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7 Dating Habits All Mature Men Definitely Need To Leave Behind

7 Dating Habits All Mature Men Definitely Need To Leave Behind

Maturity demands an improvement in attitude and expectations. Perhaps when we were growing up we achieved certain goals by being immature. But when you’re a grown man approaching dating seriously, maturity demands that some habits just need to be thrown out the window. We want to be respectable, appealing, and the kind of person a future partner can be proud of. This is what maturity means.
When we improve our habits and mature, we are more likely to attract a great romantic relationship.

Here are 7 dating habits all mature men should definitely leave behind:

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1. Having someone talk to the person you are interested in for you

This is so lame. If you like someone you need to go and reach out to that person for yourself. Let them know your feelings and that you are willing and ready to go. It is cowardly to have a friend or someone else take that bold move for you. It isn’t just a sign of maturity to be the one to tell the other person how you feel, it is also the responsible thing to do as it gives you the best chance to make the relationship work.

2. Pretending to be who you are not

You find someone and you like them so much that you decide to pretend to be like someone else, thinking this will make a great impression. The truth is that there is no point acting quiet, serious, and careful when you are an exuberant, humorous, and impulsive person. Dates should be an opportunity for you to give the other person a heads up on who you are- and that means being genuine, real, and authentic. If you are a Christian, Muslim, or Jewish, let the other person know. You are being respectful by presenting yourself honestly and maturely.

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3. Letting your friends’ opinions determine who you date

Who you date is entirely up to you. You should know for yourself what you want from a possible partner. Rather than be indecisive about what actions you will take and inviting your friends to have a say on who you date, do the responsible thing and make decisions for yourself.

4. Discussing with others how your present relationship compares to other relationships you’ve had

Whether discussing how your relationship compares to your friend’s relationship, or how your current partner compares to past partners- making these kinds of comparisons is so lame. Every relationship is unique. Understanding this will leave you better prepared to handle the challenges that come with being in a relationship.

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5. “I will wait 3 days to call”

Perhaps this was a rule you and your friends followed when you were younger. Perhaps you feel that you have to step back and wait some time after a date to show your feelings to the other person, because you don’t want to appear needy. The thing is that following this conventional rule may leave you looking immature. If you are mature you understand that there are no rules or regulations when it comes to calling or texting someone you are really interested in romantically.

6. Ignoring someone you went on a date with because you’re not interested

You go out on a date with someone and you find out that the person doesn’t meet your standards. Instead of being honest about your feelings toward the other person you just start ignoring their calls and messages. It isn’t respectful to just grow cold on someone. Burning bridges after a date is not maturity. It is best for you to be respectful and tell the other person you are not interested. This offers them information that will help them to move forward with finding a partner, rather than being stuck speculating  about what to make out of your complete silence following the date.

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7. Secretly going through your partner’s phone

You may feel the other person is not telling you enough and getting the information you want is likely to be best achieved by going through their phone, email, or other password-protected accounts. Perhaps you did this while growing up and it gave you what you wanted to know once or twice. But maturity means showing trust, respect, and having the courage to love the other person even when you feel vulnerable.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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