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14 Reasons Why Long-Distance Relationships Can Make Couples Closer

14 Reasons Why Long-Distance Relationships Can Make Couples Closer

Long-distance relationships are tough. This is not only due to the loneliness, but also because the distance forces you to understand the value and essence of a relationship.

I have come to be stronger emotionally anytime my other half is away. I can tell you this from experience: being in a long-distance relationship can bring out the strength in your relationship. Here are 14 reasons why a long-distance relationship could actually help in securing your relationship.

1. You have a stronger sense of trust

A relationship without trust is not a relationship. There are always voices in your head screaming doubt and insecurities. But if you can survive the torturous moments of not being with your partner physically, and still believe that they are yours, then you have a relationship that is built on something solid.

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2. You value communication

You may have looked down on communication previously. But now you know what communication means. It speaks volumes awakens you to the authenticity of the relationship.

3. You appreciate your partner more

Suddenly, the memories you have with your partner, the ones that you can appreciate and hold on to, are even more important. Everything that connects you with your partner becomes something you always want to hold on to.

4. You value their return

Nothing can make you as excited or as expectant as seeing them again. And when you do see them, they are gold. It is like they are the most precious being on earth.

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5. You can find freedom in being independent

You learn to do things alone. You can secure your own identity rather than having your happiness dependent on your other half. You also experience the freedom of pursuing the things you always wanted to do alone.

6. You can discover yourself

Now you can experience some “me” time. You can learn to love and discover yourself. Rather than get lost in a relationship, you can get lost in yourself.

7. You can do more talking

Without the physical affection, you can focus on the words you share with your partner. You can be more expressive on the phone and say everything you never thought you would say when you met in person — yes, including the more embarrassing stuff.

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8. You can start making plans together

Now the relationship is real and you can figure out where you are going with it. You are either in or out. You have some time to answer all the questions that need to be answered.

9. You can deal with your problems

Rather than hide your problems with sex or expend your energy in other ways, you can deal with them by focusing on them and figuring things out together.

10. You become more creative

You become more imaginative and more conscious of pleasing your partner in other ways, rather than just through physical signs of affection.

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11. You have some kind of emotional intimacy

You can feel your partner and emotionally connect with them. It is about the emotions and the sensation that is attached to trying to be with them and please them — it doesn’t have to be all about the physical.

12. You get lost in the days

It is not about the touches but about the hours and the moments of separation. It makes you discover and appreciate time more.

13. You value surprises and gifts

Whatever you can send in terms of objects or affection will be appreciated. You want to give to the other person and show them how much you care. Gifts and surprises are now suddenly worth more than a thousand words.

14. You become more poetic

You may not have understood the significance of words until now. You suddenly become more poetic and understand the true value of words. You can try to penetrate your partner’s heart by using this newfound way with words.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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