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12 Signs That You’re In Love With A Narcissist

12 Signs That You’re In Love With A Narcissist

For some reason, we’re incredibly attracted to people with deep, persisting flaws. For many, narcissists are one the most attractive types of people, even though they’re some of the worst people to be around. Are you in love with one? Find out by reading this list of common traits amongst narcissists.

1. They can’t or won’t admit when they’re wrong

A narcissist will not accept the idea that they could have been wrong about something. If someone you love argues intensely about something as innocuous as whether or not they took out the trash, you might want to watch your step.

2. They’re jealous all the time

Envy is almost synonymous with narcissism. If your significant other is scared of you even getting in the car with someone of the opposite sex, they could be a narcissist.

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3. They control the conversation

Conversations should be a give-and-take. If someone is always leading the conversation and consistently making it about themselves, chances are high that they’re a narcissist.

4. They’re too pretty for their own good

Beauty is often associated with narcissism. This doesn’t mean that if you’re in love with a very attractive person then you’re in love with a narcissist, but it is definitely a possible warning sign. If enough of the other traits on this list match the person you love, they might be a narcissist.

5. They think that kindness equates to weakness

Kindness in the face of adversity requires an inner strength, but a narcissist will argue that displaying kindness shows that you are weak. Someone who believes this is not worth being with.

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6. They think they’re the smart one and you’re the dumb one

A narcissist is often convinced that they’re a genius and you are not. Even if you both take an IQ test and you score higher, they’ll insist that there was something wrong with the test. No matter how much evidence is stacked against them, a narcissist will never accept that they’re not the smartest person in the room.

7. They get really angry

Anger is a clear giveaway of a narcissist, especially if the anger is over relatively inconsequential things. For example, if your loved one is mad at you for being a few minutes late to something, you better watch out.

8. They’re not grateful

Check out this list of thank you quotes. If the person you love is a narcissist, they won’t understand any of them. If you can’t get them to grasp the concept of gratitude, there’s not much hope for a healthy relationship.

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9. They don’t understand or accept boundaries.

If your loved one feels the need to be with you at all times, not giving you any time to yourself, they might be trouble. When you feel invaded, set clear boundaries. If they’re still ignored, narcissism might be the reason why.

10. They’re TOO honest

Narcissists are generally blunt bordering on rude. If someone always has to tell you the truth, even when it’s hurtful or especially when it’s hurtful, then they might be suffering from some significant character flaws.

11. They remember what you did wrong and forget what you’ve done right

A narcissist is often someone who’s keeping score. They compare the good things you’ve done to the bad, constantly looking for reasons to criticize. Even worse, they’re not counting properly. If someone you love only recollects the problematic things you’ve done in the past instead of all the good, they’re probably a narcissist.

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12. They never change

You might argue that nobody ever changes, but narcissists especially won’t budge from who they are. If you’ve deduced that you’re in love with a narcissist, don’t hold out too much hope that you can get them to become the person you need them to be.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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