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7 Things Pregnant Women Should Do To Make An Intelligent Baby

7 Things Pregnant Women Should Do To Make An Intelligent Baby

Pregnancy should be taken seriously. If you don’t act responsible, consequences can be quite severe. However, we won’t be discussing consequences now, but we’ll focus on the positive side by listing the things every mother can do in order to make an intelligent baby! Like with a lot of other subjects, medical experts don’t have a common theory about concrete things expectant mothers should do, but there are certain points on which they agree… sort of. Various tests have been performed in order to determine what babies respond to, and this is what we found out.

Prepare for Story Time!

Although babies can’t understand the actual words, reading them a story will affect the way they feel about your voice, in fact – they’ll remember it. You should also know that language foundations develop in the womb, and around the third trimester your baby will be able to hear sounds and memorize them. Besides, it’s never too early to start sharing your favorite stories and fairy tales with your babe, so go on, get your favorite book and start reading.

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03 Reading

    Daily Exposure to Sunlight

    The sunshine vitamin – vitamin D – is quite important for you and your baby. Your daily schedule as an expectant mother needs to include about twenty minutes of daily exposure to sunlight. Of course, you need to take care of your skin and apply appropriate creams. This vitamin is the key nutrient that helps your baby develop strong and healthy bones. Some medical experts connect the lack of vitamin D with the development of autism, so you shouldn’t take your chances with this one.

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    Bonding through Massage

    If you want to put in some extra effort into creating a strong bond with your child before that baby is even born, you should do that through the art of touch. When the twentieth week is over, your baby will be able to feel touches, thanks to the fact that its nervous system is developed enough. Some research shows that unborn babies can even tell the difference between a mother’s and a father’s touch. So, what are you waiting for? Grab some essential oils and give your bump a nice long massage! Besides, applying nurturing oils is quite good for expectant mothers, because it helps with avoiding pregnancy stretch marks, and it’s a great way to relax.

    Healthy Rhymes for a Healthy Mind

    We already mentioned how babies-to-be respond to talking, but you’ll get an even better reaction with music and rhymes. When you sing to your bump, it helps your baby with the production of serotonin and other happiness chemicals. If you’re not much of a singer, you can achieve the same effect by playing music, and you can use the tunes you sang and played to calm your baby later.

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    A Diet Focused on Diversity

    01 Foods

      The world is your oyster. You should eat absolutely everything that comes to your mind, except foods rich in mercury. It’s found mostly in certain types of fish like sharks, tuna and swordfish, so you should try to avoid these. However, fish rich in fatty acids like salmon are very good for you, so do your research before you eat. It will be hard at first, because of that awfully uncomfortable morning sickness, but as soon as that is over you’ll need to adopt routines, eat regularly and enjoy healthy portions.

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      Pregnant Women Need Balance

      While you’re pregnant, you need to listen to your body and do exactly what it says. There should be no exhausting or unnecessary strains during those nine months. However, it’s quite important to stay active throughout, because your baby and you both need some exercise. There are all sorts of smart gadgets that will be more than useful when it comes to keeping track of the distance you cover during your walks, and they help a lot with establishing routines and sticking to them. Your days should be all about long rests, healthy meals and exercise – everything else isn’t worth your while.

      No Stress Allowed

      02 Yoga

        The moment you find out you’re pregnant, stress shouldn’t be allowed in your home or outside. Everything and everyone that can cause you to feel anxious or worried need to be taken out of your life for the time being. Your child feels exactly how you feel – even the smallest problem can affect both of you. My suggestion is to work hard on practicing patience through meditation, and perhaps doing some yoga – together, they will cover your daily activity requirements and act as a stress relief mechanism. However, if you’ve never practiced yoga before and you’re thinking about starting now, you shouldn’t. That rule should apply when it comes to all activities – starting with exercising after you find out you’re pregnant will put an additional unneeded strain on your body, which is not something you should allow yourself.

