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8 Things You’ll Understand If You’re An Introvert Dating An Extrovert

8 Things You’ll Understand If You’re An Introvert Dating An Extrovert

It is difficult to understand why and how introverts and extroverts could connect with one another so well. Sometimes this is difficult to explain or understand for the introvert. However, while you (the introvert) may offer perspective and depth to the relationship, the extrovert is there to light up the room and provide some intensity. Meanwhile, the clarity and peace you offer the relationship may help keep a balance in it. However, there are obstacles that your reserved nature may cause in the relationship and such you may find difficult to absorb.

Here are some things only you will understand if you are an introvert in a relationship with an extrovert.

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1. You disagree on everything related to socializing

You just can’t give out as much energy in a social gathering as your partner (the extrovert) can. You would prefer to do your things quietly with serenity, but because you love them you have to try to get out of your cocoon and tag along when it comes to socializing.

2. You can’t just deal with their spontaneity

While you carry a lot of depth and do a lot of thinking before you speak or act, they are spontaneous and attack issues just as they come. You try to deal with this because sometimes they simply say words that they don’t mean.

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3. You may sometimes be regarded as being insensitive in your actions

Really, every introvert needs some space and solitude to tackle their issues. You would want your partner to understand this and grant you the space you deserve. However, any time you really demand this it comes off as if you are not caring, loving, and willing to involve them in your world.

4. You just want to be understood

Sometimes the hardest thing in a relationship with an extrovert is that you just demand to be understood. You want your partner to know that even in your relationship there are borders and boundaries. It is not as if you do not care, it is just that your identity may be standing in the way of going into the relationship full throttle. Simply speaking, the extrovert just has to understand you the best way they can and relate with your personality.

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5. You envy how they connect with others

This is not your strength. Meeting someone new and instantly having a good flow of communication with the person can be a struggle. Your partner has this quality and while it is meant to complement your weakness, you sometimes feel envious of their proficiency at connecting with people around them.

6. You are sometimes not comfortable with their friends and family

You can deal with them. They are your partner, after all. However, having more than one person to bond or connect with is such an enormous obstacle for you to climb. They might consider this insulting or creepy, but it is just who you are and you deserve not to be the object of such scrutiny. You are simply not comfortable with socializing with everyone – including their friends and family.

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7. You can have them around to help roll out the curtains

Truthfully, you do not always have to be on the defensive to get through life. You can’t just be with yourself all the time. You have a partner who can spark the fire and make your world more alive. Sometimes, you need and deserve this.

8. You really can’t fathom why you are so in love with them

It seems they are not in tune with everything you do or how you approach life, yet you continue to stick through the challenges of a relationship with them. It is important you know that opposite attracts most times. Your extrovert partner is there to complement you and help you get over your weaknesses with their strengths.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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