Advertising

7 Things Pregnant Women Should Do To Make An Intelligent Baby

Advertising
7 Things Pregnant Women Should Do To Make An Intelligent Baby

Pregnancy should be taken seriously. If you don’t act responsible, consequences can be quite severe. However, we won’t be discussing consequences now, but we’ll focus on the positive side by listing the things every mother can do in order to make an intelligent baby! Like with a lot of other subjects, medical experts don’t have a common theory about concrete things expectant mothers should do, but there are certain points on which they agree… sort of. Various tests have been performed in order to determine what babies respond to, and this is what we found out.

Prepare for Story Time!

Although babies can’t understand the actual words, reading them a story will affect the way they feel about your voice, in fact – they’ll remember it. You should also know that language foundations develop in the womb, and around the third trimester your baby will be able to hear sounds and memorize them. Besides, it’s never too early to start sharing your favorite stories and fairy tales with your babe, so go on, get your favorite book and start reading.

Advertising

03 Reading

    Daily Exposure to Sunlight

    The sunshine vitamin – vitamin D – is quite important for you and your baby. Your daily schedule as an expectant mother needs to include about twenty minutes of daily exposure to sunlight. Of course, you need to take care of your skin and apply appropriate creams. This vitamin is the key nutrient that helps your baby develop strong and healthy bones. Some medical experts connect the lack of vitamin D with the development of autism, so you shouldn’t take your chances with this one.

    Advertising

    Bonding through Massage

    If you want to put in some extra effort into creating a strong bond with your child before that baby is even born, you should do that through the art of touch. When the twentieth week is over, your baby will be able to feel touches, thanks to the fact that its nervous system is developed enough. Some research shows that unborn babies can even tell the difference between a mother’s and a father’s touch. So, what are you waiting for? Grab some essential oils and give your bump a nice long massage! Besides, applying nurturing oils is quite good for expectant mothers, because it helps with avoiding pregnancy stretch marks, and it’s a great way to relax.

    Healthy Rhymes for a Healthy Mind

    We already mentioned how babies-to-be respond to talking, but you’ll get an even better reaction with music and rhymes. When you sing to your bump, it helps your baby with the production of serotonin and other happiness chemicals. If you’re not much of a singer, you can achieve the same effect by playing music, and you can use the tunes you sang and played to calm your baby later.

    Advertising

    A Diet Focused on Diversity

    01 Foods

      The world is your oyster. You should eat absolutely everything that comes to your mind, except foods rich in mercury. It’s found mostly in certain types of fish like sharks, tuna and swordfish, so you should try to avoid these. However, fish rich in fatty acids like salmon are very good for you, so do your research before you eat. It will be hard at first, because of that awfully uncomfortable morning sickness, but as soon as that is over you’ll need to adopt routines, eat regularly and enjoy healthy portions.

      Advertising

      Pregnant Women Need Balance

      While you’re pregnant, you need to listen to your body and do exactly what it says. There should be no exhausting or unnecessary strains during those nine months. However, it’s quite important to stay active throughout, because your baby and you both need some exercise. There are all sorts of smart gadgets that will be more than useful when it comes to keeping track of the distance you cover during your walks, and they help a lot with establishing routines and sticking to them. Your days should be all about long rests, healthy meals and exercise – everything else isn’t worth your while.

      No Stress Allowed

      Advertising

      02 Yoga

        The moment you find out you’re pregnant, stress shouldn’t be allowed in your home or outside. Everything and everyone that can cause you to feel anxious or worried need to be taken out of your life for the time being. Your child feels exactly how you feel – even the smallest problem can affect both of you. My suggestion is to work hard on practicing patience through meditation, and perhaps doing some yoga – together, they will cover your daily activity requirements and act as a stress relief mechanism. However, if you’ve never practiced yoga before and you’re thinking about starting now, you shouldn’t. That rule should apply when it comes to all activities – starting with exercising after you find out you’re pregnant will put an additional unneeded strain on your body, which is not something you should allow yourself.

        That pretty much covers it. However, you should read absolutely everything you encounter, and consult your caregiver before you decided to apply any of the methods, no matter how simple or well-intentioned they seem. Every pregnancy is different, so if one women found something to be calming and comfortable, another might not. Just take things slow, think carefully about every decision you plan on making, and your baby and you will be just fine.

