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5 Points of Resistance in Pursuing Your Dreams

5 Points of Resistance in Pursuing Your Dreams

If you’re going after big dreams, you’ve likely encountered some resistance along the way. Feeling this resistance can make you feel confused, inadequate, and even make you want to give up. However, what we often don’t realise is that everyone who goes after a big dream faces resistance. It’s part of the process and it’s definitely not a reason for you to give up on pursuing your dreams.

Here’s five points of resistance that everyone experiences in pursuing dreams, and why you should push past each one and keep going.

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1. You’ll Find That Despite Your Best Efforts, Things Won’t Always Work Out As Planned

As much as you try, things won’t always work out as planned. When you’re going after big dreams, you’re putting your all into it, but this doesn’t guarantee success. Take it one step at a time, and know that even if you don’t succeed in every task you pursue, there is always tomorrow to try again. Pursuing your dreams is all trial and error.

2. You’ll Have Days Where You Almost Want to Give Up

You’ll have days where you lose sight of why you’re in this and you’ll almost want to give up. You’ll see others around you living a normal and seemingly easy life. You’ll wonder whether pursuing your big dreams is really the best thing you could be doing. Stop right there! Take some time out and come back to why you started this in the first place. It’s easy to get bogged down in the day-to-day, but you started out on this path for a reason. Come back to that reason, remind yourself, align your focus, and you won’t want to give up.

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3. You’ll Face the Critics Head On

When you put yourself out there in a big way, the critics will show up. Receiving criticism doesn’t mean that what you’re doing isn’t amazing. What it actually means is that you are pushing people’s buttons. You’re challenging them and making them uncomfortable — and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Big dreamers throughout history have faced criticism just like you are right now. As Taylor Swift says, it’s time to “Shake It Off!”

4. You’ll Feel Behind More Often Than Not

There are so many things to do in order to get where you want to be. Your To-Do List can feel endless some days. You’ll feel behind more often than not. Just remember you are only behind on your own schedule — that you set. You’re the master of your own domain, so when you feel behind don’t be too harsh on yourself. Remember: every step you take forward is progress.

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5. You’ll Be the Outcast Amongst Your Friends

Pursuing your big dreams shouldn’t make you the outcast, but often it does. While you’re pursuing dreams, many of your friends will be working the 9-5 with all the perks and all the downsides too. You’ll find it increasingly difficult to relate to the friends you once grumbled about Monday mornings with. This can make you feel a little isolated. If you’re feeling like the outcast, remember that everyone follows their own path, and you chose yours — for a very good reason! Why not try making connections with others pursuing their big dreams? If you don’t know anyone in your area, check out Meetup and Facebook Groups to get connected.

Why You Should Keep Going, No Matter What

If you’ve faced some of these points of resistance, it can be easy to feel like giving up. But you 100% need to keep going.

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Every single person who has ever pursued anything worth doing has faced resistance in one or more of these forms. It’s normal. In fact, it’s almost a rite of passage. The resistance you’re facing now is what will make you a stronger person. It’s this strength that will make you the kind of person who succeeds in achieving their dreams.

So next time you’re feeling like it’s all too much, remember that everyone faces resistance in pursuing dreams. Everyone pursuing their big dreams has days they feel like giving up. Everyone feels behind more often than not. Everyone faces the critics at one time or another. It’s okay to feel like this. Just remember to keep moving.

Everyday you move forward, you get a little closer to your big dreams. That’s what it’s all about!

Featured photo credit: Neourban Hipster Office Desktop by Markus Spiske via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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