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8 Signs of a Man Who Will Never Ever Stop Loving You

8 Signs of a Man Who Will Never Ever Stop Loving You

We men sometimes get a bad rap. The stereotypical “man” doesn’t do any of the following. However, the only men who are actually like this are created by writers as sitcom fodder (hopefully). In truth, when a man finds the person he knows he’ll be spending the rest of his life with, he’ll certainly work his hardest to keep them by his side at all times. If you have a man that adheres to the following, you know he’s a keeper for life.

1. He’s fully committed to you and your relationship together.

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    Being there throughout the good times is easy. It’s when the going gets tough that it’s important that you both stick together. Real men don’t run out after a little fight, and they don’t take it out on their significant others when they’re in a bad mood. They understand how important their relationship is, and won’t let anything at all get in the way of persevering.

    2. He doesn’t avoid problems.

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      Like I said, a real man doesn’t run out when things get rough. And he also doesn’t bottle up his feelings until he explodes, either. If something is bothering him within the relationship, he brings it up carefully and respectfully. He is comfortable talking through the issues he’s been having, and will make a genuine effort to fix any underlying issue that’s been plaguing the relationship. He understands that even major problems don’t define the relationship; it’s how you both work through them that does.

      3. He pays attention to the little things.

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        If he lived alone, he probably wouldn’t care if the dishes weren’t done, the garbage was overflowing, or if the only thing to eat in the house was pizza rolls. But he knows you care about these things, so he takes time away from what he enjoys doing to make sure the house is clean and the fridge is stocked. He won’t ever watch a movie you both love without you by his side, and he lets you pick the iPod playlist in the car. Even if he really, really despises Top 40 radio…

        4. He is smart and wise.

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          I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you picked a smart one. But the true measure of a man’s intelligence is not simply how smart he is, but what he does with his wisdom. He sees things from an objective point of view, and is able to give you great advice with any situation you face. He puts himself in your shoes constantly, so he understands exactly what you’re going through, and he doesn’t blow you off with half-hearted cliches. And you just know he will pass on great words of wisdom to your future children.

          5. He wants you to feel good about yourself.

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            He thinks you’re beautiful; why would he be with you if he didn’t? But it’s not enough for him to think so; he also goes to great lengths to make sure you know you’re beautiful. And it’s not just simple words of reassurance, either. He’ll be able to sense when you think you’re having a bad hair day, and make it a point to compliment your ‘do. He’ll come up with ways to make you feel beautiful, inside and out, regardless of how you feel at the time. He’ll do whatever he can to make you see yourself as he sees you each and every day.

            6. He makes your problems his own.

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              If something’s bothering you, it bothers him. He will take on your problems and try to figure out ways to solve them, or at least get through them with the least amount of pain possible. Your issues keep him up at night, but that doesn’t bother him. What does bother him is when you’re facing a problem that he can’t help you with. When these situations inevitably arise, he does the best he can by standing by your side no matter what.

              7. He laughs at your mistakes.

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                He knows everyone makes mistakes, and he’s able to shrug yours off easily. If you say something that offended him, he knows you didn’t mean it. He’ll laugh it off, even if it did sting a little. If you let him down in some way (like you had to stay late at work even though he had a nice dinner planned), he won’t hold it against you. He may be caring and sensitive, but he’ll never make you feel bad for unintentionally hurting his feelings.

                8. He takes his own mistakes seriously.

                On the other hand, anything he does that ends up hurting you will weigh heavy on his shoulders for a long while. He rarely beats himself up about much, but when he causes you pain, he’ll do anything to right his wrongs. He’ll never tell his love to “lighten up” or that he “was only kidding.” He knows you enough to know exactly what to do to harm you, but he would never in a million years dream of doing so.

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                  How To Improve Listening Skills For Effective Workplace Communication

                  How To Improve Listening Skills For Effective Workplace Communication

                  We have two ears and one mouth for a reason—effective communication is dependent on using them in proportion, and this involves having good listening skills.

                  The workplace of the 21st century may not look the same as it did before COVID-19 spread throughout the world like wildfire, but that doesn’t mean you can relax your standards at work. If anything, Zoom meetings, conference calls, and the continuous time spent behind a screen have created a higher level of expectations for meeting etiquette and communication. And this goes further than simply muting your microphone during a meeting.

                  Effective workplace communication has been a topic of discussion for decades, yet, it is rarely addressed or implemented due to a lack of awareness and personal ownership by all parties.

                  Effective communication isn’t just about speaking clearly or finding the appropriate choice of words. It starts with intentional listening and being present. Here’s how to improve your listening skills for effective workplace communication.

                  Listen to Understand, Not to Speak

                  There are stark differences between listening and hearing. Listening involves intention, focused effort, and concentration, whereas hearing simply involves low-level awareness that someone else is speaking. Listening is a voluntary activity that allows one to be present and in the moment while hearing is passive and effortless.[1]

                  Which one would you prefer your colleagues to implement during your company-wide presentation? It’s a no-brainer.

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                  Listening can be one of the most powerful tools in your communication arsenal because one must listen to understand the message being told to them. As a result of this deeper understanding, communication can be streamlined because there is a higher level of comprehension that will facilitate practical follow-up questions, conversations, and problem-solving. And just because you heard something doesn’t mean you actually understood it.

                  We take this for granted daily, but that doesn’t mean we can use that as an excuse.

                  Your brain is constantly scanning your environment for threats, opportunities, and situations to advance your ability to promote your survival. And yet, while we are long past the days of worrying about being eaten by wildlife, the neurocircuitry responsible for these mechanisms is still hard-wired into our psychology and neural processing.

