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They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

Being independent can be a source of strength for many women. It signifies power and stability. It also means they are secure and brave. And who can deny the relevance of independent women in our society and how immense their contributions can be to our society. But people can get the wrong message about them. They may come off as arrogant and intimidating. It makes many wonder why independent women are not the most likeable people.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ― Marilyn Monroe

1. They have it figured out

“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” ― Louise Hay

Independent women have the knowledge and experience to lay claim to their autonomy. Every time they have sought to get what they want, they have also gained knowledge to use as a tool. Such knowledge gives them a voice and could be a representation of their energy and intensity.

2. They love hard work

“Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it by use.”― Ruth Gordo

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Independent women need nothing from anyone else. They have a strong work ethic and know what they want out of their work. They don’t chicken out from a challenge. Work is something that drives them to greater independence.

3. They care more about themselves than anything else

“You’re not gonna tell me who I am. I’m gonna tell you who I am.”― Nicki Minaj

They won’t be bothering themselves with other people’s business. They are concerned and engrossed in their own world, work, and intellect.

4. They are brave

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” — Maya Angelou

This can be intimidating to someone who has just met a very independent woman. People may feel that they are cold and ruthless. But this is a way to scare away the wrong people and filter through those few people that are meant to stay in their world.

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5. They have their priorities

“A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.”― Madonna

They have goals. They have what they want. And that may be different from the norm. Yet they always have a direction and goal.

6. They can go solo

“I do not want people to be agreeable, as it saves me that trouble of liking them.”― Jane Austen

They prefer to be alone and appreciate solitude. They want things on their own terms. And if they needs help, they will find it.

7. They are confident

“Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else.”― Alison Boulter

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They believe in their abilities. They knows their strength as well. They don’t need to be concerned about what other people think about them. They have self-esteem and that is enough to keep them positive and driven.

8. They are self-sufficient

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”― Alice Walker

They are content with what they have. They don’t need to become greedy or beg for the things they don’t have. They know that if they need something, they can work for it and take pride in getting it.

9. They are stable

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” ― Coco Chanel

They are not entering relationships because they lack money or feel inferior to those who are in relationships. They are stable and solid, whether they are in a relationship or not.

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10. They are free

“I’m single because I was born that way.”― Mae West

In the long run, independent women are free and only have themselves to answer to. They are slaves to no one.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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