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14 Reasons Why Couples Who Play Music Together, Stay Together

14 Reasons Why Couples Who Play Music Together, Stay Together

There is something about couples who play music together. You wonder how they can stay together and remain so compatible and interesting even in a world where there is so much divide, envy, and demands. The truth is that music being played together has a way of enlivening the relationship. When you play music together, you have a real chance of staying together.

1. Music makes magic and fun when you are together

Music makes you alive when you are together. You can experience the fun side of the world and laugh over the insanely distracting nuances that could spoil all that fun.

2. Music is an identity that stays with you forever

People change, that’s what many believe. And circumstances could trigger that change. But love for the music is always there for couples who play music together. They find out that there is something that bonds them together through youth and into old age.

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3. They are honest about who they are

A guitarist is always a guitarist. A pianist is always a pianist. You get what you are in it for. As a musician, you might start to recognize certain personality types were associated with specific instruments. This keeps your relationship calm and strong.

4. They can maintain a sense of humor

There is never perfection with making music together. It is always a learning process and one of growth and discovery. You tend to laugh over your mistakes together and grow through those challenges that come.

5. They are solid

There is solidity with playing music together. You have someone who holds your back and you can rely on with the music and with life. You sort of complement each other with every sound you make and this is thrilling.

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6. They respect each other

You can respect the other person’s skill and proficiency, and the other person respects yours. In the relationship you both have something you are bringing to the table. You are not independent; rather you can depend on the other person at certain times.

7. They travel together

They don’t wait for the other person rather they experience incredible moments with the other person. They can travel to play their music in new locations and have new experiences. It’s common to see musicians have the travel bug — why not share it with someone you love.

8. They set goals together

Reaching new grounds in music is easier when you have someone at your side who understands the concept and is ready to support you all the way and make those hours of practice count. Your partner can encourage you musically and in other aspects of like that requires goal-setting.

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9. They understand each other

They do know what the sweat and pain of practicing on the chords of a guitar or a piano means. They do not have to spend hours explaining to their significant other what this means.

10. They can relax together

It is not just about them. They could listen to other people’s music and enjoy such moments together. They talk about other people’s strengths and flaws. These conversation points are exciting because they relate back to what you both love.

11. They are not jealous of each other

They know that there is no point in trying to envy the other. Musicians simply have to help each other overcome their hurdles and bring them out of their holes. They do not just help with the music, something they can connect with very well, they also provide emotional support.

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12. They could heal with their music

There are difficult times in the relationship, but somehow they can heal through this period because they have a connecting force in the music they play together. They can heal together through their music.

13. They can value each others opinion

They are the best critic of their works. Others may criticize them for what they do. However, because of the honesty and respect between them, they can value each others opinion on the music they play.

14. They can tolerate each other

Even when they try to be perfectionists or make their music sound perfect, there will be mistakes. They can tolerate each other however because they see the other person for his or her strengths rather than their weaknesses.

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Last Updated on October 13, 2020

12 Things High Self-Esteem People Don’t Do

12 Things High Self-Esteem People Don’t Do

Having high self-esteem is important if you are aiming for personal or professional success. Interestingly, most people will high levels of self-esteem act in similar ways. That’s why it’s often easy to pick them out in a crowd. There’s something about the way they hold themselves and speak, isn’t there?

We all have different hopes, dreams, experiences, and paths, but confidence has its own universal language. This list will present some of the things you won’t find yourself doing if you have high self-esteem.

1. Compare Yourself to Others

People with low self-esteem are constantly comparing their situation to others. On the other hand, people with higher self-esteem show empathy and compassion while also protecting their own sanity. They know how much they can handle and when they can offer a helping hand.

In the age of social media, however, social comparisons are nearly ubiquitous. One study found that “participants who used Facebook most often had poorer trait self-esteem, and this was mediated by greater exposure to upward social comparisons on social media”[1]. Basically, you will feel worse about yourself if you are constantly getting glimpses into lives that you consider to be better than yours.

Try to limit your time on social media. Also, when you do start scrolling, keep in mind that each profile is carefully crafted to create the appearance of a perfect life. Check yourself when you find yourself wishing for greener grass.

2. Be Mean-Spirited

People with low self-esteem bully others. They take pleasure in putting other people down. People with positive self-esteem see no need to down other people, choosing instead to encourage and celebrate successes.

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If you find that you feel the need to put others down, analyze where that’s coming from. If they’ve had success in life, help them feel good about that achievement. They may do the same for you one day.

