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They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

Being independent can be a source of strength for many women. It signifies power and stability. It also means they are secure and brave. And who can deny the relevance of independent women in our society and how immense their contributions can be to our society. But people can get the wrong message about them. They may come off as arrogant and intimidating. It makes many wonder why independent women are not the most likeable people.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ― Marilyn Monroe

1. They have it figured out

“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” ― Louise Hay

Independent women have the knowledge and experience to lay claim to their autonomy. Every time they have sought to get what they want, they have also gained knowledge to use as a tool. Such knowledge gives them a voice and could be a representation of their energy and intensity.

2. They love hard work

“Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it by use.”― Ruth Gordo

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Independent women need nothing from anyone else. They have a strong work ethic and know what they want out of their work. They don’t chicken out from a challenge. Work is something that drives them to greater independence.

3. They care more about themselves than anything else

“You’re not gonna tell me who I am. I’m gonna tell you who I am.”― Nicki Minaj

They won’t be bothering themselves with other people’s business. They are concerned and engrossed in their own world, work, and intellect.

4. They are brave

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” — Maya Angelou

This can be intimidating to someone who has just met a very independent woman. People may feel that they are cold and ruthless. But this is a way to scare away the wrong people and filter through those few people that are meant to stay in their world.

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5. They have their priorities

“A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.”― Madonna

They have goals. They have what they want. And that may be different from the norm. Yet they always have a direction and goal.

6. They can go solo

“I do not want people to be agreeable, as it saves me that trouble of liking them.”― Jane Austen

They prefer to be alone and appreciate solitude. They want things on their own terms. And if they needs help, they will find it.

7. They are confident

“Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else.”― Alison Boulter

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They believe in their abilities. They knows their strength as well. They don’t need to be concerned about what other people think about them. They have self-esteem and that is enough to keep them positive and driven.

8. They are self-sufficient

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”― Alice Walker

They are content with what they have. They don’t need to become greedy or beg for the things they don’t have. They know that if they need something, they can work for it and take pride in getting it.

9. They are stable

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” ― Coco Chanel

They are not entering relationships because they lack money or feel inferior to those who are in relationships. They are stable and solid, whether they are in a relationship or not.

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10. They are free

“I’m single because I was born that way.”― Mae West

In the long run, independent women are free and only have themselves to answer to. They are slaves to no one.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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