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6 Signs That You Are Not Yet Ready For A New Relationship

6 Signs That You Are Not Yet Ready For A New Relationship

For many, the best way to get over a break up and move on is to jump into another relationship. However, this could be a mistake as you are still emotionally vulnerable and could be a victim for a more devastating situation. Carrying on a relationship requires some emotional stability and inner strength to keep on going. As they say, a relationship can never be like being single because it is a full-time job. Don’t sweat it out. Wait and be prepared for the real thing when it comes.

Here are some signs to prove you are not ready for a new relationship since you have not fully recovered from the former.

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1. You are still distorted

You still can’t figure out why your ex left you, or if you want to get back with your ex. You still value and cherish the moments you had so you find it hard to let go. You are seriously considering some breakup sex. That is to say, you are hoping that they will come back. You do not have that clarity yet and truly cannot harness what you feel. Before you get into a new relationship, you really need to be honest with yourself.

2. You are hurt

You still have some bitterness swelling inside you and you simply can’t let go. You wish you could have your vengeance or try to get back at your ex. Sometimes, you cry at your loss and you really can’t come to term with the fact that it is over. All that resentment has to go before you set yourself up for a new relationship.

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3. You are still holding on to something that belongs to them

You have something that kept you and your ex together for a while. It could be the memories, it could be their items, or the envisioned future that you hoped to shared together. You have this thing tucked somewhere in your heart, or in your closet, and you need to let it go before you move on to a new relationship.

4. You are afraid

Fear can be synonymous with love. You are afraid to get hurt again. You think every other person is like your ex and that they are out to break and hurt you. You do not want to risk anything. You aren’t ready to fight for what could be an exciting journey either.

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5. You are angry

It is one thing to be hurt, but it is another thing to be angry and not willing to forgive. You believe you have been wronged and that the Fates have played a fast one on you. Such bitterness won’t allow you to see the possibilities and the beauty that could be waiting for you just ahead. If you want to be happy and enjoy a new relationship, you have to be willing to forgive and be ready to appreciate what you benefited from in your past relationship, rather than what you lost.

6. You are lazy

The act of being broken makes you sort of lazy and weak. A new relationship has to make you feel alive, active, and full of life. You can’t be lazy and have dulled senses to get into something new. Most times, a relationship is meant to unleash our creativity and romantic capacities. If you are lazy and can’t give enough energy into a new relationship it means you have still not gotten over your former relationship. Be willing to give some energy. If you are going into a new relationship, push yourself to making your other half happy.

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Conclusion

Altogether, it does take a while to get out of a broken relationship and fully recover from the emotional pain. It is better and more important for you to fully recover from a broken relationship and face future possibilities in a new relationship. Taking note of these signs could be helpful in determining where you are at the moment.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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