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A Letter To My Daughter: You’re Way More Powerful Than You Imagined

A Letter To My Daughter: You’re Way More Powerful Than You Imagined

Dear daughter,

I drove home from work feeling like nothing I did matters. You were waiting for me on the porch, happy to have me home. Just seeing your smiling face made the rest of the tedious day become what didn’t matter. And then I realized, even as a little girl, you’re way more powerful than you could ever imagine. As you are growing up, touching more and more people’s lives in this world, it is even more important for you to understand that and embrace it.

You have the power to make other people feel like they matter

Everyone has days when they feel like they don’t matter. Sometimes, the days can stack on top of each other and nothing seems to matter. You have the power to change this mindset in others.

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Remember the time you made presents for your teachers, your bus driver, and the lady in the cafeteria? You didn’t want anyone to be left out. They all mattered to you. You showed them with kindness that they all mattered equally. You didn’t skip anyone.

You have the power to build people up or tear them down

Unhappy people like to make others unhappy, and you may see this more as you spend time with more kids. It is true even for adults. You can spend your time with these people just so you won’t be alone. You can find someone weaker or sadder and tear them down. But, you can also choose to change this.

You can change the conversation. You can find better things to talk about and use your words to build up the people around you. You can go your own way and do good things. The easiest thing in the world is to tear people down, but you have the power to build people up. I hope you make that choice, no matter what the people around you say or do.

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You have the power to make a difference

I love that trash makes you angry. I love that you love animals and nature. I will support you however I can when you want to make a difference.

You were the one that wanted us to take trash bags with us on our walks. Now, you have the whole family gathering trash and recycling it, ensuring it won’t hurt any animals and putting it in its rightful place.

You wanted us to plant flowers for the pollinators because we need more bees and butterflies in the world, so now we have a great big garden of them. You wanted to walk to the farmer’s market and buy fresh fruit and vegetables. Now we do it every Saturday. It is because of you.

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Your family is the first group of people you changed to make a difference. Take that power, go into the world and find more ways to make a difference. You have that power.

Your words, as well as your action, have power

People leave words behind them like breadcrumbs. Everywhere there are words that will be picked up by the rest of the world. We pay way too much attention to some words and little attention to others.

Don’t ever convince yourself that what you say or write doesn’t matter, even as the world is crowded with comments and commentary. Your world will be built up or torn down with the words you let inside your heart and mind. Other people’s worlds may be built up or torn down with the words that come out of your mouth. Remember to give people hope and inspiration always, and this will also give you hope and inspiration.

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Daughter, you have already taught me so much by just by being a presence in my life. I can only imagine what you could do given purpose and motivation. So with that, I just want to remind you one last time: you’re way more powerful than you realize. You can change the world in significant ways.

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Last Updated on October 17, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

Final thoughts

It will probably seem really scary at first to get out of your comfort zone. But as I said, you don’t need to jump right out of your comfort zone at once, you can take baby steps gradually. As you slowly push past your comfort zone, you’ll feel more and more at ease about the new stuff which seems so dangerous to you.

Take the first step and I’m sure you’ll make it!

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