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14 Struggles That All People Who Stay Up Late Would Understand

14 Struggles That All People Who Stay Up Late Would Understand

I remember those nights that I got so caught up with my thoughts that I could not sleep, and it made me want to write this. Because it is hell when you are not like every other person, and you are not sleeping at the hour you are supposed to.

As children, whether we wanted it or not our parents pushed us to go to bed at a particular hour. But as we grew older what was popular and known to us become unknown. Parties and trying to make sure we are ready for our exams made us take the night to be the day. And so when we become victims of staying up late we should understand these:

1. You can watch TV or late night shows

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    This seems to be your only companion. Everyone in the house must have gone to sleep and left you with your lonely fate.

    2. You have got no one to pick up your calls
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      You may feel that you can catch up with a longtime pal but unfortunately they are either asleep or do not want to be disturbed by someone who should be sleeping.

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      3. You then have to try and call someone you swore you will never call again
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        You wouldn’t have done this, but you are so worked up about being lonely that you reach out to someone who has hurt you in the past.

        4. You can see your life in just one night

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          Yes, your life from past to future plays before you in your thoughts. You make plans and adjust scenarios that shouldn’t have happened.

          5. You go to bed and force yourself to sleep

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            You want to pretend you are asleep and try to be like everyone else. But you are stuck. Being in bed is like having a date with boredom because it helps you to worry and imagine that will never happen.

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            6. You think the night is longer than the day

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              Your mind starts playing tricks on you. You feel the night is a longer period than the day. You really can’t wait for daylight to come. Yet you manage to force yourself to sleep and make the most out of what you have left of the night.

              7. Your neighbors say you are different

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                Everyone living around you tells you to get a life and get your act together. They don’t understand you because they can just figure out why someone uses the night to be active rather than being in bed.

                8. You don’t have the best of days

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                  You wake up and have to be like every other person who slept all through the night. Even the thought of it saddens and weakens you. You really wish you could have a normal night sleep because your days are abnormal.

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                  9. You are eating breakfast when others are having their lunch

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                    When you finally get some sleep, you wake up really late. You wake up so late you have to eat late as well.

                    10. You are not understood by anyone
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                      Everyone thinks you are either selfish or you are on intentional mission to upset the plans of nature. It is as if the all world is angry at you.

                      11. You are always waking up guilty
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                        You wake up feeling bad about your sleeping habits. You convince yourself you will work hard at sleeping early.

                        12. You are inquisitive about your environment

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                          You sleep so late that you expect anything to pop out and make you frightened. You are suspicious about every sound you hear.

                          13. You make plans to fix your life
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                            Everything that is going wrong in your life has to be fixed with the strategy you devise on this night. You are all worked up and figuring out to make things right in your life.

                            14. You become lazy
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                              The only thing that seems to be working is your mind. You are lazy and though you want to do so much, you are stuck with either watching TV or binge watching movies on Netflix.

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                              Last Updated on January 15, 2021

                              7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                              7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                              The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

                              Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

                              Posture

                              First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

                              • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
                              • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
                              • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
                              • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

                              All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

                              Facial Expressions

                              Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

                              • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
                              • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
                              • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

                              If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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                              1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

                              A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

                              The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

                              This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

                              2. Relax Your Face

                              New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

                              The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

                              To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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                              3. Improve Your Eye Contact

                              Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

                              The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

                              To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

                              3. Smile More

                              There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

                              Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

                              4. Hand Gestures

                              Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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                              It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

                              5. Enhance Your Handshake

                              In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

                              “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

                              It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

                              6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

                              As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

                              Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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                              Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

                              Final Takeaways

                              Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

                              If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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