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7 Bad Speaking Habits You Should Kick Immediately

7 Bad Speaking Habits You Should Kick Immediately

Words are a powerful entity. They give you the ability to change the world, but they also have the power to completely destroy you. Worst of all, they sometimes slip out, going unnoticed by the person speaking but recognized by everyone else around them. Bad habits of speech come in all forms, and it’s important to recognize when you’ve gotten into the habit of negative talk in any way.

Unfortunately, it’s not just what you say, but how you say it and how it’s perceived that give your words negative meaning. Discussing an event that has to do with someone who isn’t present, no matter how innocuous, can come off as gossip, and will almost always come back to bite you.

You’ll also come off as judgmental when discussing a person who isn’t present to defend themselves. Make it a habit to spread good information and notions about people when they’re not around, so your words can’t possibly be twisted by others.

You should also avoid complaining or making excuses, and take accountability for your actions. When you place blame on others for your shortcomings, you detract from your integrity and make yourself appear untrustworthy.

Even when you mess up, being truthful to yourself and others is the only way you’ll be able to grow, and the only way others will commend you for such growth.

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    Last Updated on March 5, 2021

    Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

    Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

    I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

    Research Background

    Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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    “I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

    This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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    It stimulates your memory

    When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

    It helps stay focused

    When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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    It helps you clarify your thoughts

    Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

    “It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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