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10 Highly-Desired Skills You Can Acquire By Self-Learning

10 Highly-Desired Skills You Can Acquire By Self-Learning

When you look past the swarms of shallow content, the internet can be an extremely helpful database. Never before did we have access to such a vast amount of knowledge, and it is distributed for free. With the right sources, each and every one of us has an opportunity to acquire a decent level of expertise in any particular field. It is also worth mentioning how a lot of tutorials are now uploaded in video form, allowing us to learn much more efficiently, due to the fact that we retain more information from watching a video than from reading a book.

Passion for self-learning is truly great, since we are, in a way, always perfecting our skills and constantly improving. In addition to self-improvement, you can easily acquire useful skills, and become competent enough to earn a good income. Another advantage of self-learning is attention to detail. People who took the time to educate themselves about a certain topic did it because they loved it, and managed to turn their hobby into a professional skill. They are, in the majority of cases, their own boss. They take special care of their customers, and not because someone else ordered them to. Of course, sometimes your skill-set will require you to work for someone else in order to efficiently monetize it. However, thanks to self-learning, you may be able to advance to a better position within the company much easier.

Finally, even if you don’t have a passion for certain jobs, do not be afraid. When you fully invest your time and effort into mastering something, it eventually becomes interesting. As long as you advance at a normal pace, you are highly unlikely to back off from self-learning projects.

Here are some great suggestions of skills anyone can acquire, and in time make some profit within the next few years.

1. Become a self-made handy man

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    Due to the vast change in lifestyle, and various advancement in technology, modern job descriptions usually involve a lot of sitting and typing. It is quite rare to be a proficient handyman, considering how these skills were usually passed on from our mentors face-to-face. Moreover, our educational system has conditioned our minds to regard these professions as something only underachievers take up. This is wrong. These skills are actually essential for a normal life.

    So, if the ambition of your parents stirred you in a different direction, and you had no chance to learn how to be a handyman, you can go through some tutorial videos to learn how to do some basic tasks. You can also learn how to repair items – as long as the job you have to do is simple enough.

    Once you have fully mastered your handyman skills, you can start charging for your services. Believe it or not, there are job platforms that are specifically designed for handyman and people who are in need of house projects.

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    2. Learn photo and video editing

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      The art of photography and video making are skills that will rarely be left underutilized. As long as you are creative, and have a sharp eye for aesthetics and composition, you can become extremely successful in this area. Once again, these skills are compatible with self-learning procedures. There are plenty of tutorials on how to manipulate videos and photography. If you don’t find this line of work appealing, or you don’t really like to pay attention to details, I strongly suggest that you do not attempt to master these skills, since the whole thing will start to irritate you pretty quickly.

      Photo and video editing is extremely slow at the beginning. It is only once you are fully acquainted with the different software that you can do achieve greater speed and efficiency. Then again, you can grow to love these hobbies, since your progress is clearly visible, and you will always strive to bring your photography editing skills to the next level. Job platforms like Upwork or Elance are the best places to start you career as a freelancer. IT firms which develop games and posters are constantly employing people with these skills. When you look for a job, there is no need for prior academic qualifications. All you need to do is show the sample of your work. This is definitely a plus.

      3. Learn how to blog or vlog

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        Blogging is a great hobby. If anything, you will hone your writing skills and find your particular style, allowing you to eventually advance to blogs of greater quality and higher authority. Bloggers are really popular, since they offer valuable insights, tips, and hacks for people who need them. In fact, the tutorial videos and articles that are mentioned here all come from bloggers and vloggers. Because of their usefulness, some become popular enough that they are approached by companies to do product reviews.

        Now, becoming a minor celebrity is not easy, and relying on celebrity status to make a profit is foolish. Luckily, even regular bloggers with good writing skills are noticed. Their services are financed by small business owners, so you can easily operate within your own niche. Also, there are sites like CareerAddict that are willing to pay for a quality post, so you can build your portfolio and get paid in the process. When it comes to self-learning, I strongly recommend finding a niche you are comfortable with and blogging on the subjects that are close to heart.

        When we see a channel with a ridiculous amount of subscribers, we always wonder if we could pull the same thing off. Making videos on a topic you love and getting money for it is a dream job, right? Well, you don’t have to be a professional in order to get there; however, solid video editing expertise is also required. You will also need to know how to be a good performer if you want to make your show more enticing.

