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14 Reasons Why Couples Who Play Music Together, Stay Together

14 Reasons Why Couples Who Play Music Together, Stay Together

There is something about couples who play music together. You wonder how they can stay together and remain so compatible and interesting even in a world where there is so much divide, envy, and demands. The truth is that music being played together has a way of enlivening the relationship. When you play music together, you have a real chance of staying together.

1. Music makes magic and fun when you are together

Music makes you alive when you are together. You can experience the fun side of the world and laugh over the insanely distracting nuances that could spoil all that fun.

2. Music is an identity that stays with you forever

People change, that’s what many believe. And circumstances could trigger that change. But love for the music is always there for couples who play music together. They find out that there is something that bonds them together through youth and into old age.

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3. They are honest about who they are

A guitarist is always a guitarist. A pianist is always a pianist. You get what you are in it for. As a musician, you might start to recognize certain personality types were associated with specific instruments. This keeps your relationship calm and strong.

4. They can maintain a sense of humor

There is never perfection with making music together. It is always a learning process and one of growth and discovery. You tend to laugh over your mistakes together and grow through those challenges that come.

5. They are solid

There is solidity with playing music together. You have someone who holds your back and you can rely on with the music and with life. You sort of complement each other with every sound you make and this is thrilling.

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6. They respect each other

You can respect the other person’s skill and proficiency, and the other person respects yours. In the relationship you both have something you are bringing to the table. You are not independent; rather you can depend on the other person at certain times.

7. They travel together

They don’t wait for the other person rather they experience incredible moments with the other person. They can travel to play their music in new locations and have new experiences. It’s common to see musicians have the travel bug — why not share it with someone you love.

8. They set goals together

Reaching new grounds in music is easier when you have someone at your side who understands the concept and is ready to support you all the way and make those hours of practice count. Your partner can encourage you musically and in other aspects of like that requires goal-setting.

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9. They understand each other

They do know what the sweat and pain of practicing on the chords of a guitar or a piano means. They do not have to spend hours explaining to their significant other what this means.

10. They can relax together

It is not just about them. They could listen to other people’s music and enjoy such moments together. They talk about other people’s strengths and flaws. These conversation points are exciting because they relate back to what you both love.

11. They are not jealous of each other

They know that there is no point in trying to envy the other. Musicians simply have to help each other overcome their hurdles and bring them out of their holes. They do not just help with the music, something they can connect with very well, they also provide emotional support.

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12. They could heal with their music

There are difficult times in the relationship, but somehow they can heal through this period because they have a connecting force in the music they play together. They can heal together through their music.

13. They can value each others opinion

They are the best critic of their works. Others may criticize them for what they do. However, because of the honesty and respect between them, they can value each others opinion on the music they play.

14. They can tolerate each other

Even when they try to be perfectionists or make their music sound perfect, there will be mistakes. They can tolerate each other however because they see the other person for his or her strengths rather than their weaknesses.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:

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1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.

But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

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“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

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“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.

10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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