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7 Dating Habits All Mature Men Definitely Need To Leave Behind

7 Dating Habits All Mature Men Definitely Need To Leave Behind

Maturity demands an improvement in attitude and expectations. Perhaps when we were growing up we achieved certain goals by being immature. But when you’re a grown man approaching dating seriously, maturity demands that some habits just need to be thrown out the window. We want to be respectable, appealing, and the kind of person a future partner can be proud of. This is what maturity means.
When we improve our habits and mature, we are more likely to attract a great romantic relationship.

Here are 7 dating habits all mature men should definitely leave behind:

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1. Having someone talk to the person you are interested in for you

This is so lame. If you like someone you need to go and reach out to that person for yourself. Let them know your feelings and that you are willing and ready to go. It is cowardly to have a friend or someone else take that bold move for you. It isn’t just a sign of maturity to be the one to tell the other person how you feel, it is also the responsible thing to do as it gives you the best chance to make the relationship work.

2. Pretending to be who you are not

You find someone and you like them so much that you decide to pretend to be like someone else, thinking this will make a great impression. The truth is that there is no point acting quiet, serious, and careful when you are an exuberant, humorous, and impulsive person. Dates should be an opportunity for you to give the other person a heads up on who you are- and that means being genuine, real, and authentic. If you are a Christian, Muslim, or Jewish, let the other person know. You are being respectful by presenting yourself honestly and maturely.

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3. Letting your friends’ opinions determine who you date

Who you date is entirely up to you. You should know for yourself what you want from a possible partner. Rather than be indecisive about what actions you will take and inviting your friends to have a say on who you date, do the responsible thing and make decisions for yourself.

4. Discussing with others how your present relationship compares to other relationships you’ve had

Whether discussing how your relationship compares to your friend’s relationship, or how your current partner compares to past partners- making these kinds of comparisons is so lame. Every relationship is unique. Understanding this will leave you better prepared to handle the challenges that come with being in a relationship.

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5. “I will wait 3 days to call”

Perhaps this was a rule you and your friends followed when you were younger. Perhaps you feel that you have to step back and wait some time after a date to show your feelings to the other person, because you don’t want to appear needy. The thing is that following this conventional rule may leave you looking immature. If you are mature you understand that there are no rules or regulations when it comes to calling or texting someone you are really interested in romantically.

6. Ignoring someone you went on a date with because you’re not interested

You go out on a date with someone and you find out that the person doesn’t meet your standards. Instead of being honest about your feelings toward the other person you just start ignoring their calls and messages. It isn’t respectful to just grow cold on someone. Burning bridges after a date is not maturity. It is best for you to be respectful and tell the other person you are not interested. This offers them information that will help them to move forward with finding a partner, rather than being stuck speculating  about what to make out of your complete silence following the date.

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7. Secretly going through your partner’s phone

You may feel the other person is not telling you enough and getting the information you want is likely to be best achieved by going through their phone, email, or other password-protected accounts. Perhaps you did this while growing up and it gave you what you wanted to know once or twice. But maturity means showing trust, respect, and having the courage to love the other person even when you feel vulnerable.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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