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15 Reasons Why Messy People Are Likeable

15 Reasons Why Messy People Are Likeable

When it comes to liking someone, a lot of factors come into play. It is especially interesting to consider first impressions and how many different aspects of a person we take in upon first meeting them. In a matter of seconds, we generally classify the person so we can modify our attitude and decide how to approach the interaction. To truly know someone, we need quite a bit more information. For example, have you ever considered how cleanliness factors into your impressions of others?

“Cleanliness is next to godliness,” but is it really? There are more than a few indicators that point to the idea that messy people are easier to like. Some of them are obvious while others are more subtle. Let’s see what makes these rascals so lovable.

1. Messy people have more tolerance for other people’s quirks

Because they spend most of their lives being harassed and singled out by “normal” people, their ability for empathy develops. How many times have you been sarcastically praised for the state your room is in? How often are you attacked for spilling something or leaving something “in the wrong place?”

This inability of other people to understand that messy people don’t perceive the world the same way can really bother them. That’s why they show a lot of understanding for people who function a bit outside of the social norm.

2. They do not stress about small things

How much stress do you think you can take? I can’t imagine what state my mind would be in if I stressed about the location of each individual sock or the stains on my carpet. Messy people tend to keep their minds on the things that really matter, and the rest they can live without.

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3. It’s cute when they clean up for you

It is the ultimate sign of respect and affection when someone who is generally messy decides to tidy up for you. Still, going back to their usual messy ways actually means that they feel comfortable around you.

4. They are more creative, and there is a reason for that

If I told you to imagine an artist, you are bound to envision them in a messy environment. This is a social stereotype of sorts which we share on a global level. The correlation between creativity and messiness is something that is attributed to many great minds of our past — like Albert Einstein, Mark Twain, and many others. A study was conducted at the University of Minnesota by psychologist Kathleen Vohs to test this theory — it yielded some interesting results.

5. They don’t mind other people being messy

We already mentioned tolerance for various quirks, but this point deserves a separate mention. It is a very interesting situation to see a normally orderly and organized person make a mess at a sloppy person’s home. Depending on their personality, they may do one of two things: start feeling awkward and shuffle for the cleaning products, or laugh it off and remember all the times the host made a mess at their place. Either way, the messy host is usually oblivious to this and really doesn’t mind the mess. They’ll take care of it — eventually.

6. It is hard to embarrass them

Messy people are used to being singled out, so being in the spotlight really doesn’t mess with their heads too much. Of course, they know the feeling of embarassment, but in most cases they overcome it and tend to deal with it quite efficiently.

7. They have the wildest things around their rooms

While it might not seem like it, messy people actually decorate their rooms — just not conventionally. There are all kinds of small mementos scattered throughout the room. Anything from concert tickets, random chocolate wrappings, umbrellas from cocktails, and all sorts of weird trinkets which were left for some reason. One day, they’ll be looking for something in particular and find something that will put a smile on their face.

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8. You feel more relaxed when you enter their home

For obvious reasons, messy people throw the best, off-the-chain, completely off-the-hook parties ever. They don’t care what happens, as long as it doesn’t include completely trashing the place, furniture and all. It can ruin the mood of a party when you see the host wincing every time somebody spills a drop from their glass.

9. It’s impressive when they can actually find stuff in that mess

Many have stood in awe watching a messy person taking very planned and calculated steps through a room that looked like it was a front in WWII, and finding each and every thing they need in a matter of minutes. This ability relies partially on memory and partially on instinct and practice. This isn’t their first rodeo.

10. They are not married to their phones

Actually, messy people usually treat their phones like more of a liability than a necessity. It is not uncommon for this nifty little device to get lost somewhere in the mess. They’re just not that interested in finding it. Chances are that a messy person won’t devote attention to their phones while having a conversation with you or stress because Android is unpatchable.

11. The fact that they will clean the whole house to get out of a boring obligation

Because it’s a common occurrence for messy and orderly people share a home, the whole process of getting messy people motivated to clean up is usually leveraged by an even worse chore. Studying works wonders, buying groceries in some cases, and walking the dog can be a great incentive as well. Still, when they really decide to clean up, they do it thoroughly.

12. They don’t mind imperfections

Messy people are rarely perfectionists and don’t seek perfection from those they interact with. Pressuring somebody to change is not something that they like to do, nor do they feel there is a need to do it.

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13. They make the neat people feel better about themselves

Unlike messy people, there are those who actually enjoy making things orderly and maintaining that order. There are people who consider that time relaxing. This doesn’t mean that messy people go out of their way to make a mess, but the fact is that this dynamic of a relationship is present in a lot of cases, and it works.

14. They can really get ready in a hurry

Forgo your organized closet and your colour-classified drawers. A key factor to being quick when you are getting ready isn’t knowing where everything is, it is being able to make decisions fast. This is how a messy person gets ready on the run:

“Hmm, this will do.”

“Ooh, I didn’t know I still had this.”

“Sniff, not too bad.”

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“Done.”

No overthinking, no panic, just pure instinct — and it really works. This can be a lifesaver in a lot of situations and makes them a bit more prepared for not-so-casual emergency situations.

15. They stick to their guns

There is a lot of social pressure to be clean and organized. Being messy is seen as an inherently bad thing. However, most messy people find a way to meet these standards but maintain a lifestyle that suits them best in their private lives.

There is a difference between being messy and being a complete slob. While we are most definitely entitled to the right to hold our own space in a state of perpetual mess, it is unkind and rude to keep it stinky, unhygienic, and — in some cases — physically dangerous to our friends and family members.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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