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Advice For Dating A Woman Who’s Used To Being Single

Advice For Dating A Woman Who’s Used To Being Single

Women who are single are used to being independent. They find joy in the things they accomplish alone. Dating independent people like this comes with its own unique set of challenges. It is not as if they do not need companionship. They just might believe in playing their cards their own way, without any external support.

Here are some things you need to remember when you date someone who has always been single and is trying to adjust.

1. She does what she wants without letting you know first

She is so comfortable with being independent. She feels she can do her own thing without letting you know first. She would love to let you know, but she is okay with doing what she wants to do without asking for permission from anyone.

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2. She can be rigid at first

She has always been determined and steadfast on her own while navigating through situations. When you come in it may mean that a little of her territory has been encroached upon. Expect her to be stubborn at first. Although this will fade, be willing and patient to help her realize that you are partner rather than a “stealer” of territory.

3. She will appear tough

She uses a strong appearance to intimidate others and protect herself. Eventually, they could pull down this veil of supposed strength. It is your responsibility to be patient and understanding. They know what they want. This characteristic they possess could help them filter through the process.

4. She will have overprotective friends

Her friends will be a shield for a while. They will be suspicious of you at first, although they only want to be protective of her. It is just that they are not used to seeing her with someone special. They just want to be certain that she is going out with the right person.

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5. She will want to take things slowly

She is so used to being with herself that she wants to take things slowly, rather than dive right into a serious relationship. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you, it’s just that she’s slowly absorbing the idea and trying to figure out a way to plug herself into the relationship.

6. She will have a hard time letting you do things for her

She is used to taking care of herself. It isn’t likely that she’ll see you being some sort of Superman coming to her rescue. She has lived so long in her single world that she would find it difficult to have someone else simply looking out for her. So don’t take it personally.

7. She can be afraid

Beyond the tough persona there is some fear and caution that exists within her. She is afraid of being loved. and being in love. She may have been hurt before, and just might be afraid of being hurt again.

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8. She will question your motives

She wants to get into your thoughts. She would love to know why you do the things you do for them. Since she is used to figuring things out by herself, she will like to figure you out whether you are real deal or not.

9. She will need her space sometimes

You may consider this strange, but she will need her space sometimes. She is used to spending most of her time alone in solitude. Such space and time allows her to think independently and figure things out. And this space makes her see you in a clearer light.

10. She will be reserved

She won’t want to reveal everything important about her life to you right away. It may take some time, especially for her to share the things that matter most and are dearest to her. She will want you to wait for such vital information. Perhaps when you do get to know her better, she will open up the raw version of her beautiful self for you to discover. It will be well worth the wait.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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