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15 Reasons Why Messy People Are Likeable

15 Reasons Why Messy People Are Likeable

When it comes to liking someone, a lot of factors come into play. It is especially interesting to consider first impressions and how many different aspects of a person we take in upon first meeting them. In a matter of seconds, we generally classify the person so we can modify our attitude and decide how to approach the interaction. To truly know someone, we need quite a bit more information. For example, have you ever considered how cleanliness factors into your impressions of others?

“Cleanliness is next to godliness,” but is it really? There are more than a few indicators that point to the idea that messy people are easier to like. Some of them are obvious while others are more subtle. Let’s see what makes these rascals so lovable.

1. Messy people have more tolerance for other people’s quirks

Because they spend most of their lives being harassed and singled out by “normal” people, their ability for empathy develops. How many times have you been sarcastically praised for the state your room is in? How often are you attacked for spilling something or leaving something “in the wrong place?”

This inability of other people to understand that messy people don’t perceive the world the same way can really bother them. That’s why they show a lot of understanding for people who function a bit outside of the social norm.

2. They do not stress about small things

How much stress do you think you can take? I can’t imagine what state my mind would be in if I stressed about the location of each individual sock or the stains on my carpet. Messy people tend to keep their minds on the things that really matter, and the rest they can live without.

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3. It’s cute when they clean up for you

It is the ultimate sign of respect and affection when someone who is generally messy decides to tidy up for you. Still, going back to their usual messy ways actually means that they feel comfortable around you.

4. They are more creative, and there is a reason for that

If I told you to imagine an artist, you are bound to envision them in a messy environment. This is a social stereotype of sorts which we share on a global level. The correlation between creativity and messiness is something that is attributed to many great minds of our past — like Albert Einstein, Mark Twain, and many others. A study was conducted at the University of Minnesota by psychologist Kathleen Vohs to test this theory — it yielded some interesting results.

5. They don’t mind other people being messy

We already mentioned tolerance for various quirks, but this point deserves a separate mention. It is a very interesting situation to see a normally orderly and organized person make a mess at a sloppy person’s home. Depending on their personality, they may do one of two things: start feeling awkward and shuffle for the cleaning products, or laugh it off and remember all the times the host made a mess at their place. Either way, the messy host is usually oblivious to this and really doesn’t mind the mess. They’ll take care of it — eventually.

6. It is hard to embarrass them

Messy people are used to being singled out, so being in the spotlight really doesn’t mess with their heads too much. Of course, they know the feeling of embarassment, but in most cases they overcome it and tend to deal with it quite efficiently.

7. They have the wildest things around their rooms

While it might not seem like it, messy people actually decorate their rooms — just not conventionally. There are all kinds of small mementos scattered throughout the room. Anything from concert tickets, random chocolate wrappings, umbrellas from cocktails, and all sorts of weird trinkets which were left for some reason. One day, they’ll be looking for something in particular and find something that will put a smile on their face.

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8. You feel more relaxed when you enter their home

For obvious reasons, messy people throw the best, off-the-chain, completely off-the-hook parties ever. They don’t care what happens, as long as it doesn’t include completely trashing the place, furniture and all. It can ruin the mood of a party when you see the host wincing every time somebody spills a drop from their glass.

9. It’s impressive when they can actually find stuff in that mess

Many have stood in awe watching a messy person taking very planned and calculated steps through a room that looked like it was a front in WWII, and finding each and every thing they need in a matter of minutes. This ability relies partially on memory and partially on instinct and practice. This isn’t their first rodeo.

10. They are not married to their phones

Actually, messy people usually treat their phones like more of a liability than a necessity. It is not uncommon for this nifty little device to get lost somewhere in the mess. They’re just not that interested in finding it. Chances are that a messy person won’t devote attention to their phones while having a conversation with you or stress because Android is unpatchable.

11. The fact that they will clean the whole house to get out of a boring obligation

Because it’s a common occurrence for messy and orderly people share a home, the whole process of getting messy people motivated to clean up is usually leveraged by an even worse chore. Studying works wonders, buying groceries in some cases, and walking the dog can be a great incentive as well. Still, when they really decide to clean up, they do it thoroughly.

12. They don’t mind imperfections

Messy people are rarely perfectionists and don’t seek perfection from those they interact with. Pressuring somebody to change is not something that they like to do, nor do they feel there is a need to do it.

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13. They make the neat people feel better about themselves

Unlike messy people, there are those who actually enjoy making things orderly and maintaining that order. There are people who consider that time relaxing. This doesn’t mean that messy people go out of their way to make a mess, but the fact is that this dynamic of a relationship is present in a lot of cases, and it works.

14. They can really get ready in a hurry

Forgo your organized closet and your colour-classified drawers. A key factor to being quick when you are getting ready isn’t knowing where everything is, it is being able to make decisions fast. This is how a messy person gets ready on the run:

“Hmm, this will do.”

“Ooh, I didn’t know I still had this.”

“Sniff, not too bad.”

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“Done.”

No overthinking, no panic, just pure instinct — and it really works. This can be a lifesaver in a lot of situations and makes them a bit more prepared for not-so-casual emergency situations.

15. They stick to their guns

There is a lot of social pressure to be clean and organized. Being messy is seen as an inherently bad thing. However, most messy people find a way to meet these standards but maintain a lifestyle that suits them best in their private lives.

There is a difference between being messy and being a complete slob. While we are most definitely entitled to the right to hold our own space in a state of perpetual mess, it is unkind and rude to keep it stinky, unhygienic, and — in some cases — physically dangerous to our friends and family members.

Featured photo credit: danabooo via flickr.com

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7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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