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10 Signs That You’re Dating An Emotional Psychopath

10 Signs That You’re Dating An Emotional Psychopath

While everyone can relate to a bad dating experience, not everyone understands what it’s like to date someone who is emotionally unstable and abusive. As a result, your friends may try to reassure you that everything is okay and that it will all work out in the end. Well, it’s time for a wake-up call!

If your significant other exhibits some of the following 10 signs, it’s fair to come to the conclusion that you’re dating an emotional psychopath.

1. They Lack Empathy

Does your partner not seem to have any emotions whatsoever? They don’t have to be overly emotional, but there should certainly be signs of sympathy and empathy. If you’ve gone through issues in your relationship and there’s never been any display of compassion or vulnerability, something’s wrong.

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2. They Lie All the Time

Does your partner show signs of being a habitual liar? They don’t even have to be major fibs – little white lies are the same. Emotional psychopaths have a tendency to lie about everything, which provides an unstable foundation for a relationship.

3. They Humiliate You in Front of People

Your significant other is supposed to support and encourage you. If they are always humiliating you in front of other people, it means they don’t care about your feelings and would rather tear you down than build you up.

4. They Crave Attention but Don’t Give Any

An emotional psychopath thrives on attention. However, the ironic thing is that they rarely give attention in return. They want you to tend to their needs, but you’ll be hard-pressed to see them do the same. This unhealthy cycle leads to a one-sided relationship.

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5. They Always Place the Blame on You

The blame-game is all too familiar with emotional psychopaths. They never take responsibility for their actions and always expect someone else to take the fall. Sound familiar?

6. They Isolate You

Because emotional psychopaths crave attention, they want to make sure you don’t give any to anyone else. They do this by isolating you from your friends and family members. They’ll discourage you from leaving the house and may even try to convince you that you don’t need other people – because you have all you could ever need in them.

7. They Blackmail You

If you ever do something that your partner doesn’t like, they’ll rarely confront you in a gentle or compassionate way. Instead, they’ll become enraged and may even blackmail you. In serious cases, emotional psychopaths may threaten to physically harm themselves.

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8. They Never Show Remorse

Despite all of the bad things they do – and the frequency with which they hurt you – emotional psychopaths rarely show remorse. The words “I’m sorry” aren’t in their vocabulary, no matter the situation. In fact, they’re more likely to try and convince you that the problems in your relationship are your fault.

9. They Have a Sadistic Sense of Humor

Everyone has a different sense of humor, but emotional psychopaths are on their own level. They find humor in things that most people find unlawful or disgusting. While it may only seem strange at first, it evolves over time and becomes creepy and disturbing.

10. They are Extremely Charming at Times

Ironically enough, despite all of the negative behaviors they exhibit, emotional psychopaths are often extremely charismatic and charming. This is a big part of the issue. Just when you’ve had enough, they turn on their charm and convince you that everything’s going to be alright. It’s during these times that you have to remember the rest of the story.

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It’s Time to Move On

Do any of these 10 signs sound familiar? If so, stand up for yourself and end the relationship. The sooner you do so, the better off you’ll be.

Featured photo credit: markus spiske via imcreator.com

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Anna Johansson

Anna is a freelance writer, researcher, and business consultant.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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