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These 13 Cards Are Perfect For Your Anxious Friend

These 13 Cards Are Perfect For Your Anxious Friend

As someone who deals with social anxiety, I know the importance of having friends who support my needs and understand how social anxiety functions. Despite being some of the most common mental illnesses, anxiety disorders are still highly misunderstood and stigmatized. I’m lucky to have amazingly supportive friends who I can rely on. Because of how anxiety works, I often rely on their understanding so that I don’t have to constantly explain myself and remind them of what my needs are. It’s nice to have reminders now and again that show me they totally get me, or at least that they’re doing their best to be supportive.

Most of all, sometimes I need something that’ll make me chuckle.

Anna Borges of Buzzfeed created these great greeting cards for people who have friends with social anxiety problems, and they are totally perfect. (#5 is my favorite.)

The next time you think your anxious friend needs it, send them one of these cards to brighten their day:

1. “Sorry I Left You Alone At That Party”

You left your anxious friend in a sea of unknown people, the number one socializing no-no for people with anxiety. It’s okay, you’ll remember next time.

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    2. “Let’s Stay In And Watch Netflix”

    Watching something means you’re less obligated to make lots of conversation, and you can relax somewhere comfy and calm with lots of blankets. This is a much better alternative to that ill-fated party.

      3. “Hey: Our Conversation From Two Weeks Ago That You Keep Replaying Over And Over In Your Head Wasn’t Awkward At All. In Fact It Was Quite Delightful.”

      You’re never going to get a direct invitation to send this card, but it’ll probably be valid any time you send it to your anxious friend. The worrying is non-stop.

        4. “Good For One Canceled Plan”

        “In terms of like, instant relief, cancelling plans is like heroin.” – John Mulaney

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          5. “Have You Tried Meditation? (Just Kidding. I Know It’s More Complicated Than That)”

          A good friend won’t suggest you “eat lots of fruit” or “do yoga” to combat a legitimate psychological condition.

            6. “You Are Not A Burden”

            Sometimes, it’s just nice to have a reminder that you don’t think your anxious friend is a burden for being who they are. Repeated reminders may be necessary.

              7. “I Will Call For Delivery When Seamless Is Down So You Don’t Have To.”

              Online food ordering is a gift from the heavens. If that’s not available, as a good friend, you are the designated phone-talker.

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                8. “I Will Never Leave You Hanging”

                A perpetual typing bubble or an unfinished reply can cause anxious people a ton of stress. Don’t be ‘that guy’.

                  9. “You Are The Best Kind Of F*cked Up”

                  It’s easy to feel like your anxiety makes you irredeemably messed up. So let your friend know you love ’em anyway.

                    10. “I’m Sorry Your Mind Won’t Calm The F*ck Down”

                    Racing thoughts aren’t easily tamed when you have an anxiety disorder, but it might help a little for your friend to know that you acknowledge how much it must suck.

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                      11. “Heads Up: We’re Throwing You A Surprise Party”

                      Surprise parties seem fun, but an unexpected social gathering is a nightmare for people with anxiety. (Your friend can always pretend they’re surprised.)

                        12. “Thank You For Sharing What You’re Going Through With Me”

                        It’s hard to open up to someone and risk a lack of understanding or support. Showing how much you appreciate being trusted is an important gesture.

                          13. “Good For Unlimited Guilt-Free Mental Health Days”

                          Sometimes anxious people just need the world to stop for a moment, but it can leave them feeling guilty for checking out. Help them know they don’t need to feel bad about taking care of themselves.

                            Featured photo credit: 13 Cards Your Anxious Friends Would Seriously Appreciate/Anna Borgess via ak-hdl.buzzfed.com

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                            Last Updated on March 25, 2020

                            How to Crush Your Lack of Motivation and Always Stay Motivated

                            How to Crush Your Lack of Motivation and Always Stay Motivated

                            How many times have you not achieved your goals and let yourself down due to your lack of motivation? When you’re not wallowing in sadness and self-pity, you are too busy procrastinating till you can’t anymore and before you know it, you are part of vicious cycle of anxiety and stress.

                            Whether it’s losing weight or bringing your business to fruition – motivation is essential for growth and success in every sphere of our lives.

                            That said, it is not easy staying motivated. In order to constantly stay motivated, you need to take ownership of your life and consciously make efforts in that direction.

                            Well, it’s never too late to take matters in your hands and change the course of your life. Here are 11 effective ways to crush your lack of motivation and always stay motivated:

                            1. Write Your Goals

                            The power of writing goals down has always been underestimated. Why write when you can remember, right? Wrong.

                            Our thoughts are all over the place and the first step to achieve your goals is to organize your thoughts. So, write your goals down, however big or small they might be. Make them as specific as possible and assign deadlines to each of them.

                            As you write them down and revisit them regularly, they get further drilled in your head, taking you closer to your goals. Doing this small exercise helps you to remain focused, motivated and lets you track your progress with ease.

                            Start today – take to your laptop or a diary and get down to writing what you wish to achieve in life.

                            2. Beat Procrastination

                            Your lack of motivation and procrastination go hand in hand. Every time you procrastinate, your motivation levels take a greater hit. The only way to bring an end to this loop is to stop procrastinating.

                            Next time you find yourself putting off something for ‘later’, stop and assess the reasons behind it. Get to the root of the cause and eliminate it in order to overcome this poor habit of procrastinating which is sabotaging your life and mental health.

