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These 13 Cards Are Perfect For Your Anxious Friend

These 13 Cards Are Perfect For Your Anxious Friend

As someone who deals with social anxiety, I know the importance of having friends who support my needs and understand how social anxiety functions. Despite being some of the most common mental illnesses, anxiety disorders are still highly misunderstood and stigmatized. I’m lucky to have amazingly supportive friends who I can rely on. Because of how anxiety works, I often rely on their understanding so that I don’t have to constantly explain myself and remind them of what my needs are. It’s nice to have reminders now and again that show me they totally get me, or at least that they’re doing their best to be supportive.

Most of all, sometimes I need something that’ll make me chuckle.

Anna Borges of Buzzfeed created these great greeting cards for people who have friends with social anxiety problems, and they are totally perfect. (#5 is my favorite.)

The next time you think your anxious friend needs it, send them one of these cards to brighten their day:

1. “Sorry I Left You Alone At That Party”

You left your anxious friend in a sea of unknown people, the number one socializing no-no for people with anxiety. It’s okay, you’ll remember next time.

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    2. “Let’s Stay In And Watch Netflix”

    Watching something means you’re less obligated to make lots of conversation, and you can relax somewhere comfy and calm with lots of blankets. This is a much better alternative to that ill-fated party.

      3. “Hey: Our Conversation From Two Weeks Ago That You Keep Replaying Over And Over In Your Head Wasn’t Awkward At All. In Fact It Was Quite Delightful.”

      You’re never going to get a direct invitation to send this card, but it’ll probably be valid any time you send it to your anxious friend. The worrying is non-stop.

        4. “Good For One Canceled Plan”

        “In terms of like, instant relief, cancelling plans is like heroin.” – John Mulaney

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          5. “Have You Tried Meditation? (Just Kidding. I Know It’s More Complicated Than That)”

          A good friend won’t suggest you “eat lots of fruit” or “do yoga” to combat a legitimate psychological condition.

            6. “You Are Not A Burden”

            Sometimes, it’s just nice to have a reminder that you don’t think your anxious friend is a burden for being who they are. Repeated reminders may be necessary.

              7. “I Will Call For Delivery When Seamless Is Down So You Don’t Have To.”

              Online food ordering is a gift from the heavens. If that’s not available, as a good friend, you are the designated phone-talker.

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                8. “I Will Never Leave You Hanging”

                A perpetual typing bubble or an unfinished reply can cause anxious people a ton of stress. Don’t be ‘that guy’.

                  9. “You Are The Best Kind Of F*cked Up”

                  It’s easy to feel like your anxiety makes you irredeemably messed up. So let your friend know you love ’em anyway.

                    10. “I’m Sorry Your Mind Won’t Calm The F*ck Down”

                    Racing thoughts aren’t easily tamed when you have an anxiety disorder, but it might help a little for your friend to know that you acknowledge how much it must suck.

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                      11. “Heads Up: We’re Throwing You A Surprise Party”

                      Surprise parties seem fun, but an unexpected social gathering is a nightmare for people with anxiety. (Your friend can always pretend they’re surprised.)

                        12. “Thank You For Sharing What You’re Going Through With Me”

                        It’s hard to open up to someone and risk a lack of understanding or support. Showing how much you appreciate being trusted is an important gesture.

                          13. “Good For Unlimited Guilt-Free Mental Health Days”

                          Sometimes anxious people just need the world to stop for a moment, but it can leave them feeling guilty for checking out. Help them know they don’t need to feel bad about taking care of themselves.

                            Featured photo credit: 13 Cards Your Anxious Friends Would Seriously Appreciate/Anna Borgess via ak-hdl.buzzfed.com

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                            Last Updated on July 3, 2020

                            30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                            30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                            In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

                            1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

                            Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

                            2. Focus on your breath

                            Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

                            3. Get organized and purge old items

                            A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

                            4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

                            Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

                            5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

                            Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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                            6. Smile more

                            Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

                            7. Don’t worry about the future

                            As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

                            8. Eat real food

                            The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

                            9. Choose being happy over being right

                            Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

                            10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

                            Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

                            11. Make use of filtering features on social media

                            You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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                            12. Get comfortable with silence

                            When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

                            13. Listen to understand, not to respond

                            So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

                            14. Put your troubles in a bubble

                            Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

                            15. Speak more slowly

                            Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

                            16. Don’t procrastinate

                            Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

                            17. Buy a coloring book

                            Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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                            18. Prioritize yourself

                            You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

                            19. Forgive others

                            Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

                            20. Check your expectations

                            Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

                            21. Engage in active play

                            Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

                            22. Stop criticizing yourself

                            The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

                            23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

                            Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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                            24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

                            Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

                            25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

                            Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

                            26. Manage your money

                            Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

                            27. Stop trying to control everything

                            Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

                            28. Practice affirmations

                            Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

                            29. Get up before sunrise

                            Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

                            30. Be yourself

                            Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

                            Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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