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14 Struggles That All People Who Stay Up Late Would Understand

14 Struggles That All People Who Stay Up Late Would Understand

I remember those nights that I got so caught up with my thoughts that I could not sleep, and it made me want to write this. Because it is hell when you are not like every other person, and you are not sleeping at the hour you are supposed to.

As children, whether we wanted it or not our parents pushed us to go to bed at a particular hour. But as we grew older what was popular and known to us become unknown. Parties and trying to make sure we are ready for our exams made us take the night to be the day. And so when we become victims of staying up late we should understand these:

1. You can watch TV or late night shows

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    This seems to be your only companion. Everyone in the house must have gone to sleep and left you with your lonely fate.

    2. You have got no one to pick up your calls
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      You may feel that you can catch up with a longtime pal but unfortunately they are either asleep or do not want to be disturbed by someone who should be sleeping.

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      3. You then have to try and call someone you swore you will never call again
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        You wouldn’t have done this, but you are so worked up about being lonely that you reach out to someone who has hurt you in the past.

        4. You can see your life in just one night

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          Yes, your life from past to future plays before you in your thoughts. You make plans and adjust scenarios that shouldn’t have happened.

          5. You go to bed and force yourself to sleep

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            You want to pretend you are asleep and try to be like everyone else. But you are stuck. Being in bed is like having a date with boredom because it helps you to worry and imagine that will never happen.

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            6. You think the night is longer than the day

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              Your mind starts playing tricks on you. You feel the night is a longer period than the day. You really can’t wait for daylight to come. Yet you manage to force yourself to sleep and make the most out of what you have left of the night.

              7. Your neighbors say you are different

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                Everyone living around you tells you to get a life and get your act together. They don’t understand you because they can just figure out why someone uses the night to be active rather than being in bed.

                8. You don’t have the best of days

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                  You wake up and have to be like every other person who slept all through the night. Even the thought of it saddens and weakens you. You really wish you could have a normal night sleep because your days are abnormal.

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                  9. You are eating breakfast when others are having their lunch

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                    When you finally get some sleep, you wake up really late. You wake up so late you have to eat late as well.

                    10. You are not understood by anyone
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                      Everyone thinks you are either selfish or you are on intentional mission to upset the plans of nature. It is as if the all world is angry at you.

                      11. You are always waking up guilty
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                        You wake up feeling bad about your sleeping habits. You convince yourself you will work hard at sleeping early.

                        12. You are inquisitive about your environment

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                          You sleep so late that you expect anything to pop out and make you frightened. You are suspicious about every sound you hear.

                          13. You make plans to fix your life
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                            Everything that is going wrong in your life has to be fixed with the strategy you devise on this night. You are all worked up and figuring out to make things right in your life.

                            14. You become lazy
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                              The only thing that seems to be working is your mind. You are lazy and though you want to do so much, you are stuck with either watching TV or binge watching movies on Netflix.

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                              Last Updated on May 21, 2019

                              How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

                              How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

                              For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

                              If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

                              Example 1

                              You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

                              You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

                              In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

                              Example 2

                              You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

                              People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

                              You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

                              Example 3

                              You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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                              The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

                              Example 4

                              You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

                              Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

                              If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

                              Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

                              • Understand your own communication style
                              • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
                              • Communicate with precision and care
                              • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

                              1. Understand Your Communication Style

                              To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

                              In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

                              Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

                              2. Learn Others Communication Styles

                              Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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                              If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

                              “How do you prefer to receive information?”

                              This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

                              To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

                              3. Exercise Precision and Care

                              A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

                              On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

                              Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

                              I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

                              I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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                              In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

                              The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

                              Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

                              4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

                              Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

                              In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

                              “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

                              Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

                              Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

                              It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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                              It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

                              It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

                              Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

                              Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

                              The Bottom Line

                              When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

                              I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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