        That pretty much covers it. However, you should read absolutely everything you encounter, and consult your caregiver before you decided to apply any of the methods, no matter how simple or well-intentioned they seem. Every pregnancy is different, so if one women found something to be calming and comfortable, another might not. Just take things slow, think carefully about every decision you plan on making, and your baby and you will be just fine.

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        Ivan Dimitrijevic

        Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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        14 Helpful Tips for Single Parents: How to Stay Sane While Doing it All

        14 Helpful Tips for Single Parents: How to Stay Sane While Doing it All

        According to the U.S. Census Bureau, over 27% of children under the age of 18 are living with a single parent.[1] That’s over 1/4th of the U.S. population.There is a common misconception that children who grow up in single parent homes are not as successful as children living in two-parent homes.

        One crucial detail that was often left out of studies when comparing single and two-parent homes was the stability of the household. There is a correlation between family structure and family stability, but this study shows that children who grow up in stable single-parent homes do as well as those in married households in terms of academic abilities and behavior.

        But providing stability is easier said than done. With only one adult to act as a parent, some tasks are inherently more challenging. However, there are a few helpful things you can do to make the parenting journey a little easier for yourself and stay sane while doing it.

        1. Don’t Neglect Self-Care

        Before anything else can be done, you must be caring for your own needs adequately. Only when you are feeling well-rested and healthy can you be at your best for your children.

        Many parents tend to put their kids’ needs first and their owns last, but that will result in a never-ending cycle of exhaustion and feelings of inadequacy. Make time to eat regularly and healthfully, get plenty of rest, and squeeze in exercise whenever you can. Even a short walk around the neighborhood will help your body get much-needed movement and fresh air.

        Your children depend on you, and it’s up to you to make sure that you are well-equipped and ready to take on that responsibility.

        2. Join Forces with Other Single Parents

        At times, it may seem like you’re the only person who knows what it’s like to be a single parent. However, the statistics say that there are many others who know exactly what you’re going through.

        Find single parents locally, through your kid’s school, extracurricular activities, or even an app. There are also numerous online communities that can offer support and advice, through Facebook or sites like Single Mom Nation.

        Although single moms make up the majority of single parents, there are more than 2.6 million single dads in the U.S. A great way to connect is through Meetup. Other single parents will more than happy to arrange babysitting swaps, playdates, and carpools.

        Join forces in order to form mutually beneficial relationships.

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        3. Build a Community

        In addition to finding support with other single parents, also build a community comprised of families of all different types. Rather than focus solely on the single parent aspect of your identity, look for parents and kids who share other things in common.

        Join a playgroup, get plugged in at a church, or get to know the parents of the kids involved in the same extracurricular activities. Having a community of a variety of people and families will bring diversity and excitement into your and your kids’ lives.

        4. Accept Help

        Don’t try to be a superhero and do it all yourself. There are probably people in your life who care about you and your kids and want to help you. Let them know what types of things would be most appreciated, whether it’s bringing meals once a week, helping with rides to school, or giving you time to yourself.

        There is no shame in asking for help and accepting assistance from loved ones. You will not be perceived as weak or incompetent. You are being a good parent by being resourceful and allowing others to give you a much-needed break.

        5. Get Creative with Childcare

        Raising a child on a single income is a challenge, with the high cost of daycares, nannies, and other conventional childcare services. More affordable options are possible if you go a less traditional route.

        If you have space and live in a college town, offer a college student housing in exchange for regular childcare. Or swap kids with other single parents so that your kids have friends to play with while the parents get time to themselves.

        When I was younger, my parents had a group of five family friends, and all of the children would rotate to a different house each day of the week, during the summer months. The kids would have a great time playing with each other, and the parents’ job becomes a lot easier. That’s what you would call a win-win situation.

        6. Plan Ahead for Emergencies

        As a single parent, a backup plan or two is a must in emergency situations. Make a list of people you know you can call in a moment’s notice. There will be times in which you need help, and it’s important to know ahead of time who you can rely on.

        Look into whether or not your area offers emergency babysitting services or a drop-in daycare. Knowing who will be able to care for your child in the event of an emergency can relieve one potential source of anxiety in stressful situations.

