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10 Signs You Treat Your Bestie Like A Spouse

10 Signs You Treat Your Bestie Like A Spouse

Do you have a bestie who you treat like they’re your spouse?

The two of you are basically family – you’ve bickered with each other, had dinner together, and you both own super embarrassing photos of each other. They are simply your other half without the romantic intimacy.

Check out these 10 signs that your bestie is your friend version of a spouse.

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1. They Are Always Your Plus One

It doesn’t matter where you are going – it could be a nightclub, food shopping or to a family party, but if you can invite someone, it will be your bestie. Their attendance means you are guaranteed a good night, and even if it is a bad night, you two will get to complain together as a team.

2. They Know Your Takeout Order By Heart

Whether you’re ordering Chinese or Italian, your bestie always knows what you want to eat. You can do the same for them; they hate pineapple on their pizza, but they love pineapple fritters. You both regularly order takeout for each other without consulting the other first – and the meal is always a tasty success.

3. You Are Always Making Future Plans

You and your bestie love to discuss your futures together; you want to go travelling to Thailand together, and next week you are going to check out that new steak restaurant. It doesn’t matter that you won’t do everything you plan; you will do most of it, and the memories will be epic.

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4. You Have Fun Together Whether You Stay In Or Go Out

You and your bestie have had some crazy, fun nights dancing until 4am while drinking tequila, but you’ve had some equally awesome nights snuggled up on the sofa watching funny movies. It doesn’t matter what you two do, as long as you’re having fun together.

5. You Have Seen Them At Their Best – And Their Worst

You have celebrated your friend’s job promotion together, and you’ve cuddled them for hours after their romantic relationship ended. You love your best friend no matter what, and you feel secretly honored that they want to share both their joyous and sad moments with you.

6. You Do Everything Together – Even The Boring Stuff

You may go on holiday together and go out for delicious meals, but you also do grocery shopping together, and one time you actually went to the dentist with your bestie. It doesn’t matter if the plans sound fun on paper – being together means the day will be fun.

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7. They Are The Only Person You Want To See On A Bad Day

When you have a hard day they are the first person you call. From hangovers to a hellish boss, you know they will patiently listen to you rant, and when you’re ready, they will make you laugh and cheer you up.

8. You Know Their Family As Well As Your Own

You’ve heard about their family drama, and you’ve looked through all of their family photographs on Facebook. Sometimes you feel like you’re part of the family – especially since you all regularly have dinner together.

9. You Can Disagree Without Fighting

You and your bestie can bicker about small things, like favorite TV shows and if mushrooms taste good. However you never actually fall out about anything, because you know they will always still be there for you at the end of the conversation – no matter what.

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10. They Are Your Better Half And You Can’t Imagine Not Being Their Bestie

They make you a better person in lots of different ways; they make you kinder and more forgiving, and they often force you to exercise with them. They are good for your mind, body and soul, and no one else compares to them – (maybe not even your actual spouse!)

What do you think of these signs? Share this with your bestie to let them know they are basically your spouse!

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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