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12 Feelings Every Cat Owner Understands

12 Feelings Every Cat Owner Understands

Do you have a pet cat? If you do, you know all about the joy cats can bring into your life – alongside the horrors, of course. But no matter how many times your cat wakes you up in the middle of the night, you know you will love them forever.

Check out these 12 feelings every cat owner undoubtedly understands.

1. The Pain Of Trying To Take A Picture Of Your Cat

You are the cutest, most beautiful cat in the world, but the photographs I take of you never reflect this. Either you are a moving blur, or you are snarling at the camera. It is annoying, but I still have hope that one day I will take the perfect, most adorable portrait of you.

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    2. You Always Know Where Your Cat Has Been

    It doesn’t take detective skills – I can always tell where you spent your day while I was at work, because you always leave a cat shaped bundle of matted fur on whatever you were sleeping on. Which is normally the kitchen table (also known as the ONE place you’re not allowed to go).

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      3. Your Home Is Filled With Tiny, Colorful Toys

      Guests are forever tripping over your tiny, fluffy mouse toys and colorful balls. That isn’t even the worst of it, though. I’m 99% certain that underneath my sofa and bed lays piles of cat toys and treasure – but I’ll deal with that problem when I move out.

        4. Your Cat Is Your Alarm Clock

        I have an actual alarm clock, but you like to wake me up whenever you’re feeling a little lonely. This could be five minutes before my alarm goes off, or an hour before, but one thing is for certain – even though you woke me up, now that I’m up you, want to leave the room again.

          5. Your Furniture Has A Well-Loved Look

          From the wooden table to the two-seater couch, all of my furniture looks pretty distressed. You don’t even seem to notice that I bought a scratching post for you, because you are too busy scratching my couch. And bed. And table. And chairs…

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            6. You Know The Struggle Of Trying To Clean Up Cat Fur

            Vacuuming up cat fur is nearly impossible. Brushing it away is just as difficult, so I have resigned myself to living in (black) clothes covered in your sweater of (ginger) fur.

              7. Hairballs Are The Bane Of Your Existence

              Most of my home has wooden floors – ideal for hairball removal – and yet you always choose to find the one discarded t-shirt on the floor to vomit on. Seriously?

                8. You Know How Much Cats Love Clean Laundry

                There is one unquestionable rule – if there are fresh, clean clothes somewhere in my house, you will be asleep on top of them. Dirty clothes piles and your actual cat bed are just not as comfy, apparently.

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                  9. Taking Your Cat To The Vet Is Emotionally Distressing

                  I know that I’m not the one getting jabbed, but the sound of you in distress makes me want to cry. Every time I try to be brave, I always end up feeling terrible as I (forcefully) shove you, yowling, into your travel carriage.

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                    10. You Find Yourself Constantly Covered In Random Scratches

                    Whenever you’re feeling particularly hyper, I will get playfully swiped. I know it is just because you are in a good mood, but it irks me when my friends say “oh, my dog would never consider doing that.”

                    Yeah, but is your dog as cute as my cat? Cats are adorable, and you are the most adorable of them all – case closed.

                      11. You Keep All Of Your Empty Boxes For Your Cat

                      Every time I acquire a cardboard box, I keep it for a least a few weeks for you to sleep in. For some reason, cardboard boxes are more exciting to you than the squishy toys I actually buy for you.

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                        12. You Are Forever Dealing With Litter

                        A horrible necessity,litter is the worst, especially when it has been kicked all over the kitchen floor. Which you find the need to do, despite the handy mats I lay out for you to wipe your little paws on.

                          Can you think of any other feelings all cat owners will understand? Comment your ideas below!

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                          Published on May 4, 2021

                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                          They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                          In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                          How to Spot Fake People?

                          When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                          Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                          1. Full of Themselves

                          Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                          Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                          2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                          Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                          It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                          3. Zero Self-Reflection

                          To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                          Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                          4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                          Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                          A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                          5. Love Attention

                          As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                          6. People Pleaser

                          Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                          Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                          7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                          Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                          8. Crappy friend

                          Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                          It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                          The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                          How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                          It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                          There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                          1. Boundaries

                          Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                          2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                          Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                          3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                          If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                          4. Ask for Advice

                          If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                          Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                          5. Dig Deeper

                          Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                          Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                          6. Practice Self-Care!

                          Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                          Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                          Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                          Final Thoughts

                          Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                          We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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