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14 Reasons Why Long-Distance Relationships Can Make Couples Closer

14 Reasons Why Long-Distance Relationships Can Make Couples Closer

Long-distance relationships are tough. This is not only due to the loneliness, but also because the distance forces you to understand the value and essence of a relationship.

I have come to be stronger emotionally anytime my other half is away. I can tell you this from experience: being in a long-distance relationship can bring out the strength in your relationship. Here are 14 reasons why a long-distance relationship could actually help in securing your relationship.

1. You have a stronger sense of trust

A relationship without trust is not a relationship. There are always voices in your head screaming doubt and insecurities. But if you can survive the torturous moments of not being with your partner physically, and still believe that they are yours, then you have a relationship that is built on something solid.

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2. You value communication

You may have looked down on communication previously. But now you know what communication means. It speaks volumes awakens you to the authenticity of the relationship.

3. You appreciate your partner more

Suddenly, the memories you have with your partner, the ones that you can appreciate and hold on to, are even more important. Everything that connects you with your partner becomes something you always want to hold on to.

4. You value their return

Nothing can make you as excited or as expectant as seeing them again. And when you do see them, they are gold. It is like they are the most precious being on earth.

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5. You can find freedom in being independent

You learn to do things alone. You can secure your own identity rather than having your happiness dependent on your other half. You also experience the freedom of pursuing the things you always wanted to do alone.

6. You can discover yourself

Now you can experience some “me” time. You can learn to love and discover yourself. Rather than get lost in a relationship, you can get lost in yourself.

7. You can do more talking

Without the physical affection, you can focus on the words you share with your partner. You can be more expressive on the phone and say everything you never thought you would say when you met in person — yes, including the more embarrassing stuff.

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8. You can start making plans together

Now the relationship is real and you can figure out where you are going with it. You are either in or out. You have some time to answer all the questions that need to be answered.

9. You can deal with your problems

Rather than hide your problems with sex or expend your energy in other ways, you can deal with them by focusing on them and figuring things out together.

10. You become more creative

You become more imaginative and more conscious of pleasing your partner in other ways, rather than just through physical signs of affection.

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11. You have some kind of emotional intimacy

You can feel your partner and emotionally connect with them. It is about the emotions and the sensation that is attached to trying to be with them and please them — it doesn’t have to be all about the physical.

12. You get lost in the days

It is not about the touches but about the hours and the moments of separation. It makes you discover and appreciate time more.

13. You value surprises and gifts

Whatever you can send in terms of objects or affection will be appreciated. You want to give to the other person and show them how much you care. Gifts and surprises are now suddenly worth more than a thousand words.

14. You become more poetic

You may not have understood the significance of words until now. You suddenly become more poetic and understand the true value of words. You can try to penetrate your partner’s heart by using this newfound way with words.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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