        More by this author

        Ivan Dimitrijevic

        Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

        10 Secrets of Making Every Presentation Fun, Engaging, and Enjoyable 7 Steps to Reinventing Yourself and Reach Your Goals 50 New Year’s Resolution Ideas And How To Achieve Each Of Them 40 Amazing Date Ideas for Valentine’s Day 8 Fun and Unique Birthday Party Ideas for People in Their 20s

        Trending in Parenting

        1 How to Get Kids to Listen And Respect You 2 Parallel Parenting vs Co-Parenting: How To Know Which Is Best For You? 3 10 Best Podcasts For Kids to Enjoy While Learning at the Same Time 4 20 Healthy and Tasty Family Meals Ideas to Try This Week 5 Bedtimes For Kids At Different Ages (Your Go-To Guide)

        Read Next

        Advertising
        Advertising

        Published on August 26, 2021

        How to Get Kids to Listen And Respect You

        Advertising
        How to Get Kids to Listen And Respect You

        Do your kids listen to you the first time you ask them to do something? If not, then you may have to keep reading. Kids will truly listen when there is mutual respect between you and them. They will listen to you when they know that when you say something, you mean it.

        Here are ten tips on how to get your kids to listen and respect you.

        1. Show Mutual Respect

        You can get kids to listen by demanding authority and ruling with an iron fist, but at what cost? You can yell and scream your kids into submission and obedience, but at what cost? The cost will be your relationship with your child in the long run, as resentments will form in them.

        If you don’t show respect for your kids, it is going to be hard to get them to listen to you. They may obey, but if you act as a tyrant who demands that kids do what you say because you are the one in charge, then you are fighting a losing battle. The basis of your relationship must begin with respect. Mutual respect is the foundation for any relationship, including the parent-child relationship.

        2. Avoid Yelling

        When yelling and dominance are the themes of the relationship, then an undercurrent of resentment will develop in the child. Nobody wants to feel dominated, nor do they want to feel that they are of less value than another person.

        Let your child know that you value them through respectful interactions. You are still the parent, but you can parent and get your kids to listen through respectful interaction. When you use demanding, authoritarian parenting methods, you are undermining your relationship with the child and resentments are likely to form.

        Avoid yelling to gain respect from your child. If you fall back to yelling, screaming, and making demands, then you are undermining your ability to gain your child’s respect in the long run.

        Advertising

        3. Use the Golden Rule

        Respect is founded on the golden rule: treat others as you want to be treated. If you want your child to respect you, you must also treat them with respect. This means talking to your child in a tone that is kind, genuine, and considerate. Granted, this is not easy when your four-year-old is having a meltdown in aisle 5 of the grocery store and you have many more errands to run, work to do, and no extra time on hand. It takes practice to parent without yelling and heightened emotions.

        We are still people and get mad at our kids. However, we have to keep in mind that they are learning and we have far more years of practice at these things. We must keep our cool and maintain authority while parenting.

        How do you want to be talked to when you are having a bad day and feel like melting down? That is how you should talk to your child who is having a meltdown and is obviously having a bad day. Kindness, love, and respect, when paired with authority, will create a relationship where your child will listen and respect you. Treat them as you want to be treated.

        4. Ensure that Your Words Have Consequences

        We know that mutual respect is the first step to getting our kids to listen. This respect will help them be open to what we have to say. If they feel that they matter because you respect them, then they will develop respect for you. This will help when it comes to disciplining your child.

        The second step is ensuring that our words have consequences. When it comes to discipline, your words must have weight. If you say you are going to do something, you must do it.

        For example, if you ask your child to stop hitting the couch while you are typing an article for Lifehack and they keep hitting it, then let them know that if they don’t stop, they get a five-minute time-out. True story, this just happened. He stopped. Why did he stop? Because he knew I meant what I said. If he didn’t stop, he knew it would mean an immediate time out, not an additional warning and more time to carry on with the behavior that I asked him to stop.

        I asked in a calm voice while looking into his eyes, letting him know I was serious. He also knows that I mean what I say because he is now seven years old and has experienced consistent follow-through with punishments for years. I don’t ask the same thing several times. I also don’t make threats. I follow through with reasonable punishments when the instructions and requests are not followed by my child.

        Advertising

        5. Avoid Big Threats

        I have seen parents make big threats, thinking that the bigger the threat, the more the child is likely to stop the behavior. This is not reasonable, nor is it a good idea. Big threats that you don’t follow through with make your words meaningless.

        For example, if I had told my son that I was going to throw away his toys if he didn’t stop hitting the couch, that would have been unreasonable. Throwing away toys that cost a bit of money to buy as a consequence of a small infraction (hitting the couch while I am typing) is unreasonable. If he kept hitting the couch, what would I do? It would be unrealistic to actually throw away the toys.

        Therefore, many parents in this instance keep making the same threat with no actual follow-through. The threats continue because the behavior continues and even escalates (i.e. the couch hitting gets louder and harder) and finally, the parent must throw away the toys and/or resorts to a different punishment to stop the escalation.

        The escalation could have been avoided by stating realistic consequences and following through the first time. Time-outs and taking away a toy or a privilege are all reasonable. I often take away my kid’s tablet time or give five-minute time-outs as a consequence. I avoid making big threats that I cannot follow through with in good conscience. It helps me in the long run because when I give reasonable consequences, I can easily follow through with the punishment at that moment and not feel terrible.