                  A classic example of this is the formation of memories. Case in point: where were you on June 3rd, 2014? For most of you reading this article, your mind will go completely blank, which isn’t necessarily bad.

                  The brain is far too efficient to retain every detail about every event that happens in your life, mainly because many events that occur aren’t always that important. The brain doesn’t—and shouldn’t—care what you ate for lunch three weeks ago or what color shirt you wore golfing last month. But for those of you who remember where you were on June 3rd, 2014, this date probably holds some sort of significance to you. Maybe it was a birthday or an anniversary. Perhaps it was the day your child was born. It could have even been a day where you lost someone special in your life.

                  Regardless of the circumstance, the brain is highly stimulated through emotion and engagement, which is why memories are usually stored in these situations. When the brain’s emotional centers become activated, the brain is far more likely to remember an event.[2] And this is also true when intention and focus are applied to listening to a conversation.

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                  Utilizing these hard-wired primitive pathways of survival to optimize your communication in the workplace is a no-brainer—literally and figuratively.

                  Intentional focus and concentrated efforts will pay off in the long run because you will retain more information and have an easier time recalling it down the road, making you look like a superstar in front of your colleagues and co-workers. Time to kiss those note-taking days away!

                  Effective Communication Isn’t Always Through Words

                  While we typically associate communication with words and verbal affirmations, communication can come in all shapes and forms. In the Zoom meeting era we live in, it has become far more challenging to utilize and understand these other forms of language. And this is because they are typically easier to see when we are sitting face to face with the person we speak to.[3]

                  Body language can play a significant role in how our words and communication are interpreted, especially when there is a disconnection involved.[4] When someone tells you one thing, yet their body language screams something completely different, it’s challenging to let that go. Our brain immediately starts to search for more information and inevitably prompts us to follow up with questions that will provide greater clarity to the situation at hand. And in all reality, not saying something might be just as important as actually saying something.

                  These commonly overlooked non-verbal communication choices can provide a plethora of information about the intentions, emotions, and motivations. We do this unconsciously, and it happens with every confrontation, conversation, and interaction we engage in. The magic lies in the utilization and active interpretation of these signals to improve your listening skills and your communication skills.

                  Our brains were designed for interpreting our world, which is why we are so good at recognizing subtle nuances and underlying disconnect within our casual encounters. So, when we begin to notice conflicting messages between verbal and non-verbal communication, our brain takes us down a path of troubleshooting.

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                  Which messages are consistent with this theme over time? Which statements aren’t aligning with what they’re really trying to tell me? How should I interpret their words and body language?

                  Suppose we want to break things down even further. In that case, one must understand that body language is usually a subconscious event, meaning that we rarely think about our body language. This happens because our brain’s primary focus is to string together words and phrases for verbal communication, which usually requires a higher level of processing. This doesn’t mean that body language will always tell the truth, but it does provide clues to help us weigh information, which can be pretty beneficial in the long run.

                  Actively interpreting body language can provide you with an edge in your communication skills. It can also be used as a tool to connect with the individual you are speaking to. This process is deeply ingrained into our human fabric and utilizes similar methods babies use while learning new skills from their parents’ traits during the early years of development.

                  Mirroring a person’s posture or stance can create a subtle bond, facilitating a sense of feeling like one another. This process is triggered via the activation of specific brain regions through the stimulation of specialized neurons called mirror neurons.[5] These particular neurons become activated while watching an individual engage in an activity or task, facilitating learning, queuing, and understanding. They also allow the person watching an action to become more efficient at physically executing the action, creating changes in the brain, and altering the overall structure of the brain to enhance output for that chosen activity.

                  Listening with intention can make you understand your colleague, and when paired together with mirroring body language, you can make your colleague feel like you two are alike. This simple trick can facilitate a greater bond of understanding and communication within all aspects of the conversation.

                  Eliminate All Distractions, Once and for All

                  As Jim Rohn says, “What is easy to do is also easy not to do.” And this is an underlying principle that will carry through in all aspects of communication. Distractions are a surefire way to ensure a lack of understanding or interpretation of a conversation, which in turn, will create inefficiencies and a poor foundation for communication.

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                  This should come as no surprise, especially in this day in age where people are constantly distracted by social media, text messaging, and endlessly checking their emails. We’re stuck in a cultural norm that has hijacked our love for the addictive dopamine rush and altered our ability to truly focus our efforts on the task at hand. And these distractions aren’t just distractions for the time they’re being used. They use up coveted brainpower and central processes that secondarily delay our ability to get back on track.

                  Gloria Mark, a researcher at UC Irvine, discovered that it takes an average of 23 minutes and 15 seconds for our brains to reach their peak state of focus after an interruption.[6] Yes, you read that correctly—distractions are costly, error-prone, and yield little to no benefit outside of a bump to the ego when receiving a new like on your social media profile.

                  Meetings should implement a no-phone policy, video conference calls should be set on their own browser with no other tabs open, and all updates, notifications, and email prompt should be immediately turned off, if possible, to eliminate all distractions during a meeting.

                  These are just a few examples of how we can optimize our environment to facilitate the highest levels of communication within the workplace.

                  Actions Speak Louder Than Words

                  Effective communication in the workplace doesn’t have to be challenging, but it does have to be intentional. Knowledge can only take us so far, but once again, knowing something is very different than putting it into action.

                  Just like riding a bike, the more often you do it, the easier it becomes. Master communicators are phenomenal listeners, which allows them to be effective communicators in the workplace and in life. If you genuinely want to own your communication, you must implement this information today and learn how to improve your listening skills.

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                  Choose your words carefully, listen intently, and most of all, be present in the moment—because that’s what master communicators do, and you can do it, too!

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