        Another important aspect of blogging and vlogging is how you present the information that you have. You can be an expert data-wise, but if you are unable to efficiently transfer your knowledge or get your point across, you won’t be able to attract a massive audience audience.

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        4. Learn to be good at a particular video game

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          Becoming an active member of the gaming community can be a true gold mine. Personally, my dream was to get paid for playing video games, but realistically speaking, it would only result in me hating what I do for living, since it becomes your obligation and really takes all the fun out of it. Now that is only my opinion, plus it only applies to extremely popular games with competitive play, mostly MOBAs (like League of Legends and DOTA).

          A great deal of people who stream their gameplay experience and make “Let’s Play” videos are making good profit out of the hobby. The website called Twitch is filled with streamers and some of them receive ridiculous amounts of money. However, you do not work for anybody. Basically, people donate their money as they watch you play. If you are considering this option, do not bother with mastering the games which are already popular, find what’s the upcoming trend in the industry and begin with it immediately. You’ll have the best chance of attracting visitors.

          5. Software and hardware hacks

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            This one is really self-explanatory. We heavily rely on our computers, so both software and hardware problems present quite a challenge. Due to the sensitive nature of the stored data, we choose not to try anything, and immediately call for help. Well, self-learning can eliminate this feeling of powerlessness, and knowing your way around the brain of the computer will always be useful. This does not apply only to computers – smartphones, tablets, and consoles are devices that we use all the time and are afraid to fix ourselves.

            In other words, buy an external hard drive and store all the essential documents there, so you’ll have no fear if something goes wrong. If or when something goes wrong with your PC or other device, just browse the web for help, people have definitely experienced the same problem before. Find solutions and try to fix it yourself. If you are going to pay someone to do it, attempt to fix it yourself first – you are already paying, so why not make it a learning experience.

            I did not have much experience when it comes to PC problems, but have conducted more than enough experiments on my Xbox. I always used a forum for figuring out those problems. Trust me, once you are capable of fixing these problems you become a hero in your neighbourhood, and your reputations starts to spread. One day you can definitely charge for those services, or provide great tutorials on the topic.

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            6. Become an expert on a particular subject

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              This one is closely connected to blogging and vlogging. A high level of expertise will be helpful, especially if you pick a field which was not explained thoroughly so far. Now it is also important how you present your subject matter, because if it isn’t fun, people won’t stay on your channel for long. This is what being an expert is all about. Finding the best way to explain something to someone who has no idea about the subject. We all love to learn, but if we are unable to understand the subject it becomes tedious. I recently started to watch crash courses on YouTube, and I was sad I did not have this during elementary school and high school. I found most of these subjects tedious, but now I just go through the videos one after another. I can’t help being amazed by how good they are.

              Another good example of this sort of channel is Extra Credits. They are really good at giving tips for game design, as well as covering interesting events from history. In other words, find what you love, delve deep into that topic and provide some constructive criticism. You should try to incite good debates and introduce some new points of view. If you love a particular book series or TV series, express your theories or find other good fan theories, and make videos to incite engagement among the community. These kinds of efforts are always noticed, and people in a similar niche are always willing to help you get noticed. When it comes to self-learning these channels are outstanding and the community is indeed friendly.

              Experts are always needed. By having proof of your expertise, you can find a job more easily. A lot of firms rely on their websites as marketing tools, but Google made sure that spam material is no longer regarded as a viable link. In other words, you need to have truly useful information on your site, the type of information an expert can provide. I recently stumbled upon a great blog on one website. You can actually find out a lot about law and rights and how it works. This is a topic people usually neglect to study, we only memorize a few rules which we see in crime and lawyer TV shows. There is another section about criminal psychology, which is a topic I personally find extremely interesting.

              These were all examples how one topic can provide a myriad of unique content ideas for vlogging and blogging, as long as it is tackled in a correct manner. So, do your research, become an expert, show your expertise, and you will surely get noticed. Use the links as your guidelines to adequately transfer your knowledge on video or text.

              7. Start inventing your own recipes

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                We have all seen those shows on 24 hour food channels, and yes a lot of meals look delicious, but when I look at all the ingredients they use, it just seems like too much trouble. Wouldn’t it be so much better if one could come up with a recipe for a delicious meal made out of things that are most commonly found in the fridge and cupboard. If there is one thing people love it is easy and delicious solutions, and this is quite hard to pull off.

