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9 Things Beauty Addicts Want You To Understand

9 Things Beauty Addicts Want You To Understand

It is hard to explain our motives to anyone, because we do have a love-hate relationship with make-up. It is like we need it every time we leave the house. It is just that we are looking for way to make our beautiful skin stand out. But this always means that we have to use more makeup. We really want you to understand our motives and stop asking the wrong questions.

1. We spend so much on beauty products

We are concerned about looking good. And we are willing to dig deep into our pockets to make sure we achieve our desire of buying whatever new beauty products that will advance our cause of being the beautiful person we can be.

2. We are beauty experts

We can be consulted about any beauty products. We have made ourselves so relevant to the world of beauty trends and its products that we are practically experts. We know everything that should be known about beauty products from colors, brands to various prices.

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3. We are always doing our research

We don’t get stuck with any products. We are thoroughly informed and will spend an incredible amount of time, from watching YouTube videos to researching new makeup techniques to improving our art and skills of being the ideal beautician.

4. We don’t see “making up” as hard work

While others may frown at the incredible amount of time and energy we have to spend on looking good, we see it as easy work and feel it is fun accomplishing what we love doing. We can spend time making sure we get the perfect product on our face. We can’t simply tolerate average. We want to be perfect with our makeup.

5. We worry about everything that can go wrong with our face

Although we feel that makeup can fix everything, we are always anxious about anything that can go wrong with our face. We are worried that the rain might wash away our eyebrows. We are worried about what a cry or hug could do to our makeup. We are always worried about going out a in a less than perfect face.

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6. We don’t believe in the word “long-lasting”

There is nothing like a “long-lasting” make-up to us. What others will consider to be long-lasting makup will be reapplied by us more than 3 times a day. On special occasions, 6 times. We don’t believe in the claim of any makeup to be long-lasting, the best way to make it long-lasting is to reapply again and again.

7. We seem to stain everything that comes our way

Our bathroom sink and dresser will always be covered in orange finger prints and mascara marks.

A lot of our coats, shirts and bags will have some sort of make-up marks on them.

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We also are great at putting some marks on our boyfriend’s pillow and t-shirts.

8. We are the kings and queens of the restroom

We can never stop experimenting on what makeup is ideal for us. And what better place to keep on making attempts on beautifying our face can be better than the restroom.

Yes we can walk into a restroom with a red lipstick on, and walk out with a pink lipstick on. We command the restroom with our proficiency of making sure we look more appealing. And when people notice our drama, they still consider us to be the favorite person they need to borrow some mascara from.

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9. We really are tired of hearing that “we don’t need makeup.”

We don’t understand this phrase that we look fine without wearing a makeup. Can others stop saying this and stop implying that we look pretty without a makeup, because wearing a makeup isn’t just about making us prettier, it is about establishing our identity and presence anywhere we go to.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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