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This Is What It’s Really Like To Date An Independent Woman

This Is What It’s Really Like To Date An Independent Woman

An independent woman is unique. She is dynamic and strong. She can be intimidating to certain persons but it does not make her horrible or mean. She simply has rules and boundaries that she wants everyone around her to stick to. Even when you label her as fierce, she still remains a lady. If you are dating an independent woman you should know that there will be lot of exciting experiences to be gained. And it all starts from knowing that an independent woman has a different approach to dating than the norm!

1. She can deal with her problems

It is not about you. She doesn’t need you to help you fix her problems. She has been fixing her problems before you came into the picture. Yes she can clean up her own mess and she doesn’t need to wait around for you to come and help her fix it.

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2. She is not clingy

She won’t try to be all over you in public and not even in private. She is self-sufficient and she would show her love when she feels it is proper to do so. She probably could see you as a person that comes to play a part in their lives however they do not see you as their entire life. So don’t expect her to be cuddling you all through the night and cooking you a hot breakfast and serving it to you when you are in bed. She doesn’t need to do all that in a bid to keep you.

3. She doesn’t need too many friends

She wouldn’t have too many friends coming around. She is in it for qualitative friendships that will offer support rather than be a distraction from her goals. This doesn’t mean she won’t have a lot of acquaintances. However, an independent woman is not likely to waste her time on friendships she does not find worthwhile (just like she won’t waste her time on romantic relationships that aren’t worthwhile).

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4. She values her time

She knows how to balance her time and allocate her energy to the right pursuits. For example, her time is so balanced that she wouldn’t be pursuing her career activities when she should be going to the gym or going to the gym when she should be pursuing her career goals. She values her independence as part of her identity and would always manage her time appropriately.

5. She is fiscally responsible

An independent woman can take care of her finances just right. She doesn’t allow her money lead her, rather she leads it and understands the functionality of it. She won’t enter the relationship with you because she wanted your money or beg for any of it.

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6. She wants to be taken seriously

She doesn’t want her efficiency or abilities to be undermined. An independent woman is worth your time and wants to be valued and appreciated for the work she must have put in to become the woman she is. She will take it as an insult if you do not respect her opinion, motives or what she represents. Rather than undermine or misrepresent her you should do well to be aware of the specifics of what she wants.

7. She inspires you

She lives with a purpose. An independent woman doesn’t date for fun or just to have someone to learn on. She must have seen some potential in you for her to condescend to become your partner. However she has certain expectations from the man she wants to always be with so her ambitious nature will rub off on you. She can be motivator, a confidant, and an equal as you pursue your own goals.

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8. She is loyal

Independent women do not set double standards or expect such from anyone they are in a relationship with. They can be honest and trustworthy. This is because they would only make a decision when they are certain they will go the long haul with it. If you are what an independent woman wants she will give you her everything.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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