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15 Awful Moments That All People Who Wear Contacts Experience

15 Awful Moments That All People Who Wear Contacts Experience

For some, those little bits of plastic mean beauty and a greater feeling of confidence and acceptance. For others, they serve as a window to seeing the world. To the person wearing them, contact lenses are something to be valued and taken care of.

Ever since contact lenses first appeared on the scene, they’ve been sparking some serious fashion trends. Even when there are mishaps, the person wearing them still remains a fan. However, with these little bits of plastic comes a sense of responsibility and ownership. Here are some awful moments that people who wear contacts have probably experienced.

1. You have to spend an extra 30 minutes getting dressed

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    With wearing contact lenses comes the need to be more patient while getting dressed for an occasion. When they’re being fickle, it can take 15 to 20 minutes extra to put in your contact lenses. You really need to set it right, and this can really test your patience.

    2. You know that getting invaders out of your eye can be a pain

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      Lenses do not help when something gets in your eye. It is nearly impossible to get anything out when you’re wearing your lenses. You’ll find that you start becoming more conscious of your environment in order to prevent this.

      3. You go through hell wearing those contact lenses inside out

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        This may not happen often, but when it does, it hurts.

        4. You feel nervous when you can’t find those transparent dots

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          The panic and anxiety that comes with dropping the transparent thing and realizing that it’s lost for good can be overwhelming. The other problem is figuring out if you actually dropped it or if it’s still in your eye somewhere.

          5. You start looking different with your specs on

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            People are so used to seeing you wear contact lenses that when you wear your specs people act like it’s the first time they’ve seen you. You can always expect a few comments.

            6. You start losing interest in swimming

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              Wearing lenses in water can be a horrible thing. Water rides and swimming become terrible activities to engage in. You never really feel safe in the water when wearing your lenses.

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              7. You have got to cry sometimes

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                The tears may be streaming down your face, but you’re not sad. Those lenses just aren’t cooperating.

                8. You have got to adjust your lenses sometimes

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                  People freak out when they see you trying to adjust your contacts in public. Apparently sticking your finger in your eye isn’t the most appealing activity to most. Sometimes, you’ve just got to do it and deal with the reactions.

                  9. You know your eyes are shielded with something

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                    No matter how comfortable you are, you are constantly aware that something is in your eyes. Just pretend it’s all cool and go about your day.

                    10. You feel terrible because you forgot to take out your contacts before going to bed

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                      You forgot to remove your contacts before heading to bed and now you have to stumble around in the dark to take them out at 3 am — no matter how sleepy you are.

                      11. You are often reminded of how injurious lenses can be

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                        People seem to know a lot more about contact lenses than you do, and they won’t shy away from telling you. You have to endure the torture of listening to people lecturing you on how terrible wearing contact lenses can be.

                        12. You have something extra to carry

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                          You’ve always got to carry around lens solution, a contact case, and your glasses — just in case.

                          13. You have to be careful with your nails

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                            Contact lenses and nails don’t go together. Once you start wearing lenses, you may have to say goodbye to those long nails.

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                            14. You have to deal with the dry eyes

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                              Staying out past 3 am can be difficult when the air conditioning and smoke machines are turned on.

                              15.  You know how tough it is to fix a contact that has folded in half

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                                When your contact lenses get folded, you really need to blink to save those eyes. It may not always work, but you’ve got to try.

                                Featured photo credit: n4i via flickr.com

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                                Last Updated on January 15, 2019

                                How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

                                How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

                                Many of us feel awkward talking to strangers. I’m a very outgoing person, even though I sometimes feel uncomfortable walking up to someone and asking a question or starting a conversation. I consider myself pretty high up on the extrovert meter. So what is it that makes us pause and become worried or anxious about talking to people we don’t know?

                                In this article, we will discuss why we feel this way as well as some tips on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

                                Step right up, don’t be shy!

