8 Things We Need To Teach Our Boys

8 Things We Need To Teach Our Boys

Regardless of whether you’re a father or a mother to a young boy, there’s a lot you need to teach him about the world before he becomes an adult. There are so many preconceived notions (such as “boys will be boys”) that tend to downplay the importance of intentionally and actively teaching our sons about life, with the assumption being that they’ll eventually figure it out on their own. While our sons are still young, we need to teach them:

1. The true definition of being a man

All boys grow into adults, but only some grow into men. Men put their families and friends above their own well-being, and will stand up for what they believe in, always. Men have integrity, and always act with the best of intentions. They may have a tough exterior, but on the inside is a caring, selfless person willing to do anything to make his loved ones comfortable and happy.


2. The true definition of being a human

Regardless of gender, all people are human beings, and deserve to be treated as such. Boys should be taught to respect all living beings on this Earth, as well as the Earth itself. They need to understand their place in the global community, as well as the ecosystem. When they understand that the world does not revolve around them, they’ll realize the importance of their actions.

3. You don’t need to prove your manliness through violence

Boys should definitely learn to assert themselves and stand up for the ones they look out for, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they should come to blows to defend their family’s honor. The most “manly” thing a man can do is shut down a bully or oppressor without having to lift a finger. By showing he can win a fight with just his words, a man can truly prove his worth.


4. It’s okay to be sensitive

There’s this ridiculous sentiment in our society that it’s not okay for men to cry. That couldn’t be any more wrong. Everyone cries. The difference is, not everybody shows their sensitive side to the world. Real men should feel comfortable with, if not proud of, having the presence of mind to let themselves be upset every once in a while. Stifling their problems will only lead to bigger issues down the road.

5. It’s okay to feel angry

Not only is it okay to be sad, but it’s also okay to be angry. However, as previously mentioned, it’s not okay to act on that anger in a way that harms others (even if they deserve it!). What boys should be taught is that anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that another emotion, such as jealousy, disappointment, or embarrassment was the root cause of the anger. When young children are able to pinpoint the source of their anger, they’re more apt to deal with it in a productive manner.


6. There’s no such thing as “boy” and “girl” interests

Pink is not a girl’s color. Hockey is not a boy’s sport. Being in the school play doesn’t make you any less of a man. And being the star quarterback doesn’t make you the Alpha-male of the school. Boys should be taught that everyone is free to pursue their own interests without fear of getting bullied or ragged on by others. People’s interests are a large part of their lives, but they don’t define the person 100%.

7. “No” means NO

This goes for a lot of things. When kids are young, they might be tempted to do things they know are wrong. Teach your boys not to be the one constantly peer pressuring their friends into doing something that could get them in trouble or injured. Of course, as your son grows older, he should know that it’s never okay to touch anyone, male or female, without their permission. And even if that person was initially okay with whatever actions have started, if they decide to say no, the answer stays no.


8. It’s okay to be vulnerable

This goes along with how it’s okay to be sensitive, but it goes a little further. Teach your sons to be okay with putting themselves out there, even if it leads to failure. They shouldn’t be afraid of following their passions because they don’t know how others will react. Show them the importance of stepping out of their comfort zone. It’s only when they do so that they’ll be able to thrive and become the men you envisioned them being from the moment they took their first steps.

Featured photo credit: Father, Mother, Son / Rennett Stowe via


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Let’s face it.  We are living in a digital age, and there is absolutely no turning back. One of the biggest influences on society these days is social media. It affects us both positively and negatively. Social media was originally designed for people to share interesting facets of their lives with their friends, but it has become so much more than what it intended to be. It is now a medium for information to pass around the globe. In many cases, people first learn about current events through Twitter or Facebook before hearing about them from conventional news sources.

We also rely on technology for nearly everything we do. People these days seem as if they can’t go anywhere or do anything without their smartphones, tablets, or laptops. They need to be in constant contact with others via electronic devices.

However, there is also a downside to be too connected to social media and electronic devices. We are too dependent on them, which make us oblivious to what we are doing to ourselves. Being too connected can have a negative effect on our lives and the society as a whole. Here are 9 true illustrations that show how our society is negatively impacted because of the use of technology.

1. Facebook is eating away at your time.

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    How much time do you usually spend each day on Facebook or other social networking sites? Is it hindering your productivity? Do you find yourself wasting time to a point where you don’t even know where it goes? If the answer is yes, Facebook might have eaten away at your time.


    2. We’ve become “Likeaholics.”


      When you are posting something on Facebook, are you doing it just to see how many of your friends will give it the proverbial thumbs up? This illustration shows that some people are treating “Likes” on Facebook as if it was a drug they needed to inject into their bloodstreams.

      3. Our electronics have priority over our lives.


        Given a choice between your dying phone battery or you dying, which will you choose? In this case, the man in this illustration chose to charge his phone over to sustain his own life. As a society, we need to be more careful of our priorities.


        4. Families aren’t spending quality time together.

        mother baking

          Here is a mother making holiday cookies, but what are the kids doing? They are not making cookies with their mother. Instead, every one of them has their faces buried in their own electronic devices. Television used to be what parents use to babysit their kids. Now, it’s a tablet, phone, laptop or video game that does the job.

          5.  We’d rather record someone than help them.


            A lot is happening in this illustration. A black man is drowning and asking for help. One person has a gun pointed at him. The other person has their iPhone pointed at him and is recording the scene, but is not interested to help this man.


            6. Society is sleeping, it’s sleeping its life away.

            sleeping your life away

              Time is money. After we have wasted the long period of time on social media, we are losing the most valuable currency we have – our time in this world.

              7.  Despite all the technology we have, we still want what someone else has.

              wanting what someone else is having

                There’s an old saying that goes, “The grass is always greener on the other side.” This illustration shows that despite all that we have, we are still not satisfied with our lives.


                8. Sensationalism still sells.

                free expression

                  With the information overload that exists today, the media still looks for sensationalism. Here’s a woman who feels she has something important to say, but the media only cares about her because she is naked. Would the news media still have microphones in front of her if she wasn’t standing there topless?

                  9. In the end, with all of this, we are still killing the planet.

                  gun to mother earth

                    This last illustration argues that despite all of our technological gains, we are still polluting the earth as if we have a virtual gun pointed at Mother Nature. As we build bigger cities and higher technology, how much more damages can we continue to do before putting our lives at risk?


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