you to climb. They might consider this insulting or creepy, but it is just who you are and you deserve not to be the object of such scrutiny. You are simply not comfortable with socializing with everyone – including their friends and family.

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7. You can have them around to help roll out the curtains

Truthfully, you do not always have to be on the defensive to get through life. You can’t just be with yourself all the time. You have a partner who can spark the fire and make your world more alive. Sometimes, you need and deserve this.

8. You really can’t fathom why you are so in love with them

It seems they are not in tune with everything you do or how you approach life, yet you continue to stick through the challenges of a relationship with them. It is important you know that opposite attracts most times. Your extrovert partner is there to complement you and help you get over your weaknesses with their strengths.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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