                                Why We Feel Awkward Talking to Strangers

                                The next time you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, tell yourself that’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons why it’s actually natural to feel awkward talking to strangers:

                                Our Stress Levels Rise Around Strangers

                                Numerous studies have show that our levels of cortisol go up when we are around strangers.[1] Cortisol is the hormone inside of us which produces stress responses.[2]
                                So there you go, right off the bat you can see part of your standard response to strangers is due to a chemical reaction!

                                A very interesting by product of increased cortisol is that it makes us less empathetic. More than likely this can be traced to our evolution. The increase in the cortisol and the corresponding decrease in empathy makes us want to stay away from strangers. We are biologically wired to feel concern around strangers.

                                Evolution Taught Us to Be Wary

                                Evolution has also taught us to be wary of strangers in general. Humans as a whole have spent a large chunk of their history banded together in small protective groups. We did this in order to help protect each other and maximize resources.

                                When you think about it in this context, outsiders to our small groups or strangers are considered potential threats. Fear of strangers is common across almost all human cultures.

                                Culturally Conditioned

                                We can also thank our society for helping us feel uncomfortable and sometimes afraid of strangers. The term “stranger danger” is something most of us can relate to either growing up or raising kids. Or both.

                                I remember hearing this from my parents, mostly about not getting in someone’s car I didn’t know. And as the father of 2 teenage girls, you can be sure I’ve talked to them about this very concept more times that they want to hear.

                                The thought that strangers can be dangerous is built into us as it is. Toss in the amplification of the media on strangers doing things such as kidnapping kids and it takes it to an even higher level.

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                                Now that we’ve reviewed some of the reasons why we are nervous, let’s look at why you should talk to strangers more.

                                Benefits of Getting over the Awkwardness

                                Let’s take a quick look at some of the advantages of how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward. These are some high level benefits of talking to strangers.

                                1. Broadens Your Network

                                After you talk to someone, you didn’t know previously they become someone you know at least a little bit. This alone helps broaden your network of people you know. This is helpful in many ways whether it is work related or socially related.

                                2. Improves Your Communication Skills

                                I am a huge proponent of the value of solid communication skills and have written about it often. The more you talk to people, especially people you don’t know, the better your communication skills become.

                                Interacting with a wider variety of people will bring the added benefit of improving your communication skills.

                                3. Continually Learning

                                So many of us don’t actively seek to learn new things. This is one of the primary keys to staying engaged in life and our own personal self fulfillment.

                                Almost every time I speak to someone I didn’t know previously, I’ve learned something new. When we speak to strangers, it pushes us out of our comfort zones and we tend to learn new things.

                                4. Increases Self Confidence

                                Every time we learn to do something we were previously anxious about, we feel better about ourselves.

                                Forcing ourselves to talk to strangers will lead to increased self confidence. As we get more and more comfortable doing something that previously made us feel awkward, our self confidence will go up and up.

                                So, how to talk to strangers to reap these benefits?

                                How to Talk to Strangers

                                Here are some tips to on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

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                                1. Say Hello

                                Putting “say hello” first may seem a bit obvious but let’s take a deeper look. Much of the social awkwardness when speaking to strangers is simply breaking the ice. The first words that will engage someone.

                                Most people will respond when someone says hello or hi to them. And those that don’t, you probably don’t want to talk to anyway.

                                Practice being the person that opens the door to a conversation. Say hello.

                                2. Ask About Them

                                Something that I have noticed over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. Even fairly private people tend to open up when asked about events in their lives.

                                You can ask leading questions that get people to talk about themselves and recent events. Things like recent movies watched or the summer vacation are great to get someone talking.

                                As a father, I also know that people love to talk about their kids. Asking about kids is a fairly easy topic to bring up and in general, most people will expound upon all the great things their kids do or are involved with.

                                3. Just Do It

                                One of the biggest reasons we don’t do things we want to or know we should is because we overthink it. Quit thinking about it so much and just do it.

