10 Common Mistakes Made By First Time Moms

10 Common Mistakes Made By First Time Moms

Are you a first time mom? Being a first time mom can be very stressful, as many women worry about breastfeeding, if they should accept help, or if they should follow the expert books they have bought. After all, every mom wants to make sure they are the best parent they possibly can be

Check out 10 common mistakes made by first time moms here.

1. Not Accepting Help

Being a first time mom can feel very scary. You want to get everything right, and many moms worry that asking for help will make them a bad mom. This is definitely not true – this is the first child you have ever had, and that is why you are worried about being a bad mom. You’re going to be a great mom, but if you are tired, stressed and sad, it will be harder for you. Accepting help is a totally normal part of being a parent.


2. Crying While The Baby Cries

Seeing your baby cry can be upsetting and stressful, which may make you want to cry. Your body is filled with hormones, and crying is a normal part of being a first time mom. However, crying while your baby cries will only stress your baby out more – meaning you will become even more upset, too. Try to remember that even the happiest babies will still cry.

3. Assuming You’re Doing it All Wrong Because You’re A First Time Mom

Every first time mom worries about being a good parent, but even the best moms were first time moms once. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Babies will scream and cry, you will scream and cry, but in the end you will both be completely fine.

4. Relying Too Much On The Experts

You may already own books on parenting techniques, baby behavior, sleeping patterns and feeding methods. In the end, your gut instinct is more important than anything else. Trust yourself to make good decisions for your child. After all, no one knows your baby better than you do.


5. Panicking Over Milestones And Comparing Babies

Don’t worry if your baby is the last to start talking – they could write a masterpiece when they are older. Babies grow at different rates, and this doesn’t have much to do with how you raise them. Try not to spend too much time worrying about when your baby will start crawling. Everything will happen in good time.

6. Taking Time Out For Yourself

Being a mom is one of the most important jobs in the world, but remember to take some time out for yourself too. You are still an individual person who will need alone time, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about that. It is normal and healthy. If everything is getting to you, ask your partner to look after the baby while you have a delicious glass of wine and a bubble bath.

7. Not Focusing On Healing After Giving Birth

Your new baby is so perfect and tiny and adorable, it can be hard to stop watching over them and worrying about them. However, you are also recovering from childbirth, and you need to focus on that, too. Try to make sure you are getting lots of water and nutritious food – if you don’t have any time to cook, buy healthy snacks that you can grab on the go.


8. Not Asking For Help With Breastfeeding Issues

Breastfeeding is a lot harder than it seems, and many women struggle to breastfeed. This doesn’t stop you from being an awesome mom, and don’t feel guilty if you are having problems with breastfeeding. Speak to a consultant or a pediatrician, and see if there are any solutions to the problems. If not, it doesn’t matter – lots of awesome moms don’t breastfeed their children.

9. Being Territorial Of Your Baby

Lots of moms struggle to share their baby with others as they want to forge an important bond with their child. Remember that you have spent 9 months bonding with your child, and letting other members of your family hold your child gives your baby a chance to bond with the rest of their family – share the love!

10. Taking Advice That You Don’t Trust

If your friend tells you to ignore a rash, but your gut tells you to go to the doctors, listen to your gut. Don’t worry about offending your friends. You are the only mommy of your baby, and it is likely that you know best.


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Published on November 7, 2018

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

Figure Out the Laws

Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

Decide on an Approach

Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.


Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.


A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

Find a Community

Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

7 Different Homeschooling Methods

1. School-At-Home

Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

  • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
  • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
  • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

2. Classical

One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

3. Unit Studies

Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.


For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

  • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
  • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
  • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

4. Charlotte Mason

This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

5. Montessori

Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

6. Unschooling

Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

7. Eclectic/Relaxed

As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.


Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.


Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

Google Drive/Calendar

Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.


Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:



When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

Some recommendations:


Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

Some recommendations:

Final Thoughts

Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

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