It is difficult to understand why and how introverts and extroverts could connect with one another so well. Sometimes this is difficult to explain or understand for the introvert. However, while you (the introvert) may offer perspective and depth to the relationship, the extrovert is there to light up the room and provide some intensity. Meanwhile, the clarity and peace you offer the relationship may help keep a balance in it. However, there are obstacles that your reserved nature may cause in the relationship and such you may find difficult to absorb.
Here are some things only you will understand if you are an introvert in a relationship with an extrovert.
1. You disagree on everything related to socializing
You just can’t give out as much energy in a social gathering as your partner (the extrovert) can. You would prefer to do your things quietly with serenity, but because you love them you have to try to get out of your cocoon and tag along when it comes to socializing.
2. You can’t just deal with their spontaneity
While you carry a lot of depth and do a lot of thinking before you speak or act, they are spontaneous and attack issues just as they come. You try to deal with this because sometimes they simply say words that they don’t mean.
3. You may sometimes be regarded as being insensitive in your actions
Really, every introvert needs some space and solitude to tackle their issues. You would want your partner to understand this and grant you the space you deserve. However, any time you really demand this it comes off as if you are not caring, loving, and willing to involve them in your world.
4. You just want to be understood
Sometimes the hardest thing in a relationship with an extrovert is that you just demand to be understood. You want your partner to know that even in your relationship there are borders and boundaries. It is not as if you do not care, it is just that your identity may be standing in the way of going into the relationship full throttle. Simply speaking, the extrovert just has to understand you the best way they can and relate with your personality.
5. You envy how they connect with others
This is not your strength. Meeting someone new and instantly having a good flow of communication with the person can be a struggle. Your partner has this quality and while it is meant to complement your weakness, you sometimes feel envious of their proficiency at connecting with people around them.
6. You are sometimes not comfortable with their friends and family
You can deal with them. They are your partner, after all. However, having more than one person to bond or connect with is such an enormous obstacle for you to climb. They might consider this insulting or creepy, but it is just who you are and you deserve not to be the object of such scrutiny. You are simply not comfortable with socializing with everyone – including their friends and family.
7. You can have them around to help roll out the curtains
Truthfully, you do not always have to be on the defensive to get through life. You can’t just be with yourself all the time. You have a partner who can spark the fire and make your world more alive. Sometimes, you need and deserve this.
8. You really can’t fathom why you are so in love with them
It seems they are not in tune with everything you do or how you approach life, yet you continue to stick through the challenges of a relationship with them. It is important you know that opposite attracts most times. Your extrovert partner is there to complement you and help you get over your weaknesses with their strengths.
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