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This Is What It’s Really Like To Date An Independent Woman

This Is What It’s Really Like To Date An Independent Woman

An independent woman is unique. She is dynamic and strong. She can be intimidating to certain persons but it does not make her horrible or mean. She simply has rules and boundaries that she wants everyone around her to stick to. Even when you label her as fierce, she still remains a lady. If you are dating an independent woman you should know that there will be lot of exciting experiences to be gained. And it all starts from knowing that an independent woman has a different approach to dating than the norm!

1. She can deal with her problems

It is not about you. She doesn’t need you to help you fix her problems. She has been fixing her problems before you came into the picture. Yes she can clean up her own mess and she doesn’t need to wait around for you to come and help her fix it.

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2. She is not clingy

She won’t try to be all over you in public and not even in private. She is self-sufficient and she would show her love when she feels it is proper to do so. She probably could see you as a person that comes to play a part in their lives however they do not see you as their entire life. So don’t expect her to be cuddling you all through the night and cooking you a hot breakfast and serving it to you when you are in bed. She doesn’t need to do all that in a bid to keep you.

3. She doesn’t need too many friends

She wouldn’t have too many friends coming around. She is in it for qualitative friendships that will offer support rather than be a distraction from her goals. This doesn’t mean she won’t have a lot of acquaintances. However, an independent woman is not likely to waste her time on friendships she does not find worthwhile (just like she won’t waste her time on romantic relationships that aren’t worthwhile).

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4. She values her time

She knows how to balance her time and allocate her energy to the right pursuits. For example, her time is so balanced that she wouldn’t be pursuing her career activities when she should be going to the gym or going to the gym when she should be pursuing her career goals. She values her independence as part of her identity and would always manage her time appropriately.

5. She is fiscally responsible

An independent woman can take care of her finances just right. She doesn’t allow her money lead her, rather she leads it and understands the functionality of it. She won’t enter the relationship with you because she wanted your money or beg for any of it.

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6. She wants to be taken seriously

She doesn’t want her efficiency or abilities to be undermined. An independent woman is worth your time and wants to be valued and appreciated for the work she must have put in to become the woman she is. She will take it as an insult if you do not respect her opinion, motives or what she represents. Rather than undermine or misrepresent her you should do well to be aware of the specifics of what she wants.

7. She inspires you

She lives with a purpose. An independent woman doesn’t date for fun or just to have someone to learn on. She must have seen some potential in you for her to condescend to become your partner. However she has certain expectations from the man she wants to always be with so her ambitious nature will rub off on you. She can be motivator, a confidant, and an equal as you pursue your own goals.

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8. She is loyal

Independent women do not set double standards or expect such from anyone they are in a relationship with. They can be honest and trustworthy. This is because they would only make a decision when they are certain they will go the long haul with it. If you are what an independent woman wants she will give you her everything.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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