        7. Create a Routine

        Routines are crucial for young children because knowing what to expect gives them a semblance of control. This is even more important when in a single parent home.

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        If the child travels between homes or has multiple caretakers, life can seem extremely chaotic and unpredictable. Establish a routine and schedule for your child as much as possible. This can include bedtime, before/after school, chores, meal times, and even a weekend routine.

        Having a routine does not mean things cannot change. It is merely a default schedule to fall back on when no additional events or activities are going on. When your children know what to expect, they will be less resistant because they know what to expect, and days will run much more smoothly.

        8. Be Consistent with Rules and Discipline

        If your child has multiple caretakers, such as another parent, grandparent, or babysitter, communicate clearly on how discipline will be handled. Talk to your ex, if you are sharing custody, as well as any other caretakers about the rules and the agreed-upon approach to discipline.

        When a child realizes that certain rules can be bent with certain people, he/she will use it to their advantage, causing additional issues with limits, behavior, and discipline down the road.

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        9. Stay Positive

        Everyone has heard the saying, “Mind over matter.” But there really is so much power behind your mentality. It can change your perspective and make a difficult situation so much better.

        Your kids will be able to detect even the smallest shift in your attitude. When the responsibilities of motherhood are overwhelming, stay focused on the positive things in your life, such as your friends and family. This will produce a much more stable home environment.

        Maintain your sense of humor and don’t be afraid to be silly. Look towards the future and the great things that are still to come for you and your family. Rediscover and redefine your family values.

        10. Move Past the Guilt

        In a single parent home, it is impossible to act as both parents, regardless of how hard you try. Let go of the things that you cannot do as a single parent, and instead, think of the great things you ARE able to provide for your children.

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        Leave behind the notion that life would be easier or better with two parents. This is simply not true. There is a multitude of pros and cons to all family dynamics, and the one you are providing for your kids now is the one that they need.

        Don’t get bogged down by guilt or regret. Take control of your life and be the best parent you can by being present and engaged with them on a daily basis.

        11. Answer Questions Honestly

        Your kids may have questions about why their home situation is different from many of their friends. When asked, don’t sugarcoat the situation or give them an answer that is not accurate.

        Depending on their age, take this opportunity to explain the truth of what happened and how the current circumstances came about. Not all families have two parents, whether that is due to divorce, death, or whatever else life brings.

        Don’t give more detail than necessary or talk badly about the other parent. But strive to be truthful and honest. Your children will benefit more from your candor than a made-up story.

        12. Treat Kids Like Kids

        In the absence of a partner, it can be tempting to rely on your children for comfort, companionship, or sympathy. But your kids are not equipped to play this role for you.

        There are many details within an adult relationship that children are not able to understand or process, and it will only cause confusion and resentment.

        Do not take out your anger on your kids. Separate your emotional needs from your role as a mother. If you find yourself depending on your kids too much, look for adult friends or family members that you can talk to about your issues.

        13. Find Role Models

        Find positive role models of the opposite sex for your child. It’s crucial that your child does not form negative associations with an entire gender of people.

        Find close friends or family members that would be willing to spend one-on-one time with your kids. Encourage them to form meaningful relationships with people that you trust and that they can look up to.

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        Role models can make a huge difference in the path that a child decides to take, so be intentional about the ones that you put in your kids’ lives.

        14. Be Affectionate and Give Praise

        Your children need your affection and praise on a daily basis. Engage with your kids as often as possible by playing with them, going on outings, and encouraging open dialogue.

        Affirm them in the things that they are doing well, no matter how small. Praise their efforts, rather than their achievements. This will inspire them to continue to put forth hard work and not give up when success is not achieved.

        Rather than spending money on gifts, spend time and effort in making lasting memories.

        Final Thoughts

        Being a single parent is a challenging responsibility to take on. Without the help of a partner to fall back on, single parents have a lot more to take on.

        However, studies show that growing up in a single parent home does not have a negative effect on achievement in school. As long as the family is a stable and safe environment, kids are able to excel and do well in life.

        Use these tips in order to be a reliable and capable parent for your kids, while maintaining your own well-being and sanity.

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