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These 13 Cards Are Perfect For Your Anxious Friend

These 13 Cards Are Perfect For Your Anxious Friend

As someone who deals with social anxiety, I know the importance of having friends who support my needs and understand how social anxiety functions. Despite being some of the most common mental illnesses, anxiety disorders are still highly misunderstood and stigmatized. I’m lucky to have amazingly supportive friends who I can rely on. Because of how anxiety works, I often rely on their understanding so that I don’t have to constantly explain myself and remind them of what my needs are. It’s nice to have reminders now and again that show me they totally get me, or at least that they’re doing their best to be supportive.

Most of all, sometimes I need something that’ll make me chuckle.

Anna Borges of Buzzfeed created these great greeting cards for people who have friends with social anxiety problems, and they are totally perfect. (#5 is my favorite.)

The next time you think your anxious friend needs it, send them one of these cards to brighten their day:

1. “Sorry I Left You Alone At That Party”

You left your anxious friend in a sea of unknown people, the number one socializing no-no for people with anxiety. It’s okay, you’ll remember next time.

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    2. “Let’s Stay In And Watch Netflix”

    Watching something means you’re less obligated to make lots of conversation, and you can relax somewhere comfy and calm with lots of blankets. This is a much better alternative to that ill-fated party.

      3. “Hey: Our Conversation From Two Weeks Ago That You Keep Replaying Over And Over In Your Head Wasn’t Awkward At All. In Fact It Was Quite Delightful.”

      You’re never going to get a direct invitation to send this card, but it’ll probably be valid any time you send it to your anxious friend. The worrying is non-stop.

        4. “Good For One Canceled Plan”

        “In terms of like, instant relief, cancelling plans is like heroin.” – John Mulaney

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          5. “Have You Tried Meditation? (Just Kidding. I Know It’s More Complicated Than That)”

          A good friend won’t suggest you “eat lots of fruit” or “do yoga” to combat a legitimate psychological condition.

            6. “You Are Not A Burden”

            Sometimes, it’s just nice to have a reminder that you don’t think your anxious friend is a burden for being who they are. Repeated reminders may be necessary.

              7. “I Will Call For Delivery When Seamless Is Down So You Don’t Have To.”

              Online food ordering is a gift from the heavens. If that’s not available, as a good friend, you are the designated phone-talker.

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                8. “I Will Never Leave You Hanging”

                A perpetual typing bubble or an unfinished reply can cause anxious people a ton of stress. Don’t be ‘that guy’.

                  9. “You Are The Best Kind Of F*cked Up”

                  It’s easy to feel like your anxiety makes you irredeemably messed up. So let your friend know you love ’em anyway.

                    10. “I’m Sorry Your Mind Won’t Calm The F*ck Down”

                    Racing thoughts aren’t easily tamed when you have an anxiety disorder, but it might help a little for your friend to know that you acknowledge how much it must suck.

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                      11. “Heads Up: We’re Throwing You A Surprise Party”

                      Surprise parties seem fun, but an unexpected social gathering is a nightmare for people with anxiety. (Your friend can always pretend they’re surprised.)

                        12. “Thank You For Sharing What You’re Going Through With Me”

                        It’s hard to open up to someone and risk a lack of understanding or support. Showing how much you appreciate being trusted is an important gesture.

                          13. “Good For Unlimited Guilt-Free Mental Health Days”

                          Sometimes anxious people just need the world to stop for a moment, but it can leave them feeling guilty for checking out. Help them know they don’t need to feel bad about taking care of themselves.

                            Featured photo credit: 13 Cards Your Anxious Friends Would Seriously Appreciate/Anna Borgess via ak-hdl.buzzfed.com

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                            Last Updated on January 18, 2019

                            7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

                            7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

                            Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

                            But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

                            If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

                            1. Limit the time you spend with them.

                            First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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                            In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

                            Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

                            2. Speak up for yourself.

                            Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

                            3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

                            This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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                            But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

                            4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

                            Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

                            This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

                            Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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                            5. Change the subject.

                            When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

                            Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

                            6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

                            Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

                            I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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                            You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

                            Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

                            7. Leave them behind.

                            Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

                            If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

                            That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

                            You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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