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They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

They Acquire It All On Their Own: Why Aren’t Independent Women The Most Likeable Type?

Being independent can be a source of strength for many women. It signifies power and stability. It also means they are secure and brave. And who can deny the relevance of independent women in our society and how immense their contributions can be to our society. But people can get the wrong message about them. They may come off as arrogant and intimidating. It makes many wonder why independent women are not the most likeable people.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ― Marilyn Monroe

1. They have it figured out

“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” ― Louise Hay

Independent women have the knowledge and experience to lay claim to their autonomy. Every time they have sought to get what they want, they have also gained knowledge to use as a tool. Such knowledge gives them a voice and could be a representation of their energy and intensity.

2. They love hard work

“Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it by use.”― Ruth Gordo

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Independent women need nothing from anyone else. They have a strong work ethic and know what they want out of their work. They don’t chicken out from a challenge. Work is something that drives them to greater independence.

3. They care more about themselves than anything else

“You’re not gonna tell me who I am. I’m gonna tell you who I am.”― Nicki Minaj

They won’t be bothering themselves with other people’s business. They are concerned and engrossed in their own world, work, and intellect.

4. They are brave

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” — Maya Angelou

This can be intimidating to someone who has just met a very independent woman. People may feel that they are cold and ruthless. But this is a way to scare away the wrong people and filter through those few people that are meant to stay in their world.

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5. They have their priorities

“A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.”― Madonna

They have goals. They have what they want. And that may be different from the norm. Yet they always have a direction and goal.

6. They can go solo

“I do not want people to be agreeable, as it saves me that trouble of liking them.”― Jane Austen

They prefer to be alone and appreciate solitude. They want things on their own terms. And if they needs help, they will find it.

7. They are confident

“Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else.”― Alison Boulter

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They believe in their abilities. They knows their strength as well. They don’t need to be concerned about what other people think about them. They have self-esteem and that is enough to keep them positive and driven.

8. They are self-sufficient

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”― Alice Walker

They are content with what they have. They don’t need to become greedy or beg for the things they don’t have. They know that if they need something, they can work for it and take pride in getting it.

9. They are stable

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” ― Coco Chanel

They are not entering relationships because they lack money or feel inferior to those who are in relationships. They are stable and solid, whether they are in a relationship or not.

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10. They are free

“I’m single because I was born that way.”― Mae West

In the long run, independent women are free and only have themselves to answer to. They are slaves to no one.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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