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10 Signs You Treat Your Bestie Like A Spouse

10 Signs You Treat Your Bestie Like A Spouse

Do you have a bestie who you treat like they’re your spouse?

The two of you are basically family – you’ve bickered with each other, had dinner together, and you both own super embarrassing photos of each other. They are simply your other half without the romantic intimacy.

Check out these 10 signs that your bestie is your friend version of a spouse.

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1. They Are Always Your Plus One

It doesn’t matter where you are going – it could be a nightclub, food shopping or to a family party, but if you can invite someone, it will be your bestie. Their attendance means you are guaranteed a good night, and even if it is a bad night, you two will get to complain together as a team.

2. They Know Your Takeout Order By Heart

Whether you’re ordering Chinese or Italian, your bestie always knows what you want to eat. You can do the same for them; they hate pineapple on their pizza, but they love pineapple fritters. You both regularly order takeout for each other without consulting the other first – and the meal is always a tasty success.

3. You Are Always Making Future Plans

You and your bestie love to discuss your futures together; you want to go travelling to Thailand together, and next week you are going to check out that new steak restaurant. It doesn’t matter that you won’t do everything you plan; you will do most of it, and the memories will be epic.

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4. You Have Fun Together Whether You Stay In Or Go Out

You and your bestie have had some crazy, fun nights dancing until 4am while drinking tequila, but you’ve had some equally awesome nights snuggled up on the sofa watching funny movies. It doesn’t matter what you two do, as long as you’re having fun together.

5. You Have Seen Them At Their Best – And Their Worst

You have celebrated your friend’s job promotion together, and you’ve cuddled them for hours after their romantic relationship ended. You love your best friend no matter what, and you feel secretly honored that they want to share both their joyous and sad moments with you.

6. You Do Everything Together – Even The Boring Stuff

You may go on holiday together and go out for delicious meals, but you also do grocery shopping together, and one time you actually went to the dentist with your bestie. It doesn’t matter if the plans sound fun on paper – being together means the day will be fun.

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7. They Are The Only Person You Want To See On A Bad Day

When you have a hard day they are the first person you call. From hangovers to a hellish boss, you know they will patiently listen to you rant, and when you’re ready, they will make you laugh and cheer you up.

8. You Know Their Family As Well As Your Own

You’ve heard about their family drama, and you’ve looked through all of their family photographs on Facebook. Sometimes you feel like you’re part of the family – especially since you all regularly have dinner together.

9. You Can Disagree Without Fighting

You and your bestie can bicker about small things, like favorite TV shows and if mushrooms taste good. However you never actually fall out about anything, because you know they will always still be there for you at the end of the conversation – no matter what.

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10. They Are Your Better Half And You Can’t Imagine Not Being Their Bestie

They make you a better person in lots of different ways; they make you kinder and more forgiving, and they often force you to exercise with them. They are good for your mind, body and soul, and no one else compares to them – (maybe not even your actual spouse!)

What do you think of these signs? Share this with your bestie to let them know they are basically your spouse!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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