                                When you give yourself the time to analyze every little angle about a situation, you also give plenty of time to talk yourself out of it. You’ll wind up thinking what if this happens or what if that happens.

                                Try to force yourself to jump right in without thinking about it too much. Whenever I have done this, I always feel great about it afterwards, no matter how it turned out.

                                4. Don’t Take It Personal

                                One of the greatest lessons in life I ever learned was don’t take anything personally. We all go through life with our own sets of experiences and see things through our own lens. The way people react to different situations has almost nothing to do with us. It has to do with previous experiences and the way people feel about things other than us.

                                When someone’s reaction isn’t what you’d hoped or expected, chances are it has nothing to do with you. Remember that and keep it in context.

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                                5. Get a Chuckle If Possible

                                I used the word chuckle purposely because it makes me laugh. In my opinion, it’s one of those funny words. We all like to laugh because it makes us feel good. And when someone makes us laugh, we typically remember those people in a positive light.

                                One of the best ways to make a conversation easy and free flowing is to get some laughter going. It doesn’t mean you have to be the master joke teller or anything. See if you can work in a way to make the person you are talking to get a smile or some laughter in. In fact, laughing at yourself maybe a nice try.

                                6. Detach

                                A great feeling is when you don’t mind which way something turns out, that you will be fine no matter what happens. Kind of like when I watch my two favorite football teams play against each other. I don’t really care who wins, I just want a fun game.

                                Treat talking to strangers the same way. You don’t really care how the conversation goes because you are detaching from the outcome. Make it a fun time with yourself and if the conversation goes well, awesome! If not then no big deal, move on.

                                7. Share Your Stories

                                Well, all like to feel connected to other people. And many times we wind up hanging out with people that we have things in common with. No surprise here.

                                To help with how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward, tell stories that have commonalities with the person you are talking to. Kids are an easy one. I have a daughter who was a competitive cheerleader and now plays club volleyball. I have instant connection and stories with strangers I speak with who have kids that play sports. It’s easy to relate to.

                                So when you are speaking to a stranger and you have a story or mutual connection point, bring it up.

                                8. Give a Compliment

                                Almost everyone likes hearing a compliment, whether they admit to it or not. As a general rule, we don’t give out enough compliments. It’s amazing how one small remark someone tosses your way about how good you look can literally make your entire day.

                                When you are speaking with someone you don’t know, see if you can work a compliment in. Nothing creepy here. Not a good idea to tell someone you just met that they are the prettiest or handsomest person you ever met. However, if you can share how you like their tattoo or shoes or something like that, it will help put the conversation into an easy going, smiling place.

                                9. Relax Your Body Language

                                If you go into a situation all worried and nervous, it shows on your body. Your shoulders are tensed up, there’s a look of consternation on your face, things like that.

                                When you engage a stranger in conversation, make it a point to relax your body language. Take a deep breath before you engage the person, let your body relax, and put a smile on your face. This will help relax you and it has the added benefit of putting the other person more at ease.

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                                If they see that you are relaxed, it helps them relax. Plus having open, engaging body language is very conducive to inviting someone to open up into a conversation with you.

                                10. Practice, Practice, Practice

                                Like everything else in life, talking to strangers gets easier with practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

                                Make it a point to talk to several strangers each week and it will definitely help you relax as you do it more and more.

                                After a while, it will become something you don’t even think about, you just do it. And that takes all of the awkwardness out of being in these type situations.

                                The Bottom Line

                                As we have seen, it is perfectly natural to feel awkward talking to strangers. We are biologically built that way and we have our own society constantly warning us how dangerous it is. It’s no wonder we feel awkward talking to strangers!

                                There are numerous benefits to learning to be more comfortable talking to strangers. See if you can employ some of the techniques mentioned to learn how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

                                Once you start practicing speaking with strangers more often and utilizing some of the tips, you will become more comfortable doing so. This in turn will lead to a learned new skill and increased self confidence.

                                Remember, everyone you know was a stranger at one time. Now get out there and make some new friends.

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