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15 Reasons Why Messy People Are Likeable

15 Reasons Why Messy People Are Likeable

When it comes to liking someone, a lot of factors come into play. It is especially interesting to consider first impressions and how many different aspects of a person we take in upon first meeting them. In a matter of seconds, we generally classify the person so we can modify our attitude and decide how to approach the interaction. To truly know someone, we need quite a bit more information. For example, have you ever considered how cleanliness factors into your impressions of others?

“Cleanliness is next to godliness,” but is it really? There are more than a few indicators that point to the idea that messy people are easier to like. Some of them are obvious while others are more subtle. Let’s see what makes these rascals so lovable.

1. Messy people have more tolerance for other people’s quirks

Because they spend most of their lives being harassed and singled out by “normal” people, their ability for empathy develops. How many times have you been sarcastically praised for the state your room is in? How often are you attacked for spilling something or leaving something “in the wrong place?”

This inability of other people to understand that messy people don’t perceive the world the same way can really bother them. That’s why they show a lot of understanding for people who function a bit outside of the social norm.

2. They do not stress about small things

How much stress do you think you can take? I can’t imagine what state my mind would be in if I stressed about the location of each individual sock or the stains on my carpet. Messy people tend to keep their minds on the things that really matter, and the rest they can live without.

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3. It’s cute when they clean up for you

It is the ultimate sign of respect and affection when someone who is generally messy decides to tidy up for you. Still, going back to their usual messy ways actually means that they feel comfortable around you.

4. They are more creative, and there is a reason for that

If I told you to imagine an artist, you are bound to envision them in a messy environment. This is a social stereotype of sorts which we share on a global level. The correlation between creativity and messiness is something that is attributed to many great minds of our past — like Albert Einstein, Mark Twain, and many others. A study was conducted at the University of Minnesota by psychologist Kathleen Vohs to test this theory — it yielded some interesting results.

5. They don’t mind other people being messy

We already mentioned tolerance for various quirks, but this point deserves a separate mention. It is a very interesting situation to see a normally orderly and organized person make a mess at a sloppy person’s home. Depending on their personality, they may do one of two things: start feeling awkward and shuffle for the cleaning products, or laugh it off and remember all the times the host made a mess at their place. Either way, the messy host is usually oblivious to this and really doesn’t mind the mess. They’ll take care of it — eventually.

6. It is hard to embarrass them

Messy people are used to being singled out, so being in the spotlight really doesn’t mess with their heads too much. Of course, they know the feeling of embarassment, but in most cases they overcome it and tend to deal with it quite efficiently.

7. They have the wildest things around their rooms

While it might not seem like it, messy people actually decorate their rooms — just not conventionally. There are all kinds of small mementos scattered throughout the room. Anything from concert tickets, random chocolate wrappings, umbrellas from cocktails, and all sorts of weird trinkets which were left for some reason. One day, they’ll be looking for something in particular and find something that will put a smile on their face.

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8. You feel more relaxed when you enter their home

For obvious reasons, messy people throw the best, off-the-chain, completely off-the-hook parties ever. They don’t care what happens, as long as it doesn’t include completely trashing the place, furniture and all. It can ruin the mood of a party when you see the host wincing every time somebody spills a drop from their glass.

9. It’s impressive when they can actually find stuff in that mess

Many have stood in awe watching a messy person taking very planned and calculated steps through a room that looked like it was a front in WWII, and finding each and every thing they need in a matter of minutes. This ability relies partially on memory and partially on instinct and practice. This isn’t their first rodeo.

10. They are not married to their phones

Actually, messy people usually treat their phones like more of a liability than a necessity. It is not uncommon for this nifty little device to get lost somewhere in the mess. They’re just not that interested in finding it. Chances are that a messy person won’t devote attention to their phones while having a conversation with you or stress because Android is unpatchable.

11. The fact that they will clean the whole house to get out of a boring obligation

Because it’s a common occurrence for messy and orderly people share a home, the whole process of getting messy people motivated to clean up is usually leveraged by an even worse chore. Studying works wonders, buying groceries in some cases, and walking the dog can be a great incentive as well. Still, when they really decide to clean up, they do it thoroughly.

12. They don’t mind imperfections

Messy people are rarely perfectionists and don’t seek perfection from those they interact with. Pressuring somebody to change is not something that they like to do, nor do they feel there is a need to do it.

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13. They make the neat people feel better about themselves

Unlike messy people, there are those who actually enjoy making things orderly and maintaining that order. There are people who consider that time relaxing. This doesn’t mean that messy people go out of their way to make a mess, but the fact is that this dynamic of a relationship is present in a lot of cases, and it works.

14. They can really get ready in a hurry

Forgo your organized closet and your colour-classified drawers. A key factor to being quick when you are getting ready isn’t knowing where everything is, it is being able to make decisions fast. This is how a messy person gets ready on the run:

“Hmm, this will do.”

“Ooh, I didn’t know I still had this.”

“Sniff, not too bad.”

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“Done.”

No overthinking, no panic, just pure instinct — and it really works. This can be a lifesaver in a lot of situations and makes them a bit more prepared for not-so-casual emergency situations.

15. They stick to their guns

There is a lot of social pressure to be clean and organized. Being messy is seen as an inherently bad thing. However, most messy people find a way to meet these standards but maintain a lifestyle that suits them best in their private lives.

There is a difference between being messy and being a complete slob. While we are most definitely entitled to the right to hold our own space in a state of perpetual mess, it is unkind and rude to keep it stinky, unhygienic, and — in some cases — physically dangerous to our friends and family members.

Featured photo credit: danabooo via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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