                You do not even have to be a professional cook to be famous, take a look at the Epic Meal Time channel. They rely on excessive use of bacon and other ingredients high in cholesterol, but their meals are simply awe-inspiring. You do not need to learn how to cook simply to have your own show, and there are many more advantages. Believe it or not, cooking can be helpful if you want to travel the world. There are many programs in search of cooks who are willing to prepare food for passengers on a cruise. The job is exhausting, but the pay is good. Plus, you get to visit all sorts of interesting locations.

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                Cooking is one of the best examples of self-learning. After all,  you can’t become good from reading a recipe – you have to try it on your own, add a personal touch, and experiment with ingredients before you find the perfect balance. Here is a good place to start learning, it’s called the Cooking ChannelOnce you master some of the meals, you can add your personal touch to them.

                8. Learn some artistic skills – illustration or photography

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                  These skills are best combined with the previously mentioned photo and video editing. Being a designer and drawing what you want is great, but working for clients can be bothersome. It can be difficult to transfer someone else’s vision to the screen or a piece of paper. We live in the era of comic books, video games, and movies packed with special effects – good illustrators are always welcome. Once again, this is a dream big scenario, more down to Earth solutions include working for IT firms or designing covers for books and albums. Still, it is an impressive skill that can be attained through self-learning. Once again, rely on tutorials to aid you in your progress, and learn how to be a self-made graphic designer.

                  With all this new technology, photography is much easier now than it used be. Plus, with all the filters and different lenses, high quality photography takes up significantly less time. However, you’ll still need some sort of guide to get you started and a good camera, of course. After that, you can let your imagination and inner artist guide your actions. People are always willing to pay money for good photography. They need it for articles, blog posts, commercials, posters, web sites, etc. A good photographer is also hired to take pictures and record special events, making this another good choice for a self-learning career.

                  9. Learn how to code

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                    If you know how to code, create, and maintain websites, you’ll have job in no time. It is hard to master, and will take some time. It is also not as interesting to master as other skills, but the pay is great. WordPress is the most learner-friendly platform. Everyone will tell you to start with this one if you are new to programming. In order to be good at coding you will need to learn programming languages, but after numerous drills, you’ll get a hang of it. I really love that one saying, “Programming is like writing a book… except if you miss out a single coma on page 126 the whole thing make no sense.” Unfortunately, this is quite true, and once you start learning you’ll see why people pay good money for this job. It’s not impossible to learn on your own, but buckle up for one uncomfortable ride.

                    Also, coding will not get the job done on its own. You’ll need to be a solid web designer to create a website that someone would buy. We have all seen poorly designed sites and did not bother to check what they were about, since no one is impressed with sloppy work. Once you master coding, go through some web design guides, and build your own website as a portfolio. You can start as a freelancer, and you’ll be able to find a job offer rather quickly. In other words, if you are looking for a high-paying self-learning skill to master, you can’t possibly go wrong with this one.

                    10. Learn how to present what you are capable of

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                      Finally, in order to get the job and be chosen over your competitors, you’ll have to know how to present yourself. After all, you only got one shot at a first impression. Find out how to build your resume, find out what is required of you as an employee, and how to adequately express yourself during a job interview. You can be brilliant, but if you lack certain qualities of a good employee, you’ll have a hard time monetizing your skill-set. We commonly feel nervous during these situations. However, if you can manage to navigate through the interview correctly, you can score your first job.

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                      Can a Dysfunctional Family Become Functional?

                      Can a Dysfunctional Family Become Functional?

                      A dysfunctional family is more than disagreement or constant arguments. Anything from plain neglect, to abuse and even verbal and physical violence is the everyday experience of those who are part of a dysfunctional family.

                      You know how this looks:

                      • Parents constantly comparing children.
                      • Siblings in conflict because of tolerated bullying.
                      • Domestic violence.
                      • Adultery…
                      • And many others.

                      For all the members, this will mean emotional pain and even trauma; which, in case it doesn’t get resolved, will have a detrimental effect on the individual’s personality and development.

                      Needless to say, the younger members are the most vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean the parents are out of danger, as most commonly the parents play the roles of abuser-codependent, and in some cases, both parts inflicting pain on one another.

                      Most like to think these problems stem from deep-seated issues, and that therefore it’s pretty much impossible to deal with them.

                      This is only true for families not willing to do what it takes, for if only a single member is determined and knows how to do it, the whole family can do a lot of progress.

