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6 Old-Fashioned Relationship Tips From Elderly Couples (That Still Work Great Today)

6 Old-Fashioned Relationship Tips From Elderly Couples (That Still Work Great Today)

Our society has changed quite a lot in the past few years. Nowadays people are more focused on technology and having as much money as possible, while forgetting the core values in life. Many fail to love or show feelings to the most important person in their life, mostly because they are so focused on achieving the aforementioned things.

Our parents and grandparents may not know anything about Facebook or Twitter, but they do know a thing or two about how to keep their significant others twitterpated. Getting some good, old-timey relationship advice from parents and grandparents is important, because let’s face it, they still love each other after all of those decades of toughness and hard times — you need to listen to them in order to make your own relationships work. All great relationships take time and commitment, but these 6 great relationship tips from elderly couples will help your relationship last:

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1. Spend quality, individual time with your loved one without interruptions

Sometimes, the best things in life are the simple ones. Losing your connection to the world for a little bit, and spending time connecting with your partner is a guaranteed way to build your relationship. In the olden days, a simple walk in the park, a drive through the countryside, a dance or just a hug was all it took to win someone’s heart. Take a page from the book of George Bailey of It’s a Wonderful Life, and tell your significant other that you’ll give her or him the moon if they so desire.

2. Reach out and touch someone

Back in the old days, when rotary phones were in vogue, our ancestors had to wait for a time when nobody was around so that they could call their girlfriends and whisper sweet-nothings through the telephone wires. Many an elderly person will tell you that they feel that technology is actually killing our abilities to communicate openly with others. It’s important to stay frequently in touch with your partner throughout the day, but instead of sending a text to ask if he or she needs something from the store, try a phone call. Don’t schedule a date with your loved one through Google Calendar – call him or her up and ask for a date. And put the cell phone down while you’re on the date. A friend recently shared with me that she and her husband were at a restaurant, and a young couple on a date was seated at the table next to them. She said that they immediately took their phones out and started checking Facebook and Instagramming photos of their appetizers, when one of them got up and went to the restroom. The girl’s date didn’t look up the entire time, and when she’d come back to the table, he said, “Did you just go somewhere? I didn’t even see you leave.” Don’t be that guy.

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3. Be sincere and focused

Sincerity is the pinnacle of any relationship. By being sincere, you will show your love to the most important person in your life, and this is indeed crucial if you want to make your relationship work. Do that, and the results will appear very fast. Never ignore your love, instead embrace your feelings and always show your true colors.

4. Help each other

My dear neighbor just passed away last week, at the age of 86. She and her late husband were a perfect example of how helping one another made their relationship stronger. They built their home together, from the floor up, and always stood by each other as the years went by. They helped one another so much, that when he passed away she was lost without him. That’s the kind of relationship you want to have – make yourself irreplaceable.

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5. Always see the inner beauty

Love is all about seeing the inner beauty of your partner. It’s not all about looks! Sure, these do matter, but things like intelligence, charisma can be even more important – especially as the years pass. One morning you’ll wake up to see a svelte, athletic guy with washboard abs next to you, but all too soon you’ll be staring at a set of teeth in a glass on the nightstand. The best person for you is the one that seamlessly combines all of these traits, so focus on finding them in the person you love and nurturing them if they can’t be seen.

6. Tell the truth

My grandma always used to say, “There’s no such thing as a little, white lie. They’re all huge and black and will send you straight to hell.” Grandma had a flair for the dramatic, but lying will always lead to very bad results, sometimes even breakups. You need to always try and stay truthful to the person you love, because in the end you will be lying to yourself. Don’t take the easy way out, don’t lie, and see how well things will turn out.

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As you can see, all these old-fashioned tips are very useful for any type of relationship, and no matter how young you are, you should definitely implement them. Don’t fear that they might not be for you, because they are, so try to take full advantage of them right now, they will definitely help your relationship in the long run!

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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