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9 Things Successful People Don’t Mention In The Workplace

9 Things Successful People Don’t Mention In The Workplace

Obviously, in order to gain the trust and friendship of your colleagues, you need to open up to them. However, there’s a very fine line between giving just enough information about yourself and giving too much information about yourself. If you mistakenly reveal the wrong things, it could mean the end of your career (or, a little awkwardness at least). You need to learn how to stay on the right side of that fine line and find ways to open up without revealing the things that should be kept to yourself.

Here are 9 things that successful people do not discuss at the workplace, or even if they are out for a fun night with their colleagues.

1. Their Facebook activities

Your co-workers and employer should not be on your Facebook friends list. If they are, they see everything you post, and you may post something that could get you into trouble at work. If you must have them on Facebook, set up a separate account and don’t post anything personal on it.

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2. Their negative opinions of others

You will never work at a company that doesn’t have at least a few incompetent people, but you should never tell anyone you work with that you think others are incompetent. This will do nothing more than make you look like someone who is negative about others.

3. Their thoughts on politics and religion

These are two topics that should never be discussed with your co-workers and business colleagues. They are very sensitive subjects — people take their religious and political beliefs very seriously.

4. Their partying habits

You may like to have a few drinks on the weekends. That is your decision to make, but no one in your workplace needs to know about it. If you come into work every Monday morning talking about how loaded you were on the weekend, you are soon going to be seen as a party person and not someone to be taken seriously.

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5. Their incomes

While it is okay to let your family members know your income if they are interested, it is not something you should share with your co-workers. This can make things seem more competitive and bring on resentment if others make less.

6. Their bedroom activities

This is another topic that is off limits in the work place. You don’t want to hear about what your co-workers are doing in their bedrooms, and they don’t want to hear about your bedroom activities either. Some people may be very offended by this kind of talk, so it’s best left out of the workplace.

7. Their ideas about what others do in their bedrooms

No one’s sex life is any of your business, and there is no need for you to talk to your co-workers about the sex lives of others. The same goes for talking about sexual orientation. Basically, leave the sex at home — where it belongs.

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8. Their negative feelings about what they do

Never tell your colleagues that you hate your job. No one wants to hear you complain. It will just make you be seen as negative and not a team player. Bosses will pick up on this and you could end up being replaced by someone who really does want to do your job.

9. Their latest dirty or offensive joke

Most of us love a good dirty or offensive joke, but there is a time and a place. The workplace is not that time or place. Some may find it funny, but others may take great offense.

Following the lead of successful professionals will help you to lead a tactful work life — without worrying about offending coworkers or jeopardizing your position.

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Last Updated on December 1, 2020

How to Find Your Entrepreneurial Passion and Purpose

How to Find Your Entrepreneurial Passion and Purpose

I wrote a few articles about starting a business based on something you love doing and are passionate about. I received several responses from people saying they weren’t sure how to go about figuring out what they were most passionate about or how to find their true purpose. So I’m dedicating this article to these issues — how to find your entrepreneurial passion and purpose.

When I work with a new client, the first thing we talk about is lifestyle design. I ask each client, “What do you want your life to look like?” If you designed a business without answering this question, you could create a nice, profitable business that is completely incompatible with your goals in life. You’d be making money, but you’d probably be miserable.

When you’re looking for your life purpose, lifestyle design isn’t a crucial component. However, since we’re talking about entrepreneurial purpose, lifestyle design is indeed crucial to building a business that you’ll enjoy and truly be passionate about.

For example, say you want to spend more time at home with your family. Would you be happy with a business that kept you in an office or out of town much of the time? On the flip side, if you wanted to travel and see the world, how well could you accomplish that goal if your business required your presence, day in and day out, to survive? So start by getting some clarity on your personal goals and spend some time working on designing your life.

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At this point, you may need a little prodding, and you may want to hire a coach or mentor to work with you through this process. Many people are very used to the idea that there is a particular way a life “should” be. There are certain milestones most people tend to live by, and if you don’t meet those markers when or in the manner you’re “supposed” to meet them, that can cause some anxiety.

Here’s how to find your passion and purpose:

Give Yourself Permission to Dream a Little

Remember that this is your life and you can live it however you choose. Call it meditation or fantasy, but let your imagination run here. And answer this question:

“If you had no fears or financial limitations, what would your ideal life, one in which you could be totally content and happy, look like?”

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Once you’ve figured out your lifestyle design, it’s time to do a little more soul-searching to figure out what you’re truly passionate about. This is a time to really look within and look back.

Specifically, look back over your life history. When were you the happiest? What did you enjoy doing the most? Remember that what you’re looking for doesn’t necessarily have to be an entire job, but can actually be aspects of your past jobs or hobbies that you’ve really enjoyed.

Think About a Larger Life Purpose

Many successful entrepreneurs have earned their place in history by setting out to make a difference in the world. Is there a specific issue or cause that is important to you or that you’re particularly passionate about?

For some, this process of discovery may come easily. You may go through these questions and thought experiments and find the answers quickly. For others, it may be more difficult. In some cases, you may suffer from a generalized lack of passion and purpose in your life.

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Sometimes, this can come from having suppressed passion in your life for too long. Sometimes, it can come from eating poorly and lack of exercise. But occasionally, it may have something to do with your internal chemistry or programming. If the latter applies to you, it may be useful for you to seek help in the form of a coach, mentor, or counselor.

In other cases, not knowing your true purpose may be a matter of having not discovered it yet: you may not have found anything that makes your heart beat faster. If this is the case, now is the time to explore!

The Internet is a fantastic tool for learning and exploration. Search hobbies and careers and learn as much as you can about any topic that triggers your interest, then follow up at the library on the things that really intrigue you. Again, remember that this is your life and only you can give yourself permission to explore all that the world has available to you.

How Do You Know When You’ve Found Your True Entrepreneurial Purpose?

I can only tell you how I knew when I had discovered my own — it didn’t hit me like a ton of bricks. Rather, it settled over me, bringing a deep sense of peace and commitment. It felt like I had arrived home and knew exactly what to do and how to proceed.

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Everything flowed easily from that point forward. That’s not to say that I found success immediately after that moment. But rather, the path ahead of me was clear, so I knew what to do.

Decisions were easier and came faster to me. And success has come on MY terms, according to my own definitions of what success means to me in my own lifestyle design.

Dig deep, look within, and seek whatever help you need. Once you find that purpose and passion, your life — not just your entrepreneurial life, but your entire life — will never be the same.

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