When it comes to liking someone, a lot of factors come into play. It is especially interesting to consider first impressions and how many different aspects of a person we take in upon first meeting them. In a matter of seconds, we generally classify the person so we can modify our attitude and decide how to approach the interaction. To truly know someone, we need quite a bit more information. For example, have you ever considered how cleanliness factors into your impressions of others?
“Cleanliness is next to godliness,” but is it really? There are more than a few indicators that point to the idea that messy people are easier to like. Some of them are obvious while others are more subtle. Let’s see what makes these rascals so lovable.
1. Messy people have more tolerance for other people’s quirks
Because they spend most of their lives being harassed and singled out by “normal” people, their ability for empathy develops. How many times have you been sarcastically praised for the state your room is in? How often are you attacked for spilling something or leaving something “in the wrong place?”
This inability of other people to understand that messy people don’t perceive the world the same way can really bother them. That’s why they show a lot of understanding for people who function a bit outside of the social norm.
2. They do not stress about small things
How much stress do you think you can take? I can’t imagine what state my mind would be in if I stressed about the location of each individual sock or the stains on my carpet. Messy people tend to keep their minds on the things that really matter, and the rest they can live without.
3. It’s cute when they clean up for you
It is the ultimate sign of respect and affection when someone who is generally messy decides to tidy up for you. Still, going back to their usual messy ways actually means that they feel comfortable around you.
4. They are more creative, and there is a reason for that
If I told you to imagine an artist, you are bound to envision them in a messy environment. This is a social stereotype of sorts which we share on a global level. The correlation between creativity and messiness is something that is attributed to many great minds of our past — like Albert Einstein, Mark Twain, and many others. A study was conducted at the University of Minnesota by psychologist Kathleen Vohs to test this theory — it yielded some interesting results.
5. They don’t mind other people being messy
We already mentioned tolerance for various quirks, but this point deserves a separate mention. It is a very interesting situation to see a normally orderly and organized person make a mess at a sloppy person’s home. Depending on their personality, they may do one of two things: start feeling awkward and shuffle for the cleaning products, or laugh it off and remember all the times the host made a mess at their place. Either way, the messy host is usually oblivious to this and really doesn’t mind the mess. They’ll take care of it — eventually.
6. It is hard to embarrass them
Messy people are used to being singled out, so being in the spotlight really doesn’t mess with their heads too much. Of course, they know the feeling of embarassment, but in most cases they overcome it and tend to deal with it quite efficiently.
7. They have the wildest things around their rooms
While it might not seem like it, messy people actually decorate their rooms — just not conventionally. There are all kinds of small mementos scattered throughout the room. Anything from concert tickets, random chocolate wrappings, umbrellas from cocktails, and all sorts of weird trinkets which were left for some reason. One day, they’ll be looking for something in particular and find something that will put a smile on their face.
8. You feel more relaxed when you enter their home
For obvious reasons, messy people throw the best, off-the-chain, completely off-the-hook parties ever. They don’t care what happens, as long as it doesn’t include completely trashing the place, furniture and all. It can ruin the mood of a party when you see the host wincing every time somebody spills a drop from their glass.
9. It’s impressive when they can actually find stuff in that mess
Many have stood in awe watching a messy person taking very planned and calculated steps through a room that looked like it was a front in WWII, and finding each and every thing they need in a matter of minutes. This ability relies partially on memory and partially on instinct and practice. This isn’t their first rodeo.
10. They are not married to their phones
Actually, messy people usually treat their phones like more of a liability than a necessity. It is not uncommon for this nifty little device to get lost somewhere in the mess. They’re just not that interested in finding it. Chances are that a messy person won’t devote attention to their phones while having a conversation with you or stress because Android is unpatchable.
11. The fact that they will clean the whole house to get out of a boring obligation
Because it’s a common occurrence for messy and orderly people share a home, the whole process of getting messy people motivated to clean up is usually leveraged by an even worse chore. Studying works wonders, buying groceries in some cases, and walking the dog can be a great incentive as well. Still, when they really decide to clean up, they do it thoroughly.
12. They don’t mind imperfections
Messy people are rarely perfectionists and don’t seek perfection from those they interact with. Pressuring somebody to change is not something that they like to do, nor do they feel there is a need to do it.
13. They make the neat people feel better about themselves
Unlike messy people, there are those who actually enjoy making things orderly and maintaining that order. There are people who consider that time relaxing. This doesn’t mean that messy people go out of their way to make a mess, but the fact is that this dynamic of a relationship is present in a lot of cases, and it works.
14. They can really get ready in a hurry
Forgo your organized closet and your colour-classified drawers. A key factor to being quick when you are getting ready isn’t knowing where everything is, it is being able to make decisions fast. This is how a messy person gets ready on the run:
“Hmm, this will do.”
“Ooh, I didn’t know I still had this.”
“Sniff, not too bad.”
No overthinking, no panic, just pure instinct — and it really works. This can be a lifesaver in a lot of situations and makes them a bit more prepared for not-so-casual emergency situations.
15. They stick to their guns
There is a lot of social pressure to be clean and organized. Being messy is seen as an inherently bad thing. However, most messy people find a way to meet these standards but maintain a lifestyle that suits them best in their private lives.
There is a difference between being messy and being a complete slob. While we are most definitely entitled to the right to hold our own space in a state of perpetual mess, it is unkind and rude to keep it stinky, unhygienic, and — in some cases — physically dangerous to our friends and family members.
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