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10 Things That Make Long Distance Relationships Easier

10 Things That Make Long Distance Relationships Easier

Taking a relationship long distance is never easy. It’s something no couple wants to face but sometimes it’s unavoidable. Long distance relationships can be testing, but with a lot of strength and commitment they can work! Here are 10 things you can do to keep your love alive whilst you’re apart.

1. Commit To The Relationship

If you’re wanting to take your relationship long distance, it’s important that you both commit that you’re going to do everything you can to make it work. Long distance is tough and takes a lot of planning, trust and determination. Make sure you’re both on the same page with what you want. It can only ever work if you’re both equal in wanting to keep the relationship moving.

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2. Plan Trips

It’s great to plan a visit or perhaps have something booked for when you’re back together. It will make your time apart easier if you’re working towards a certain date and you’ll feel excited knowing every day you’re closer to being reunited! Keeping the relationship upbeat and optimistic is a sure way to ensure that spark doesn’t fade.

3. Surprises

A great way to keep your love alive is to surprise each other with thoughtful little gestures. Share a song, a message, a parcel or a photo! Let them know you’re thinking of them and remember romantic gestures can travel the world, even if you can’t!

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4. Communication

The crucial part of any relationship. Even if you can’t be with your love, it’s important you still talk to each other daily. Update one another on the little things but also let them know how you’re feeling, just because you’re not with them is no excuse to miss out on daily details! Be honest with each other and you’ll find you’ll feel a lot closer.

5. Enjoy Your Small Moments

If you’re visiting each other, it’s easy to feel like you need to make the most of every moment together and arrange lavish plans. Of course it’s great to have things to do but it’s also important to take time to just enjoy each others company. A day doing absolutely nothing together is certainly not a waste of a day!

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6. Be Organized

Being organized is important to making a long distance relationship work! Schedule when you’ll talk to each other; it could be a Skype or phone call at a certain time of the day. Find a routine that works for the both of you and can be easily maintained- it helps if you’re in a similar setting; you could both be in bed or eating dinner. Make sure you’re not rushing around, give yourself time to focus on them.

7. Do Things Together

Just because you can’t physically be in each other’s presence doesn’t mean you can’t do the same thing. Read the same book, watch a film together at the same time, attempt cooking with the same recipe- you’ll feel closer and have things in common this way. Get creative with ideas and have fun with making your relationship work!

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8. Know Their Routine

Knowing each others daily routine, upcoming plans and events is important. It’s nice to know you’ve got some sense on what they’re up to. Know their schedule, what times they finish work, what day they have a big meeting. You’ll be able to support them with whatever they’re doing and you’ll feel closer this way!

9. Video Chat

There’s nothing better than looking into the eyes of your love, and thanks to the technology it’s a luxury we can have easy access to! Try and utilize this tool as much as you can. It will make missing them a lot easier.

10. Stay Positive

Positivity is needed if you want to keep the relationship alive. Try and see the bright side of being apart, maybe you can learn a new skill to impress them with when they return. Invest some time in yourself and think of how amazing it will feel to be reunited. It doesn’t have to be all bad, and keeping a positive attitude will keep the relationship fun and healthy.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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