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They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

Being independent can be a source of strength for many women. It signifies power and stability. It also means they are secure and brave. And who can deny the relevance of independent women in our society and how immense their contributions can be to our society. But people can get the wrong message about them. They may come off as arrogant and intimidating. It makes many wonder why independent women are not the most likeable people.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ― Marilyn Monroe

1. They have it figured out

“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” ― Louise Hay

Independent women have the knowledge and experience to lay claim to their autonomy. Every time they have sought to get what they want, they have also gained knowledge to use as a tool. Such knowledge gives them a voice and could be a representation of their energy and intensity.

2. They love hard work

“Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it by use.”― Ruth Gordo

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Independent women need nothing from anyone else. They have a strong work ethic and know what they want out of their work. They don’t chicken out from a challenge. Work is something that drives them to greater independence.

3. They care more about themselves than anything else

“You’re not gonna tell me who I am. I’m gonna tell you who I am.”― Nicki Minaj

They won’t be bothering themselves with other people’s business. They are concerned and engrossed in their own world, work, and intellect.

4. They are brave

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” — Maya Angelou

This can be intimidating to someone who has just met a very independent woman. People may feel that they are cold and ruthless. But this is a way to scare away the wrong people and filter through those few people that are meant to stay in their world.

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5. They have their priorities

“A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.”― Madonna

They have goals. They have what they want. And that may be different from the norm. Yet they always have a direction and goal.

6. They can go solo

“I do not want people to be agreeable, as it saves me that trouble of liking them.”― Jane Austen

They prefer to be alone and appreciate solitude. They want things on their own terms. And if they needs help, they will find it.

7. They are confident

“Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else.”― Alison Boulter

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They believe in their abilities. They knows their strength as well. They don’t need to be concerned about what other people think about them. They have self-esteem and that is enough to keep them positive and driven.

8. They are self-sufficient

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”― Alice Walker

They are content with what they have. They don’t need to become greedy or beg for the things they don’t have. They know that if they need something, they can work for it and take pride in getting it.

9. They are stable

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” ― Coco Chanel

They are not entering relationships because they lack money or feel inferior to those who are in relationships. They are stable and solid, whether they are in a relationship or not.

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10. They are free

“I’m single because I was born that way.”― Mae West

In the long run, independent women are free and only have themselves to answer to. They are slaves to no one.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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