3. Let Imperfection Ruin Your Day

Perfectionism isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but obsessing over making everything perfect is a sign that you have low self-esteem and can lead to never-ending negative thoughts. This can turn into an inability to solve problems creatively, which will only make self-esteem issues worse. 

Those with high self-esteem disconnect from the results and do their best without expecting perfection.

People with that kind of confidence understand that messing up is a part of life and that each time they aim and miss success, they’ll at least learn something along the way.

If you miss the mark, or if your plan doesn’t work out exactly as you would have liked, take a deep breath and see if you can pivot in order to do better next time.

4. Dwell on Failure

It’s common to hear people dwelling on all the ways things will go wrong. They are positive that their every failure signals an impossible task or an innate inability to do something. People with healthy self-esteem discover why they failed and try again.

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People with higher levels of confidence also tend to adopt a growth mindset[2]. This type of thinking supports the idea that most of your abilities can be improved and altered, as opposed to being fixed.

For example, instead of saying, “I’m just not good at math; that’s why I did bad on the test,” someone with a growth mindset would say, “Math is difficult for me, so I’ll have to put in some more practice to improve next time.”

Next time you experience a failure, check out this video to help you believe in yourself again:

5. Devalue Your Self-Esteem

People with high self-esteem value their own perception of themselves – they understand that they come first and don’t feel guilty about taking care of themselves. They believe charity starts within, and if they don’t believe that, they’ll never have a healthy self-image.

Self-care is often top of the priority list for people with self-esteem. For some ways to practice self-care, check out this article.

6. Try to Please Others

They can’t please all the people all the time, so confident people first focus on doing what will make them feel fulfilled and happy. While they will politely listen to others’ thoughts and advice, they know that their goals and dreams have to be completed on their own terms.

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7. Close Yourself off

Confident people have the ability to be vulnerable. It’s those with poor self-esteem that hide all the best parts of themselves behind an emotional wall. Instead of keeping the real you a secret, be open and honest in all your dealings.

As Brené Brown, author of Daring Greatly, points out, “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen”[3]. When you embrace each facet of who you are and allow others to see them as well, it will create deeper, more meaningful connections in your life. When that happens, you’ll realize that perfection doesn’t lead to people liking you more.

You can learn more about the power of vulnerability in this TED talk with Brené Brown:

8. Follow and Avoiding Leading

People with low self-esteem don’t believe they can lead, so they end up following others, sometimes into unhealthy situations. Rather than seeking a sense of belonging, people with high self-esteem walk their own paths and create social circles that build them up.

9. Fish for Compliments

If you’re constantly seeking compliments, you’re not confident. People with high self-esteem always do their best (and go out of their way to do good deeds) because it’s what they want to do, not because they’re seeking recognition. If you need to hear compliments, say them to yourself in the mirror.

You can even try some positive affirmations if you need a confidence boost. Check out these affirmations to get started.

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10. Be Lazy

People work harder when they have high self-esteem because they’re not bogged down by doubts and complaints. Those with low self-esteem end up procrastinating and wasting their energy thinking about all the work they have to do rather than rolling up their sleeves and just getting it done.

This may also bounce off perfectionism. Perfectionists often feel intimidated by certain projects if they fear that they won’t be able to complete them perfectly. Tap into your confidence and simply do your best without worrying about a perfect outcome.

11. Shy Away from Risks

When you trust yourself, you’ll be willing to participate more in life. People with low self-esteem are always on the sidelines, waiting for the perfect moment to jump in. Instead of letting life pass you by, have confidence in your success and take the risks necessary to succeed.

12. Gossip

People with low self-esteem are always in other peoples’ business – they’re more interested in what everyone else is doing than themselves. People with high self-esteem are more interested in their own life and stay out of others’ affairs.

Instead of participating in idle gossip, talk about some positive news you heard recently, or that fascinating book you just finished. There’s plenty to talk about beyond what this or that person did wrong in their life.

The Bottom Line

Self-esteem is to success in life. People who maintain a healthy level of self-esteem believe in themselves and push themselves to succeed, while those with low confidence feel a sense of entitlement.

If you need a boost in your self-image and mental health, avoid negative self-talk and the other mistakes of people with low self-esteem. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.

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Reference

[1] Psychology of Popular Media Culture: Social comparison, social media, and self-esteem
[2] Brain Pickings: Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives
[3] Forbes: Brene Brown: How Vulnerability Can Make Our Lives Better

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