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20 Little Signs You’ve Found The One

20 Little Signs You’ve Found The One

Starting a relationship is an exciting endeavor – we never know where it will go, what we will learn about the other person and what the future might hold.

Even in the most stable, long-term relationships, there can be a small flicker of doubt in us that makes us wonder if we have found the mythical “one”. Soul-mate, partner, true love- no matter how you say it, that is the idea of ultimate love that we all want to find in our partner.

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When we think of a soul-mate, we think of the one person out there that feels as though they were made for us: a person who completes the missing portion of ourselves and who can travel the journey of life at our side.

Uncertainty does no good when it comes to romantic relationships. Spending lots of time worrying about if your choice in a partner will turn into a wise investment of your time is- ironically- often a poor use of your time, in the end. The best relationships start with potential, uncertainty, hope and a small shimmer of a spark that could turn into something wonderfully ineffable.

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Here’s 20 ways to know if your relationship is one that will stand the test of time:

1. Communication is not something you have to demand: it comes naturally

2. There is a process of ‘give and take’ from both of you

3. You can envision your dreams involving them, and they feel the same

4. They are comfortable trying things you want to try

5. But they are just as comfortable relaxing at home with you

6. You can trust them with anything

7. They can see the silver lining to your flaws

8. Alone time is mutually comforting- not the cause of a fight

9. Hard times bring out the best in them, not the worst

10. There is no screaming, threatening or pettiness between the two of you

11. Being with one another feels safe, like you are both cocooned from the real world

12. You can respect each others’ differences and opinions

13. You can get along with both of your friendship groups

14. Grudges are a non-entity – forgiveness comes before argument fodder

15. Empathy is natural and never forced

16. If you are married, you can comfortably envision being wed again and again

17. If you have children, you two are a team in your parenting approach. You’re never divided

18. You take each others’ advice to heart

19.Your gut and heart agree that they are ‘the one’

20. More than anything, you both want each other to be as happy and healthy as possible. You’re committed to this, even if it means not being with them anymore

There are many more examples I could have listed, as each relationship is unique. Most relationships don’t fit the soul-mate ideal. Even still, the “one” is that one person who, even with all their faults, you can come home to and still feel like everything is going to be alright in the end.

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If you’re looking at this list and wondering if not experiencing some of these love points is a red flag, then stop worrying. Perfection in a human is like beauty in art- it’s in the eye of the beholder.

If you and your partner have any of the points on this list going for you, you know you’ve found the “one”. Take #19 to heart, especially; even if you’re reading this, uncertain in your own relationship or yourself, remember that you are the one that knows best. If there’s a little voice telling you something is just right, it more than likely knows what it is talking about.

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For better or worse, go forth, you crazy lovebirds.

Featured photo credit: Ana_Cotta via flickr.com

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Procrastinating, making excuses or tricking yourself into loafing is just going to cement the fact that nothing will ever get done. It might not sound pretty, or even too easy, but the easiest way to get to success is to just jump in and get going (which is exactly how I got started). 2. Blaming It's not your fault you're not successful – the industry is bad, you don't have the money, etc, etc. When it comes down to it, however, who is the one responsible for your success? You. This is the day and age where people are launching successful start-ups in a few months, getting published online and finding their way to success one way or another. Some things might be out of your control, but blaming others is just going to waste the energy and time you need to get going. 3. Sour-grapes Being envious of the success of others is almost as bad as blaming them. 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You may very well have to carve your own path through treacherous jungle. If you give up the first time a mosquito bites you then you've doomed yourself already. Success, in large part, is about the human being in the arena. People cheer for them, their struggle and victory, but the person who watches idly and scoffs, having never tried has also never really lived. Mindsets are not set in stone. It is never too late to get started and change your perspective. After all, achieving success is completely up to you – you are the one making excuses and holding yourself back. You are also the one that will decide when it is time to stand up and get back into that arena. 10 Bad Habits That Stop People From Achieving Success 5 Tools We Always Use Which Actually Make Us Unproductive 5 Tools We Always Use Which Actually Make Us Unproductive

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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