        Avoid making big threats that you cannot follow through with in good conscience. Instead, provide consequences with warnings and ensure that the punishment is worthy of the behavior. Small infractions should get small consequences. Big infractions require more serious consequences. Don’t make a habit of making big threats of big consequences that you can’t actually enforce.

        6. Follow Through

        A method of parenting where a parent follows through with their consequences immediately is called the “one ask approach.” In this method, a parent asks their child only once to do something. If they don’t do it, then the parent provides a consequence if they don’t do as asked.

        For example, if you ask your child to put their dishes in the sink but they don’t get up and start doing the task, then the parent can let the child know the consequence if they don’t follow through with what was asked. If they don’t put away their dishes, they are going to lose half an hour of their TV time. They don’t get three warnings or even two. One warning is all that is provided. If they don’t follow instructions, then the consequence is dealt out.

        Advertising

        In this example, if the child doesn’t put away their dishes after the warning is provided, then the parent follows through and says “I am sorry, but now you lost half of your TV time for tonight.” The parent must then not allow the child to watch TV and can suggest reading books or playing outside instead. This method will help you parent with consistency.

        7. Give Them Your Full Attention

        When you are speaking to your child look them in the eye and give them your full attention. This approach is much more fruitful in getting your child to listen than distracted, partial attention.

        Case in point: if a parent is playing a game on their phone and yells across the room to have their child go do their homework, the interaction is less meaningful than making a face-to-face request. If the parent sets down their phone and walks over to their child and looks in their child’s eyes and says, “it is time to stop watching tv for now and do your homework, you can watch after your homework is finished,” it is much more likely to be fruitful because full attention is provided.

        Giving your child your full attention with eye contact and face-to-face interactions shows them that you care and you are serious about what you are saying. This will go a long way toward getting your child to listen and respond to what you have to say.

        8. Show Genuine Care

        Showing that you care is immensely meaningful to any child. Your child needs to know that you care about them. Your words, actions, and tone of voice show that you care. If you care, be sure to show it.

        For example, if I want my kids to set the table for dinner, yelling at them saying “you know its time for dinner, you should have set the table five minutes ago” will not be as productive as making a caring statement. Such a caring statement could be “you do a great job setting the dinner table. It is so nice to work together, with me making the meal and you setting the table so we can enjoy time together each night. Can you set the table in the next twenty minutes before dinner?”

        Showing your child that you care will help build a positive relationship, and your child will be more likely to listen and respect you. Your words and actions in your daily interaction will show that you genuinely care for your child.

        Advertising

        9. Show Them That You Value Them

        Giving your child your full attention also shows them that you care and that they are valued. Everyone wants to feel valued. Our children should always feel that we value them.

        Some ways that you can give your child attention and show that they are valued include the following:

        • Praise your child.
        • Give physical affections, such as hugs.
        • Show interest in their activities.
        • Get on their level when talking.
        • Make eye contact and smile while interacting.
        • Give positive feedback in your daily interactions.
        • Provide them with support in accomplishing daily activities (i.e. help your child tie their shoes and teach them at the same time as they are learning this task).
        • Build up your child with positive messages.
        • Reassure your child when they are fearful.
        • Support your child when they are upset.
        • Make time to spend with your child one on one daily.
        • Respond to your child every time they talk to you (do not ignore them).
        • Ask your child about their day with meaningful, open-ended questions.

        According to the article, Positive Attention and Your Child,[1]

        “From birth, children need experiences and relationships that show them they’re valued, capable human beings who bring pleasure to others. Positive attention, reactions and responses from key grown-ups help children build a picture of how valued they are.”

        Children must be told and shown that they are valued. What we say and how we act toward our children should be done in a way that makes them consistently feel valued. This will help build a relationship where listening and respect go both ways.

        10. Be a Good Role Model

        To get your kids to listen and respect you, then you must also be a good role model worthy of respect. Kids watch their parents and caregivers and thus, will imitate their behavior.

        Case in point: if you consistently object to figures of authority and do not follow rules or laws, then your child is observing and learning this from you. They will learn that they do not need to listen to or respect authority figures. Be an example that teaches your child to listen and respect others by your own behaviors and modeling.

        Advertising

        The Bottom Line

        The bottom line to teaching kids to listen and respect you is to treat them with respect and follow through with consequences. Your words must have weight, and this only happens when you are consistent with your follow-through. Treating your child with love, respect, care, and affection is important to creating a relationship where they want to listen to you and mutually respect you.

        More Parenting Tips

        Featured photo credit: Tanaphong Toochinda via unsplash.com

        Reference

        [1] raisingchildren.net.au: Positive attention and your child

        Read Next