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15 Times You Realised Your Best Friend Is The Only One Who Knows You

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15 Times You Realised Your Best Friend Is The Only One Who Knows You

Do you love your best friend? Having a best friend is often similar to a marriage – they make you laugh, you know they are always there for you, they know you better than anyone else and you’re pretty sure they are your soul mate, just without the sex. Check out 15 times you realized your best friend is the only person who truly knows you.

1. When They Hate The People You Hate

Your best friend hates your ex and your old boss. Why? Because they upset you. They haven’t actually met either of these people, but anyone who upsets you is no friend of theirs.

2. When They Let You Talk For Hours About Your Crush

You are forever thankful to your best friend for all of the hours they have sat there in silence while you ramble on about coffee shop guy and all of his great traits – like how he has a Greenpeace badge on his backpack. How sweet?!

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3. When They Stayed By Your Side After You Got Your Heart Broken

If you go through a break-up, your best friend is there for you no matter what. If you feel sad, they are happy to sit inside and gallons of ice-cream, and if you’re ready to move on, they are happy to get crazy-drunk and stay up until 4 in the morning.

4. When They Listen Patiently To Your Ranting

After a long day, you just want to vent – and your best friend is happy to sit patiently and nod at all of the right places. Sometimes they even provide you with invaluable life advice relating to your problems.

5. Every Time That They Knew Exactly What You Want To Eat

They know your favorite takeout order off by heart, and which candies you hate and which ones you love. This is especially awesome when you go to their house and they have already ordered in. Delicious!

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6. When They ‘Like’ Everything You Post On Social Media

Your best friend is your online ally; they ‘like’ everything you post online and make you look way more popular than you actually are. They also keep you updated on your ex, and you check up on their little sister for them.

7. When They Basically Wrote Your Texts For You

If you have a difficult text to send, your best friend will always help you to come up with the perfect text. It may take 7 drafts, but eventually the two of you will come up with the perfect text.

8. Whenever They Let You Borrow Their Stuff

They even let you borrow their brand new jacket from American Apparel, which they haven’t even worn yet – true love.

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9. Whenever You Watch Netflix Together

You love to binge watch the same shows, and your perfect evening is with your best friend catching up on Orange Is The New Black.

10. Whenever They Are Totally Honest With You

Your best friend is the only person in your life who is happy to tell you that you have food stuck between your teeth, and for that, you are forever thankful.

11. When You Feel Down And They Know Exactly What To Say

Your best friend always knows exactly what to say, no matter what the situation is. If you’re feeling sad, they can make you smile and laugh. When you’re angry, they can calm you down. No-one else has this power – your best friend is basically magical.

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12. When You Do Well And They Cheer You On

From a new promotion to a hot date, your best friend is always happy that you are happy. They always cheer on your victories, and you’re pretty sure they are just as proud of you as your parents are.

13. When They Believed In You

Whenever you’re not sure if you’re good enough for something, your best friend firmly reminds you that you are. It is a much needed confidence boost and you always appreciate it.

14. When They Dropped Everything To Be With You

Every time something horrible has happened to you, your best friend has always dropped everything to make sure you’re okay. They even Skyped you when they were in Spain to make sure you were okay when your favorite TV show finished.

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15. Whenever You Realize That They Will Always Be There For You

Even if you moved to a different country, you know in your heart that you two would still be best friends. You will always be in each other’s lives, and you know you will still be laughing together in your 80s.

What did you think of this list? Do you agree? Share this list with your best friend to see what they think!

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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