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9 Things Successful People Don’t Mention In The Workplace

9 Things Successful People Don’t Mention In The Workplace

Obviously, in order to gain the trust and friendship of your colleagues, you need to open up to them. However, there’s a very fine line between giving just enough information about yourself and giving too much information about yourself. If you mistakenly reveal the wrong things, it could mean the end of your career (or, a little awkwardness at least). You need to learn how to stay on the right side of that fine line and find ways to open up without revealing the things that should be kept to yourself.

Here are 9 things that successful people do not discuss at the workplace, or even if they are out for a fun night with their colleagues.

1. Their Facebook activities

Your co-workers and employer should not be on your Facebook friends list. If they are, they see everything you post, and you may post something that could get you into trouble at work. If you must have them on Facebook, set up a separate account and don’t post anything personal on it.

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2. Their negative opinions of others

You will never work at a company that doesn’t have at least a few incompetent people, but you should never tell anyone you work with that you think others are incompetent. This will do nothing more than make you look like someone who is negative about others.

3. Their thoughts on politics and religion

These are two topics that should never be discussed with your co-workers and business colleagues. They are very sensitive subjects — people take their religious and political beliefs very seriously.

4. Their partying habits

You may like to have a few drinks on the weekends. That is your decision to make, but no one in your workplace needs to know about it. If you come into work every Monday morning talking about how loaded you were on the weekend, you are soon going to be seen as a party person and not someone to be taken seriously.

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5. Their incomes

While it is okay to let your family members know your income if they are interested, it is not something you should share with your co-workers. This can make things seem more competitive and bring on resentment if others make less.

6. Their bedroom activities

This is another topic that is off limits in the work place. You don’t want to hear about what your co-workers are doing in their bedrooms, and they don’t want to hear about your bedroom activities either. Some people may be very offended by this kind of talk, so it’s best left out of the workplace.

7. Their ideas about what others do in their bedrooms

No one’s sex life is any of your business, and there is no need for you to talk to your co-workers about the sex lives of others. The same goes for talking about sexual orientation. Basically, leave the sex at home — where it belongs.

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8. Their negative feelings about what they do

Never tell your colleagues that you hate your job. No one wants to hear you complain. It will just make you be seen as negative and not a team player. Bosses will pick up on this and you could end up being replaced by someone who really does want to do your job.

9. Their latest dirty or offensive joke

Most of us love a good dirty or offensive joke, but there is a time and a place. The workplace is not that time or place. Some may find it funny, but others may take great offense.

Following the lead of successful professionals will help you to lead a tactful work life — without worrying about offending coworkers or jeopardizing your position.

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Last Updated on September 23, 2020

Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

Are you waking up each day looking for that perfect thing, activity, or job that will make your life work? Or, maybe you are looking for that perfect relationship. Once you “get” this new thing that will allow you to do what you love, you are sure that you will be happy forever.

In reality, life doesn’t work like that, and we would probably get bored if it did. There is likely no one thing, experience, or activity that will keep you feeling passionate and engaged all the time. What’s important is staying connected to what you love and continuing to grow in the process.

Here, we’ll talk about how to get started doing what you love and achieving more in life through the motivation it brings. Doing this doesn’t have to take a long time; it just takes determination and energy.

Most People Already Know Their Passion

So many people walk around in life “looking for” their passion. They look for it as if true passion is some mysterious thing that is difficult to find and runs away once you find it. However, the problem is rarely lack of passion.

Most of us already know what we love to do. We know what excites us, even if we haven’t done it for years. Instead, we focus on what we think we “must” do.

For example, maybe you love building model cars or painting pet portraits. Yet, each day you work a completely unrelated job and make no time for the activity you already know you love. The truth is you probably don’t need to find your passion; you just need to start doing what you already know you’re passionate about[1].

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No Activity Is Exciting All the Time

Even people who are living their dream lifestyle or working their dream job don’t love it all the time. Every job or lifestyle has parts of it that we won’t like.

Let’s say your dream is to become an actress, and you succeed. You may not enjoy the process of auditioning and facing rejection. You may experience moments of boredom when you practice your lines over and over again. But the overall experience is totally worth it.

Most of life is like that. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by demanding that life be perfect all the time. If things were perfect and easy, you would ultimately stop learning and growing, and life would begin to lack even more meaning in that case.

Be grateful for both the good and bad moments as they are both entirely necessary if you genuinely want to do what you love and love what you do.

Doing What You Love May Not Be Easy

Living a life you love is unlikely to be easy. If it was, you would not grow very much as a person. And, if you think about a great book or movie, the growth of the main character is what matters most.

What if the challenges you meet along your path to living a life you love were designed to make you grow as a person? You may actually start looking forward to challenges instead of dreading them. An easy life hardly ever makes a compelling story.

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If you struggle to overcome challenges, try writing them down each time you encounter one. Then, write down three ways you could tackle it. Try one, and if it doesn’t work, try another. This way, you’ll learn what does and doesn’t work for you.

How to Do What You Love

There are many small steps you can take to ensure you are making time to do the things you love. Start with these, and you’ll likely find that you’re already on the right track.

1. Choose Your Priorities Wisely

Many people claim they want to do something, yet they don’t do it. The truth is they might not really want to do it in the first place[2].

We all end up following through on what matters most to us. We make decisions moment by moment about what we need to focus on. What we choose to do is what we deem most important in our lives.

If there is something you claim you want to do but you don’t do it, try asking yourself how much you really want it or where it’s currently placed on priority list. Are there other things you want more?

Be honest with yourself: what you currently do each day is a reflection of your priorities. Recognize that you can change your priorities at any time.

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Make a list of your priorities. Really take the time to think this through. Then, ask yourself if what you are doing each day reflects them. For example, if you believe your top priority is spending more time with your family, but you consistently take on extra hours at work, you’re not really prioritizing things in the way you think you are.

If this is happening, it’s time to make a change.

2. Do One Small Thing Each Day

As stated above, doing what you love doesn’t have to mean finding that perfect job that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. If you want to do what you love, start with one small thing each day.

Maybe you love reading a good book. Take ten minutes before bed to read.

Maybe you love swimming. Get a membership at the local YMCA, and go there for thirty minutes after work each day.

Dedicating even a short amount of time to something that brings you joy each day will improve your life overall. You may find that, over time, a career path related to what you love to do pops up. After doing the thing you love each day, you’ll be more than prepared to take it on when the opportunity arises.

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If you need help making time for your passions, check out this article to get started.

3. Prepare to Make Sacrifices

If you are an exceptionally busy person (aren’t we all?), you may have to make sacrifices in order to make space for the things you are passionate about. Maybe you take on less extra hours at the office or take thirty minutes away from another hobby in order to develop another that you enjoy.

Looking at your priority list will help you decide what can get put on the back burner and what can’t. Remember, do this thinking about what will help you feel good about how you’re spending your time. 

For example, if you love writing but rarely make time for it, consider getting up 30 minutes earlier than normal. Or instead of browsing your phone for 30 minutes before bed, you can write instead. There is always a way to find time for what you love.

Final Thoughts

If you love what you do, each day becomes a joyful adventure. If you don’t love what you are doing, life feels like a chore. The best way to achieve success is to design a life you love and live it every day.

Remember, doing something you love doesn’t have to include big gestures or time-consuming projects. Start small and grow from there.

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