                      In this article, I’ll break down for you the basic steps of fixing a dysfunctional family. Although it may seem hopeless, it is possible to turn things around.

                      If you have ever felt in this position, or if you know somebody who is, this article is for you.

                      How to fix a dysfunctional family

                      In a few words the solution for a dysfunctional family lies in dropping the ego, focusing on the solution, switching blame for responsibility and doing the work as a unity, for the good of the whole family.

                      And this will accomplish things you once only saw as a dream.

                      Dropping the ego? Switching blame for responsibility? Doing the work? What does all this mean?

                      It’s simple. In a nutshell, it’s that which will allow you to turn a dysfunctional family into a functional one.

                      Let’s take a look at how exactly this can be done. And near the end we will also talk about what you can do in a dysfunctional family with cynical traits.

                      Dysfunctional families where not only problems are well-known, but also nobody seems to want a fix or openly decide to perpetuate the harmful behaviors. Such as the case of abuse and physical violence.

                      There is also a solution for these, it’s just not what you are expecting…

                      Dysfunctional… Or just average?

                      Most families are dysfunctional, though at varying degrees of dysfunctionality.

                      The milder cases, are just marked by “typical” comically-shrouded bullying or lack of interest in other members’ development or wellbeing.

                      You can know a family is dysfunctional if their interactions are anything different than cooperation, solidarity, care and support. But let’s get more specific…

                      A dysfunctional family is one in which members directly or indirectly suffer emotional and/or physical harm inflicted by other members of their family. Most commonly, perpetrated by the parents.

                      Even harmful actions as “passive” as neglect, which is inflicted by inaction rather than action, signifies a dysfunction within the family.

                      Dysfunctional families have conflicts such as:

                      • Unrealistic expectations
                      • Lack of interest and time spent together
                      • Sexism
                      • Utilitarianism
                      • Lack of empathy
                      • Unequal or unfair treatment
                      • Disrespect towards boundaries
                      • Control Issues
                      • Jealousy
                      • Verbal and physical abuse
                      • Violence and even sexual misconduct or abuse

                      The link to productivity

                      You may think a dysfunctional family has very little or nothing to do with personal productivity, but you would be wrong in thinking this way…

                      If a person is not emotionally well, she will not be able to perform as desired, as the emotional harm that has been inflicted will hinder everyday performance in the way of inability to concentrate, lack of mental clarity and low levels of inspiration, motivation and discipline.

                      Having a functional family does exactly the opposite: It creates productive members with no emotional baggage.

                      How to turn it around

                      When you’re part of a dysfunctional family you know it. You can quickly identify in other members the behaviors and conflicts that create the dysfunction.

                      But just in case you’re having trouble telling functional from dysfunctional I will tell you the following:

                      One of the easiest ways you can recognize if you are in a dysfunctional family is to survey your won feelings.

                      We often overlook this, but have you stopped to ask yourself how you feel?

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                      As cheesy as it may sound it really sheds a lot of light on the subject.

                      What behaviors, actions and attitudes in your family you wish were better?

                      Do you think certain behaviors and actions from your family marked you in the past?

                      Sadly, we cannot go back to the past to correct it. But we can do a lot in the present…

                      Correction is possible

                      In order to fix a dysfunctional family, you must start by putting an end to the behaviors and actions that are affecting you.

                      Verbalize it.

                      All members of the dysfunctional family have one issue in common: They don’t put a stop to the harm.

                      Whenever you feel your boundaries being overstepped there is just one single word you have to remember: STOP.

                      This is the door to a better, more functional family, because after this, comes the fix.

                      But first you have to identify and make others know where exactly lies the problem.

                      So go ahead and fearlessly start with “Stop”, followed by your expression of dissatisfaction.

                      Putting it to work in real life

                      In real life it would be something like this:

                      “OK, stop! Every time you belittle me I feel you don’t care. I need attention and respect, and it is your responsibility as my family to provide them to me”

                      Or:

                      “Stop. When you compare me with my cousin it hurts, I feel like I don’t matter and that’s not ok. I ask you to stop doing it.

                      Or:

                      “Please stop. When you start yelling all respect is lost and it turns into a battle of who can do it louder. Don’t raise your voice and let’s work this out the way humans do”.

                      As you can see, here you start by putting a stop to the toxic behavior when it arises. And afterwards you verbalize why it’s wrong and what needs of you need to be fulfilled.

                      This is what you have to remember:

                      1-Stop.

                      2-Why it’s wrong?