                            Take a look at this guide and learn how to beat procrastination:

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                            What Is Procrastination (And the Complete Guide to Stop Procrastinating)

                            When you finally overcome procrastination, you will realize the positive impact it has on your mood and motivation levels.

                            3. Celebrate Small Wins

                            In the quest to achieve the bigger goals in life, we often forget to celebrate the smaller wins along the way. An achievement is an achievement – be it big or small, it deserves to be acknowledged and celebrated.

                            Finished a project on time? Reward yourself. Managed to run on the treadmill for a good one hour? Pat yourself on the back. Found time to meditate? Celebrate it.

                            It is these small achievements that reinstate that we are on the right path and take us one step closer to the bigger goals.

                            So, get into the habit of recognizing and appreciating small wins. You will be surprised to see how this practice helps you stay motivated.

                            4. Practice Gratitude

                            It’s easier to whine about what we don’t have rather than counting our blessings. Isn’t it?

                            Making gratefulness a part of your life is a very important step to retain high motivational levels. It revitalizes our spirits and renews our enthusiasm for life.

                            So, how do you practice gratitude? For starters, keep a gratitude journal to jot down what you are grateful for, express your gratitude to people you love and spread positivity wherever you go. If you need some inspiration to be thankful for, here it is:

                            60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

                            By doing so, you begin to focus more on what you have rather than what you don’t and that is a great start to stay motivated.

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                            5. Be Optimistic

                            Life is not always hunky dory. There will be bad days when things aren’t going in your favor, when you feel lost and all you want to do is give up.

                            At such times, instead of letting negativity take over your life, adopt an optimistic approach to life. Quit overthinking, ask the right questions and focus on finding solutions.

                            Yes, there will be hurdles along the way but if you hang on to positive affirmations and hopes, the journey will be a lot smoother. So, with every passing day, sow the seeds of positivity and you are sure to build a positive environment around you.

                            6. Don’t Dwell on the Past

                            A lot of times, our lack of motivation stems from the habit of dwelling on the past. This gives rise to fear and regrets, preventing us from making progress in the present day.

                            Dwelling on the past is nothing but a waste of time. Understand that the past is long gone, and you cannot do anything to change that.

                            What you can do is make your present day worthwhile. Instead of looking back and having regrets, learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on.

                            So, the next time you find your mind wandering off to the past, be determined to change the way you think and consciously concentrate on living in the present. This guide can help you:

                            10 Simple Steps To Let Go Of The Past

                            7. Face your Fears

                            You can never find motivation where there is fear. Identify the fear that is pulling you back and tackle it.

                            If you don’t face your fear head on, you cannot expect to conquer it and renew your motivation.

                            Ask yourself: What is stopping you? What are you scared of?

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                            Once you accept your fear, you can work on an action plan and think of solutions to overcome it. This article will give you some effective tips on conquering your fears:

                            How to Overcome Your Irrational Fears (That Stop You from Succeeding)

                            Seek external help if required but don’t choose to turn a blind eye over your fears – it will only aggravate matters.

                            8. Visualize your Success

                            You must have heard the famous quote, ‘see it to believe it’. That is exactly what visualization is about.

                            One of the most effective self-motivation techniques, visualizing the process to your desired outcome helps you move in a positive direction and achieve your goal.

                            Close your eyes and focus all your energies on the minutest of details that will take you where you want to reach. Doing this exercise everyday inspires you to keep going and not lose hope. The vision of attaining success will drive you to do better while instilling belief and confidence.

                            9. Find Inspiration

                            Can’t seem to find inspiration inwards? Don’t panic. There are plenty of external sources to gain inspiration from.

                            From motivational books and quotes to speeches, films and apps – it is a good idea to take help from motivational material to rekindle your spirits and regain your motivation.

                            Everyone is wired differently. For instance, a self-help book might work for your friend, but it might do nothing to move you. So, find what inspires you and turn to it when you are in desperate need for motivation.

                            Finding inspiration externally fills you with hope and sometimes that is all you need.

                            10. Enjoy Downtime

                            You are clearly exhausted with all the running you’re doing in life. So much, that you don’t even have time to stop and think what’s causing you so much unhappiness. All you know is that you are lacking motivation and everyday seems to have become a struggle.

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                            Now, that’s certainly not how you should live the rest of your life.

                            You need to schedule downtime for yourself, relax and give your mind and body some rest. Take a vacation, indulge in hobbies, meet some friends, put your hair down and stop with all the overthinking. It is important to do things that make you happy in order to think clearly and stay motivated.

                            11. Meditate Regularly

                            Meditation lets you take control of your mind. It improves focus and concentration while helping you relax.

                            Whenever you have had a tough day or find your thoughts going places, the best way to calm yourself down is by closing your eyes and meditating. It helps you to remove all the unnecessary frills in life and keeps you on the right track.

                            Include meditation in your daily schedule and you are sure to see an improvement in your productivity and motivation.

                            The Bottom Line

                            Practicing these simple exercises isn’t the tough part, what’s tough is religiously doing them every day.

                            However, don’t expect to get rid of your lack of motivation overnight. There will still be days when you will be low on energy but by making these conscious efforts to stay motivated, you are sure to see a vast change in your perspective and your response to bad days.

                            So, start today and be committed to making a positive change in your life.

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                            Featured photo credit: Sonnie Hiles via unsplash.com

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