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10 Things Only People Labeled As ‘Good Girls’ Will Understand

10 Things Only People Labeled As ‘Good Girls’ Will Understand

People labeled as ‘good girls’ often get misrepresented in stereotypical ways, with the media perpetuating incorrect assumptions about how they act and what they believe. They are often seen as people who always get along with everyone and would not dare to do anything that wasn’t prim and proper. Here are ten points about this often misunderstood group that will help set the record straight once and for all.

1. You sometimes procrastinate

Being seen as the good girl, people believe that you always finish your projects on time or before the deadline. What they do not know is that, on occasion, you have been known to put off a project until the very last minute and a couple of times you almost had to ask your boss for an extension on a project.

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2. You have received a bad grade before

In school you were often labeled as the teacher’s pet and were known as the person that would always do whatever they could to receive extra credit. What people didn’t know then is that on a few occasions you decided to party instead of study- and the results of this were obvious when you got your mid-term back. You don’t regret it now, though, because you know it’s important to have a balance between work and play- and you know you pulled through okay in the end.

3. You have gossiped before

There is a common misconception that so-called ‘good girls’ never say anything bad about others, but you know this isn’t true. You might have a saintly image, but you’ve participated in your fair share of talking about others behind their backs. But you have always immediately regretted it afterwards.

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4. You are attracted to a variety to men

Being seen as a good girl, people make the assumption that you look for a significant other who has a similar personality to you. You know this isn’t true, because the roster of men that you have dated come from a wide-range of cultures, religions and socio-economic backgrounds. You would not have it any other way.

5. You often disagree with your parents

Good girls are often seen as being best friends with their mothers or as being ‘daddy’s girls’. You are proof that this isn’t true, because you are not really close with either of your parents and only see them when necessary (like the holidays).

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6. You love traveling to off the beaten path destinations

There is a common misconception that good girls do not like to do anything adventurous. This is simply not true, as evidenced by your passport filled with many stamps from around the world. Many of these places have been truly off the beaten path destinations.

7. You have had your share of flings

Good girls are known for having long-term boyfriends, but you know this is just not always the case. You have had your fair share of one-night stands and summer romances, along with long-term relationships. It is all about balance.

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8. You love breaking stereotypes

You realize there are many things that people assume about you, but you love proving them wrong. You love seeing people’s faces when you tell them that you have a black belt in karate or that you have climbed Mount Kilimanjaro!

9. You know how to take care of yourself

Good girls are known to always politely decline a second serving of food, or wait for their Price Charming to come along and help them to fix a clogged drain. This definitely doesn’t fit the description of who you are. You can change a flat tire or clean out the garbage disposal as well as any handyman.

10. You know when you need to sincerely apologize

Good girls are often known for over-apologizing- even when it isn’t their fault. Despite this, you know the importance of recognizing when you truly need to say sorry and acknowledging that you know you are at fault.

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

Here’s How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People

7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

While loving awares isn’t bad, it’s even better if you’re driven by internal motivation instead of external ones which could be quite uncontrolable or unstable: Why Is Internal Motivation So Powerful (And How to Find It).

9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

The downside of this is an imbalnced life, which may need to problems in other aspects of life including health and relationships. A better way is to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance.

10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

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