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12 Great Things That Only Long-Distance Friends Would Know

12 Great Things That Only Long-Distance Friends Would Know

Do you have a long-distance friend? It can be tough having a friend that you don’t see often, but for some people, their long-distance friend is one of the most important people in their life.

Check out these 12 great things that only long-distance friends would understand:

1. You Are Used To Spending A Lot Of Time On The Computer

The computer = the easiest way to talk to your long-distance friend. You are regularly online at 2am chatting to each other and posting adorable pictures of puppies you found on Instagram on each other’s walls.

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2. Your Friendship Has Grown Stronger

When a friend moves away, either you stop talking or you make an effort to stay in each other’s lives. Your bond has grown stronger now that you both have to make an effort to stay in each other’s lives.

3. You Love Planning Future Visits

You have a savings plan in place, and you two constantly discuss visiting each other. It may be half a year away, but you can’t wait to drink wine together while taking silly selfies.

4. When Anything Important Happens, You Update them

Sister got engaged? Co-worker got fired? Trying a new diet? All absolutely essential things you must let your long-distance friend know about. In fact, you need to check in and find out how her new morning workout routine is going.

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5. You Know You Have A Friend Forever

Some friends come and go, but you know this friendship is for life; after all, your long-distance friend lives further away than your parents but somehow you visit her more often than them. Oops.

6. You Love To Reminisce Together

You still start laughing when you think about the time you two went to a water theme park, and your long-distance friend loves to bring up the time you drunkenly fell down their stairs. Lots of people roll their eyes when they realize you’re talking about the same stories over and over again, but you know they will still be hilarious when you’re both 80.

7. You Always Know How To Make Each Other Smile

It doesn’t matter that your long-distance friend isn’t always there because your best memories are all about the times you’ve spent with each other. You are always seeing things that would make them smile, so you make sure to tell them about it later.

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8. You Never Fight With Each Other

You don’t really have anything to argue about anyway, but you both treasure the friendship too much to let anything ruin it. Time is precious, and you would rather laugh and smile with your long-distance friend than fight with them.

9. You Always Have A Place To Stay

If you fancy taking a last minute trip out to see them, you know you don’t even have to ask; as long as they have a home, you have a place to stay.

10. When You Finally See Each Other, It Is Better Than You Imagined

After a few months of not seeing each other, you sometimes worry that it will be awkward and strange when you see them – but it never is. You’re already laughing within the first minute of seeing them.

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11. Your Long-Distance Friend Can Make You Laugh With Just A Sentence

You both find each other hilarious and interesting, and your online conversations are often even better than the face-to-face conversations you have with your local friends. Sometimes your long-distance friend only has to send you an emoji and you will start laughing.

12. Your Long-Distance Friend Always Has Your Back

While they may not live near you, your long-distance friend always has your back. From relationships ending, to troubles at work, they are always willing to listen to you vent about the people who have upset you.

Do you have a long-distance friendship? Share this with your long-distance friend and see what they think!

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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