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Easy To Maintain Is Your Style: 6 Things Only Girls Who Hate Dressing Up Understand

Easy To Maintain Is Your Style: 6 Things Only Girls Who Hate Dressing Up Understand

Let’s face it: some of us just don’t like dressing up. We prefer comfort to high fashion and would rather not spend the extra time in the morning coordinating clothes or figuring out which shoes will look best with which outfit. Our low-key style reflects our practical and laid back personalities we’re proud of. If you have ever felt more confident in a T-shirt and your best pair of yoga pants then you’ll understand perfectly these six things that only low-maintenance girls get.

1. You don’t have the time.

Dressing up is hard work. You have to do your hair, put on makeup and figure out what the heck you’re going to wear, and it usually involves uncomfortable footwear. You prefer to dress for the entire day; wearing an outfit that can easily transition from daywear to nightwear. You like to keep your morning routine simple. You usually shower and throw on a pair of workout leggings and a comfy T-shirt. You usually don’t even bother with your contacts. Wearing your chic eyeglasses is so much easier.

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2. You’d rather just stay in and watch Netflix if you know that going out means wearing high heels.

High heels look great but they wreak havoc on your feet all night long. How can you enjoy yourself when you’re wincing in pain with every step? You marvel at the girls walking confidently in their heels and secretly think that they must have some kind of superpower to be able to walk like that while strapped into those pain machines all night.

3. Figuring out what shoes to wear with an outfit is actually really really hard.

You don’t want to clash but you don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard, and you still want to be comfy. Rather than deal with the struggle, you just slip on the Birkenstocks that you’ve worn for the past six years that go with everything and move on with your day.

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4. You love simplicity.

You don’t really own or wear that many accessories or the accessories you do own are basically stashed away and collecting dust. You usually wear a few sentimental pieces of jewelry 90% of the time and only touch your other pieces when you’re feeling particularly adventurous. More often than not, the eyeglasses you own tend to be your only accessory. The good thing is, if you remember any episode of America’s Next Top Model, over-accessorizing is white noise for one’s look. Keep your pallet simple, and let your self be the star, not your bangles.

5. You basically live in your yoga pants.

Yoga pants are mankind’s greatest invention. They’re super comfy, stretchy and don’t dig into your skin like jeans do. Yoga pants are perfect for everything: running errands, doing laundry, going to class, hanging out with friends, working out, or just vegging on the couch and watching Netflix. It’s guaranteed you’ll be perfectly comfortable all day long in your yoga pants.

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6. When you do dress up, you feel really awkward.

You’re so used to wearing comfy clothes that when you finally have an obligation to dress up, you feel really weird. But also, you really dig it. You’re reveling in the compliments. “I should do this more often,” you think. But then when you remember how much work it was to get ready, it immediately gives you a headache. You’ll just stick to your usual low-key style.

Girls who hate dressing up don’t like to hide behind clothes and makeup. We like to be genuine and be ourselves all the time. So keep rocking that low-key style and remember that our comfy fashion shows that we’re comfortable with ourselves and are laid-back but still confident and fun.

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Featured photo credit: IMG_8289/Justin Tune via flic.kr

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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