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5 Points of Resistance in Pursuing Your Dreams

5 Points of Resistance in Pursuing Your Dreams

If you’re going after big dreams, you’ve likely encountered some resistance along the way. Feeling this resistance can make you feel confused, inadequate, and even make you want to give up. However, what we often don’t realise is that everyone who goes after a big dream faces resistance. It’s part of the process and it’s definitely not a reason for you to give up on pursuing your dreams.

Here’s five points of resistance that everyone experiences in pursuing dreams, and why you should push past each one and keep going.

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1. You’ll Find That Despite Your Best Efforts, Things Won’t Always Work Out As Planned

As much as you try, things won’t always work out as planned. When you’re going after big dreams, you’re putting your all into it, but this doesn’t guarantee success. Take it one step at a time, and know that even if you don’t succeed in every task you pursue, there is always tomorrow to try again. Pursuing your dreams is all trial and error.

2. You’ll Have Days Where You Almost Want to Give Up

You’ll have days where you lose sight of why you’re in this and you’ll almost want to give up. You’ll see others around you living a normal and seemingly easy life. You’ll wonder whether pursuing your big dreams is really the best thing you could be doing. Stop right there! Take some time out and come back to why you started this in the first place. It’s easy to get bogged down in the day-to-day, but you started out on this path for a reason. Come back to that reason, remind yourself, align your focus, and you won’t want to give up.

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3. You’ll Face the Critics Head On

When you put yourself out there in a big way, the critics will show up. Receiving criticism doesn’t mean that what you’re doing isn’t amazing. What it actually means is that you are pushing people’s buttons. You’re challenging them and making them uncomfortable — and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Big dreamers throughout history have faced criticism just like you are right now. As Taylor Swift says, it’s time to “Shake It Off!”

4. You’ll Feel Behind More Often Than Not

There are so many things to do in order to get where you want to be. Your To-Do List can feel endless some days. You’ll feel behind more often than not. Just remember you are only behind on your own schedule — that you set. You’re the master of your own domain, so when you feel behind don’t be too harsh on yourself. Remember: every step you take forward is progress.

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5. You’ll Be the Outcast Amongst Your Friends

Pursuing your big dreams shouldn’t make you the outcast, but often it does. While you’re pursuing dreams, many of your friends will be working the 9-5 with all the perks and all the downsides too. You’ll find it increasingly difficult to relate to the friends you once grumbled about Monday mornings with. This can make you feel a little isolated. If you’re feeling like the outcast, remember that everyone follows their own path, and you chose yours — for a very good reason! Why not try making connections with others pursuing their big dreams? If you don’t know anyone in your area, check out Meetup and Facebook Groups to get connected.

Why You Should Keep Going, No Matter What

If you’ve faced some of these points of resistance, it can be easy to feel like giving up. But you 100% need to keep going.

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Every single person who has ever pursued anything worth doing has faced resistance in one or more of these forms. It’s normal. In fact, it’s almost a rite of passage. The resistance you’re facing now is what will make you a stronger person. It’s this strength that will make you the kind of person who succeeds in achieving their dreams.

So next time you’re feeling like it’s all too much, remember that everyone faces resistance in pursuing dreams. Everyone pursuing their big dreams has days they feel like giving up. Everyone feels behind more often than not. Everyone faces the critics at one time or another. It’s okay to feel like this. Just remember to keep moving.

Everyday you move forward, you get a little closer to your big dreams. That’s what it’s all about!

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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