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8 Ways a Trip to New Orleans Will Heal Your Soul

8 Ways a Trip to New Orleans Will Heal Your Soul

Call it the Crescent City or call it the Big Easy. Either way, New Orleans holds a unique place in the American myth. With its history of disasters—yellow fever, multiple hurricanes—or its varied cultural history—first French, then Spanish, then French again, then American, then Confederate, then American, then Frat—New Orleans is probably the most unique city in America. For all these reasons, a trip there will do wonders for your soul, and we have put together a list of exactly how. We hope, by the end, we will have you saying, “WHO DAT!”

1. It’s so humid, it’s like you’re doing everything in a sauna.

The first thing you will notice is the humidity. On the initial day of my recent vacation, it was 92 degrees Fahrenheit with 96% humidity. Ninety-six percent! If I’m not mistaken, that’s basically means it’s raining without water falling from the sky. When you go to other vacation spots, you’ll pay a pretty penny to sit in that level of humidity, but New Orleans just naturally produces it.

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2. Bourbon Street

This is family-friendly article, so I cannot be too lurid in the descriptions of what I saw on Bourbon Street. In general terms, my friends and I arrived via plane on a random Thursday night during what is not considered tourist season, with plans to go to a jazz club and generally relax the first day. Not so—by the ending of the night, I was shouting that I was The Bourbon Cowboy (the name of a bar) and my friends were dancing to keep homeless people from asking them for money. Also, a drag queen purposefully threw beads from a second story balcony that nailed me in the back of the head. New Orleans is full of weird chaos, and it will challenge how self-controlled you are. (Hint: You do not have enough self-control, because no one does.)

3. There is enough art that the whole city is essentially a museum.

One block from Bourbon Street is Royal Street, which is a local strip of fine art galleries. On Royal Street, I found pop-art depictions of superheroes, Gothic paintings of voodoo ceremonies, and uniquely Cajun paintings of the city, not to mention other people practicing art in the forms of chandelier-making, hot-sauce-making, and various forms of miming. There is so much culture here it is falling out of the city’s ears. I also spent a significant amount of time at Jackson Square, which is where all the street performers spend their days. Those are indescribable.

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4. There is more music than anywhere I can think of.

It seemed, at any given time, at least fifty percent of the city’s native population was carrying a musical instrument. The home to such varied musical styles as that of Lil’ Wayne, Fats Domino, and Harrick Connick, Jr, the city has an amazing knack for starting musicians off right. Every bar had someone willing to strum a guitar or to dance around. If you get sick of Bourbon Street, head over to Frenchman Street—it’s where the locals hang out, watching one of the scores of bands that play at dozens of bars every single day of the week.

5. The gay community doesn’t just exist—it will try to convert you.

There’s nothing better for your soul than having your belief system challenged, and while, as a straight man, I am generally supportive of the LGBT lifestyle, the gay community in New Orleans uses its unique blend of Southern hospitality and fighting gusto to get you. I don’t know what else to say other than to relate that, right after I was hit with the beads, I went into a nearby bar to relieve myself, only to be treated to an unclothed, voodoo version of Times Squares’ Naked Cowboy—and somehow, I didn’t bat an eye.

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6. The food is wholly unique and soul-cleansing.

Starting with the names to describe popular dishes—jambalaya, etouffee, gumbo,atchafalaya—the food is like nothing you’ve ever had. Using various forms of shellfish as the base, each dish is one-hundred-percent unique and totally amazing. I found myself saying, “This is the best food I’ve ever had,” at every meal, and I may have actually meant it at The Rum House, where I had savory oyster tacos and sweet duck tacos. Also, don’t forget to try the alligator sausage. It tastes like chicken. And save room for the beignets.

7. The spiritual energy is amazing.

New Orleans is clearly a city of natural rebirth. Combine the history of disasters, the bleaching of the streets every morning, and the blend of intense Catholicism, voodoo, and occult practices, and New Orleans truly believes in spiritual rebirth. And don’t just take it from me, take from the dozens of psychics on every street, or from my friend who regained confidence about his recent home purchase by talking to a tarot card reader, or from my other friend, who is convinced she saw the Ghost of Madame Delphine LaLaurie. I even saw someone selling statues of the Hindu demi-god Ganesha. Higher powers are everywhere here. Reach out and connect with one.

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8. Absolutely no one will judge you.

No other city is so un-apologetically itself than New Orleans. And the people there, whether it be the numerous tourists or the hard-boiled (almost literally) locals, all know that no one comes to New Orleans to have their way of living scrutinized. This uniquely Cajun vibe creates an atmosphere that let’s you be one-hundred percent who you are supposed to be. By the afternoon of our first full day, I found that my cheeks were incredibly sore. You know how that happened? I was smiling, ear-to-ear, almost every second. That’s how New Orleans will cleanse your soul.

Featured photo credit: Hannah Healy/Bourbon Street via flickr.com

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How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life. To control your thoughts means to influence the way you live your life.

Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affects your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality)

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive, and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Be someone who can control your thoughts—become the master of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

I currently have a few thoughts that are not of my choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in control of your thoughts.

If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create unhealthy and unproductive thoughts.

1. The Inner Critic

This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

  • Other people’s words—many times your parents
  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples’ expectations
  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media
  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance, and lack of self-love.

Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is youwhy else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

2. The Worrier

This person lives in the future—in the world of “what ifs.”

The Worrier is motivated by fear, which is often irrational and has no basis. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

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3. The Reactor or Troublemaker

This is the one that triggers anger, frustration, and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

This person can be set off by words or feelings and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control. He is run by past programming that no longer serves you—if it ever did.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity, and generalized anxiety
  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

How can you control these squatters?

How to Master Your Mind

You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You can control your thoughts, but you must pay attention to them so you can identify “who” is running the show—this will determine which technique you will want to use.

Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

There are two ways to control your thoughts:

  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

This second option is what is known as peace of mind.

The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go-to” thoughts in applicable situations.

Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

1. For the Inner Critic

When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

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You can also have a dialogue with yourself to discredit the ‘voice’ that created the thought—if you know whose voice it is:

“Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready.

This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

  • They rile up the Worrier.
  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

2. For the Worrier

Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally, and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind, and creates anxiety in the body. This may make it more difficult for you to control your thoughts effectively.

You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tense

Use the above-stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time, you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

“Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense. Both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

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Now, take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like! Do it until you feel that you’re close to being in control of your thoughts.

Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

For example: If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place.

Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

“Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

3. For the Troublemaker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers. But until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain.

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds—just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

Breathe in through your nose:

  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
  • Focus on your belly rising.

Breathe out through your nose:

  • Feel your lungs emptying.
  • Focus on your belly falling.
  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize. Now, you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior, and you’ll be more in control of your thoughts.

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One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

4. For the Sleep Depriver

(They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher, and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
  2. Then I came up with a replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and thoughts, and I choose quiet.

From the first time I tried this method, I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (closed, of course). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

You can also use this technique any time you want to:

  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon
  • Shut down your thinking
  • Calm your feelings
  • Simply focus on the present moment

The Bottom Line

Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or destructive purposes.

You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable, and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. You can be in control of your thoughts. The choice is yours!

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