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5 Things You Should Avoid Saying To All Pregnant Women

5 Things You Should Avoid Saying To All Pregnant Women

Being pregnant is an exciting time in a woman’s life, but it can also be nerve-wracking, as well. Unnecessary comments from friends, family, and strangers can contribute added stress. These people might think that they are giving helpful advice, but instead they are just creating extra worry for the pregnant woman.

These remarks are not intentionally meant to be negative, but to pregnant women who are going through numerous physical and emotional changes in their lives already, such comments hinder more than they help.

Even if you were once pregnant, it does not give you the right to say anything you like, and assume you can relate, since every woman’s body reacts to pregnancy differently. A good way to make sure you are saying something positive is to consider how you would react if the question was turned back onto yourself, your sister, or a close friend.

Here are a few things that everyone should avoid saying to pregnant women:

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     1. “This period of pregnancy was really rough on me…”

    Saying this may seem like you’re commiserating with a pregnant woman who may be suffering through debilitating morning sickness in her first trimester or having to deal with the aches and pains of the last few weeks before she gives birth, but it usually has a negative effect. Hold your tongue and instead say something positive and uplifting that will help her get through this difficult time. If you are especially close, ask her if she needs help with anything, from cooking to running errands for her.

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      2. “You look huge…”

      This is a common phrase that is heard around pregnant women, especially in their final trimester, but it is not always encouraging. If a pregnant women looks big, chances are that she feels ten times bigger than she actually is. It is important to be sensitive towards a pregnant woman’s physical appearance and instead ask her neutral questions like, “do you know if it is going to be a girl or a boy?” Taking the focus off of her body and instead asking questions that are likely to bring her joy is an important way of showing your support.

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        3. “[ … ] happened to me at this stage…”

        Comparing your own pregnancy with hers, whether you were pregnant before, or are currently pregnant, is detrimental to all parties involved. Comparison in general is not productive in any situation, especially in terms of a deeply personal experience like pregnancy. Instead of comparing your physical experiences of pregnancy, try to focus on other similarities, like are you both having boys? What about the name selection process? Avoid discussing the process of the actual pregnancy and focus on subjects that are bound to bring you both joy.

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          4. “Pregnant women probably should not […]”

          Any sentence that contains a negative statement like “should not” is an indicator that you are trying to offer your personal opinions on a topic. For pregnant women, they already have enough to worry about in their own minds, without unwanted input from others. Even if you are close friend or a family member, it is important to back-off on the unsolicited advice. If a mother-to-be wants your advice, she will ask for it.

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            5. “Avoid eating […]”

            The list of taboo foods a pregnant woman should avoid is extensive, but telling her that she cannot eat a certain item is more harmful than it is helpful. Her primary doctor should be the only one that consults with her about what she can and cannot eat. Every woman’s body is different during pregnancy and what is fine for one person may not be healthy for another. It is also important to take into consideration that there are different cultural beliefs surrounding a woman’s pregnancy that might influence what a particular woman may consider taboo.

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            Published on April 9, 2021

            50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

            50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

            Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

            Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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            The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

            Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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            1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
            2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
            3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
            4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
            5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
            6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
            7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
            8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
            9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
            10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
            11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
            12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
            13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
            14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
            15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
            16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
            17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
            18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
            19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
            20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
            21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
            22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
            23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
            24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
            25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
            26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
            27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
            28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
            29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
            30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
            31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
            32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
            33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
            34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
            35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
            36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
            37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
            38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
            39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
            40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
            41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
            42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
            43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
            44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
            45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
            46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
            47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
            48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
            49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
            50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

            Final Thoughts

            Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

            They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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            If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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