                      3-What you need.

                      And this will also work well in case you need to do it for another family member.

                      It’s a family thing

                      A dysfunctional family cannot be fixed by one member alone.

                      Yes, a single member can initiate progress and be the leader of the change. But in order to completely become functional all members must contribute to the solution.

                      In other words, you will need cooperation…

                      So don’t be afraid of asking for it!

                      Approach your family member and ask to be listened.

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                      We sometimes feel our needs are “not that important” or we simply believe they won’t listen. But thinking like this would be like being defeated at an unfought battle.

                      You will be amazed by how much people listen when you voice your needs, especially if it implies showing yourself open, vulnerable and in need.

                      It’s not a free-for-all battle

                      In order to get your family to cooperate, first you must fix your individual relationships with every member of the family. Remember: Relationships are always between two people, and two people only.

                      No matter how complex, the quality of a multi-member relationship (like a family) will always depend on the quality of the individual relationships.

                      Once you have straightened the relationship with every member of the dysfunctional family you will be able to better communicate with other members and help in the betterment of their individual relationship.

                      And this is where we will talk about the fix itself. The one I mentioned in the introduction…

                      The method

                      1. Drop the ego

                      Wherever there is conflict there is ego.

                      You cannot fix a relationship where there is ego, because the ego will want to win. Always. Yours and the other person.

                      Ego craves control and satisfaction, and in many cases, to establish dominance.

                      What does this have to do with a dysfunctional family? Everything. Ego will interfere with every plan you have to fix it.

                      It will make people suborn and defensive. And it will also make them drop responsibility. This is why, the first step is to drop the ego.

                      After you make sure you are not going to allow your ego to interfere you must work to make the other person do the same. How? By speaking from the heart…

                      Tell the other person how important all this is to you.

                      Tell the other person that it’s not a matter of arguing, but just working things out together.

                      Point out how it is not possible for you to do it alone.

                      And ask for sincere attention without any desire of opposition, because what you are doing is by no means in the hopes of harming the other person, but just to better the relationship and stop the damage being dealt to you.

                      You will have to point out the mistakes you need corrected, that’s for sure. And that leads me to the next point…

                      2. Not blame, but responsibility

                      When talking about others’ mistakes we often use an accusatory tone. And that’s natural, it’s what things should be like if ego was not present.

                      But since we are all creatures of ego, this immediately brings the shields up. And then unsheathes the swords…

                      When we blame others they automatically enter a defensive state, and this only leads to a failed negotiation.

                      What you need to do is to shift from blame to responsibility. And even that will have to be done carefully!

                      Instead of telling them off or demanding change or complaining, calmly point what the problem with their behavior is.

                      As much as this feels contradictory, also make them feel understood. You know how difficult it is to accept a mistake, so just make them feel it’s no big fuzz… which does not mean it’s ok, but it takes tension off.

                      You will do something like this:

                      “Hello dad. Can I talk with you for a minute? I really need to tell you something.

                      I have been feeling pretty sad lately and I know this is something you do care about.

                      You see, whenever I talk about my accomplishments you mention something else that makes my achievement pale in comparison.

                      I know you don’t do this intentionally and I know you might have not realized this until now, but I want to let you know this really brings me down.

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                      It would mean a lot to me if you could stop doing it, and it would help better our relationship, because this has already forced me to distance myself from you. And I don’t want that, I want a good, healthy relationship with you”

                      What happened here?

                      We started off with making it something important, something that needs both time and attention. Then we openly show ourselves vulnerable, just as we are.

                      We also mention why he should listen, and shove our feelings there again, because they are important.

                      We describe the issue with no attachment and with no hostile intention. It’s just a description.

                      And then we take the blame off. Just before we assign responsibility without actually saying it.

                      You are not blaming him directly, but you are pointing out the inevitable fact that his actions are causing a dysfunctionality. He is now responsible for changing.

                      This is what “switching blame for responsibility” means. What comes next? Doing the work!

                      3. Doing the work

                      What would any of this mean if, in the end, nothing changes? Exactly, nothing!

                      This is why you must follow up with every change that needs to be done.

                      Do so in a manner that is not hostile. Bring it up in a casual manner, and emphasizing how you both reached an agreement and how that is important to the family.

                      If the person doesn’t follow up don’t hesitate to bring it up again, and tell them you feel disappointed that your honest try at it was not listened.

                      It may even be a subject in itself, and therefore the need for another conversation.

