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7 Tips to Convert Public Speaking From a Nightmare to an Enjoyable Experience

7 Tips to Convert Public Speaking From a Nightmare to an Enjoyable Experience

Boldness to speak is not something we are all born with. But somewhere along the line it is developed and you are thrilled by certain person’s speech. Speaking is beneficial for our careers. You might need to make a presentation to an audience, pitch to an investor or a group of investors or speak as an expert to an audience. It is important to develop your skill of communication and improve on your boldness to become a better speaker. Although the fear of speaking is a common phobia you don’t have to be affected by this dread as you make career advancement. It is better for you to start finding out and doing what you have to do to become a better public speaker.

Be prepared

Every great speaker is always prepared. According to Mark Twain, “It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech.” Improve your confidence before you get on stage. Know your audience and dress appropriately. It is good to write your material, read your notes and practice before the big day.

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Loosen up

Before the big moment, learn to loosen up. Free yourself from the anxiety. Understanding your fears could help, but you don’t only need to recognize it, you have to throw it away for the moment. Before you get on stage get out with friends, exercise, watch your favorite movie or listening to some stimulating music.

Know your audience

It is better for you to arrive early. This way you can spend a few minutes meeting with your audience and get yourself relaxed. Shake hands with the people you will be speaking to, smile and show appreciation for them coming to hear you speak. By doing this you are better informed about your audience and you will pump them up to hear you deliver your speech.

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Don’t try to be perfect

If you are expecting to make the perfect speech or delivery, then you are setting yourself up for failure on stage. Don’t try to be perfect. Be natural instead. You are human from the moment you start speaking. The audience knows this and they are not expecting some superhuman. Still, you don’t have to force it. Try to pick out one person in the crowd to speak to. Focus your gaze, attention and message on this one person. If that one person can understand your message, rest of audience will also understand your message.

Speak from your heart

Don’t try to sell your audience that they wouldn’t buy anyway. You are already pressured on stage. So focus on what your audience needs and how you can better serve them. You are the one in a position of authority. Don’t be afraid of them but inspire them. Speak from the heart on a subject that you are interested in and informed on. This will lighten you up and your audience will be able to relate with your passion and energy on stage.

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Keep the mood relaxed

Even when you have the audience’s attention, you do not need to have to keep the air tense by speaking from the surface. Let the audience know that you are interested in them. Look at them, smile and speak to their heart. The truth is that audiences have a low attention span. If you are not keeping them intrigued with what you are saying they will look elsewhere. Try and tell a story or a joke. Reaching out to them that will make what you are telling them be of benefit to them will have them engaged to your speech.

Always practice

Great speakers continue to perfect the art of speaking. Like in everything in life you can become better at speaking if you continue practicing and developing the art.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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