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This Is Why Extroverted Introverts Make Great Partners

This Is Why Extroverted Introverts Make Great Partners

Being an extroverted introvert is becoming an increasing phenomenon. They are fun, pumped up and could be interesting people to be with. Celebrities like Julia Roberts, David Letterman and Clint Eastwood are all extroverted introverts.

There is nothing wrong with any of these individuals; they just would want to give a new face to their introverted persona by doing well to adjust on certain occasions to the needs of their environment. Rather than switch off like introverts, they still would show some signs of the extroverts. If you are dating an extroverted introvert you should know that you are getting a mixed blend of two identities. And these can be great.

1. They are not extreme

You shouldn’t expect extreme partying or hanging out from them. They could chill out during day time on a Saturday drinking with friends. But they will still return home on time to be with their loved one. They prefer to have their activities in limited doses rather than go for extreme fun.

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2. They could warm up to your family

Extroverted introverts are able to adapt to new surroundings real quick. Even if they may get mentally drained within a short period of time, they still would do well to make the other person like them. Certainly your family won’t find them less a person they can communicate to.

3. They are unconventional

They do not follow societal constructs. They wouldn’t be doing the same thing every other person is doing. They are unique and are not suited for the traditional system. They bring something multidimensional to the relationship rather than the regular thing.

4. They are in between wild and soft

They are not pretentious about how they feel. They would keep their cool and be less frantic, but if they want sex or want something romantic from you, know that they mean it, know that they really want to get in with you. And this makes them desirable.

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5. They can be mistaken as extroverts during their first date

You may have got caught with them and be thrilled with their extroverted persona on the first date. But they could deviate to who they truly are as time goes on. This makes them eccentric and pushes you to accept them for who they are. What they would demand from you as acceptance and tolerance during a relationship with them.

6. They would offer you the freedom to do your thing

Extroverted introverts won’t stifle you. They won’t be over-demanding or overprotective. They are already consumed and absorbed in their world to pose so many distractions for you.

7. They are creative with their ideas for a romantic night

Even though they don’t socialize often, when they do they try to make a specialty out of every time out with you. They are always ready to dial down the lights and action like offer you an experience at a dark movie theater or a quiet restaurant.

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8. They focus on you

They are not pretty everywhere in their thoughts or desires. They tend to focus. They tend to be with someone and direct their energy at this person. They won’t dilly-dally. Rather they will be attentive to what you can add to them.

9. They are attentive

They work with their environment. And getting the best out of an extroverted introvert depends on how you have been able to make them feel essential and switch them to a comfy environment. They are attentive and would pay attention to what you need because they really can’t handle so much at a time. They are energy level actually is influenced by their environment.

10. They are cool with being who they are

Their lives are not betrayed with insecurities. They just prefer to be what they are and that you love them for it. As time goes on they become pretty predictable and you can get what you expect from them.

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Last Updated on August 4, 2020

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:

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1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.

But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

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“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

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“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.

10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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