                      “When you go back to old habits it shows that you didn’t really care about what I said. But back in real life you just reinforce how much contempt you show towards me and my feelings.

                      I talk with you because I care. Because although it would be easier for me to just distance myself from you I rather do my part in nurturing this relationship.

                      But there is just so much I can do, if you refuse to do your part I can do nothing else.”

                      You need very clear and positive communication in order to make this work.

                      Love is all you need

                      You must remember that in order for a dysfunctional family to become functional, all the work needs to stem from love.

                      That is the single one requirement for all this to work: Love.

                      And what happens if it simply is not there?

                      What happens if, nobody is willing to do what it takes?

                      What happens if a member of the family refuses to change and is happy with the harm he or she is dealing?

                      There is only one thing you can do:

                      To break away.

                      Let’s be honest, people, especially adults, are very difficult to change.

                      There is a Jewish proverb that I love, which sums it up like this:

                      “We spend the rest of our lives trying to unlearn what we learned before we were 7”

                      If you find it very hard to change the very traits that make your family dysfunctional or if it’s simply impossible, you still have a card up your sleeve…

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                      Although nobody likes to beak away from family members, we must remember we have a responsibility with ourselves as individuals, before any relationship with anyone.

                      You have the responsibility of making yourself happy and free. Because you matter as an individual, regardless of any relationships you have, be it family, friendship or romantic.

                      Putting distance

                      So in case you are dealing with a family member who is simply unwilling to change take both physical and emotional distance.

                      What do I mean?

                      Learn, first, to take their damage in a detached manner.

                      Don’t let it hurt you further. Instead take a deep breath and distance yourself emotionally.

                      Don’t be attached to feelings such as “Why doesn’t she love me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?” or “If he wasn’t like that my life would be perfect”.

                      Simply refuse to keep participating in the emotional downward spiral and accept, even if it’s painful” that there is nothing you can do. Accept that even without that relationship you are whole, you are worthy of love and respect.

                      They are their responsibility and you are yours. So decide what is best for you.

                      Realize it only comes down to two possibilities:

                      I keep the relationship and therefore accept the abuse. Or…

                      I choose my peace of mind.

                      And don’t let your mind fool you. We often think that since we all are imperfect, we must take the good and the bad behaviors of people. And we are especially forgiving towards our family…

                      Well, guess what? We are also responsible adults who are aware and must own to their acts. Never excuse abuse or violence or transgression towards you or anybody else.

                      Choose your happiness and if possible, also distance yourself physically, as it will increase your peace of mind tenfold.

                      How to prevent it

                      There are two key concepts you must bear in mind in order to prevent the dysfunctionality of a family:

                      • To be completely aware of one’s own mistakes and not allow them to impact others and…
                      • To make sure our SO’s are also on the same channel before creating a family (i.e. having children)

                      Dysfunctional families are the product of irresponsible paternity, for the decades-long unresolved emotional conflict ends up surfacing in the family inevitably, and it will for sure harm those who least deserve it: Innocent children.

                      You may notice we went from talking about family, to talking about individual relationships, to talking about you. We went from “them” to “us” to “me”.

                      Why? Because in the end you have the power to fix a dysfunctional family. To correct the mistakes you have in yours and to prevent dysfunctionalities if you don’t have a family but plan to create one.

                      Priorities and clear thought

                      You may be part of a dysfunctional family, but that does not mean you are powerless or that you have to suffer the consequences.

                      You learned today how it’s all a matter of priorities and thinking clearly.

                      You learned that, if love exists, everything is possible. You learned that even when there is no love and no fix for your dysfunctional family, there are still things you can do. It’s a matter of choosing your peace, because you deserve it.

                      Everything will be better if you apply this knowledge. If you talk to that problematic family member. If you help them see the harm they are doing. If you make sure they do change and treat you the way you need to be treated…

                      If you choose yourself over that toxic family member. If you refuse to justify the harm that others can do to yourself. If you realize the most important relationship you have is with yourself.

                      And lastly, that you also have to be aware of your actions and be open to criticism. Because we might be unknowingly harming others. And that would be us creating a dysfunctionality. Don’t allow it to happen.

                      Dysfunctional families are not impossible to fix. It just takes love, cooperation and responsibility.

                      But if you tried and those elements are not present, just choose yourself instead.

                      Featured photo credit: Photo by Juliane Liebermann on Unsplash via unsplash.com

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