Our society has changed quite a lot in the past few years. Nowadays people are more focused on technology and having as much money as possible, while forgetting the core values in life. Many fail to love or show feelings to the most important person in their life, mostly because they are so focused on achieving the aforementioned things.
Our parents and grandparents may not know anything about Facebook or Twitter, but they do know a thing or two about how to keep their significant others twitterpated. Getting some good, old-timey relationship advice from parents and grandparents is important, because let’s face it, they still love each other after all of those decades of toughness and hard times — you need to listen to them in order to make your own relationships work. All great relationships take time and commitment, but these 6 great relationship tips from elderly couples will help your relationship last:
1. Spend quality, individual time with your loved one without interruptions
Sometimes, the best things in life are the simple ones. Losing your connection to the world for a little bit, and spending time connecting with your partner is a guaranteed way to build your relationship. In the olden days, a simple walk in the park, a drive through the countryside, a dance or just a hug was all it took to win someone’s heart. Take a page from the book of George Bailey of It’s a Wonderful Life, and tell your significant other that you’ll give her or him the moon if they so desire.
2. Reach out and touch someone
Back in the old days, when rotary phones were in vogue, our ancestors had to wait for a time when nobody was around so that they could call their girlfriends and whisper sweet-nothings through the telephone wires. Many an elderly person will tell you that they feel that technology is actually killing our abilities to communicate openly with others. It’s important to stay frequently in touch with your partner throughout the day, but instead of sending a text to ask if he or she needs something from the store, try a phone call. Don’t schedule a date with your loved one through Google Calendar – call him or her up and ask for a date. And put the cell phone down while you’re on the date. A friend recently shared with me that she and her husband were at a restaurant, and a young couple on a date was seated at the table next to them. She said that they immediately took their phones out and started checking Facebook and Instagramming photos of their appetizers, when one of them got up and went to the restroom. The girl’s date didn’t look up the entire time, and when she’d come back to the table, he said, “Did you just go somewhere? I didn’t even see you leave.” Don’t be that guy.
3. Be sincere and focused
Sincerity is the pinnacle of any relationship. By being sincere, you will show your love to the most important person in your life, and this is indeed crucial if you want to make your relationship work. Do that, and the results will appear very fast. Never ignore your love, instead embrace your feelings and always show your true colors.
4. Help each other
My dear neighbor just passed away last week, at the age of 86. She and her late husband were a perfect example of how helping one another made their relationship stronger. They built their home together, from the floor up, and always stood by each other as the years went by. They helped one another so much, that when he passed away she was lost without him. That’s the kind of relationship you want to have – make yourself irreplaceable.
5. Always see the inner beauty
Love is all about seeing the inner beauty of your partner. It’s not all about looks! Sure, these do matter, but things like intelligence, charisma can be even more important – especially as the years pass. One morning you’ll wake up to see a svelte, athletic guy with washboard abs next to you, but all too soon you’ll be staring at a set of teeth in a glass on the nightstand. The best person for you is the one that seamlessly combines all of these traits, so focus on finding them in the person you love and nurturing them if they can’t be seen.
6. Tell the truth
My grandma always used to say, “There’s no such thing as a little, white lie. They’re all huge and black and will send you straight to hell.” Grandma had a flair for the dramatic, but lying will always lead to very bad results, sometimes even breakups. You need to always try and stay truthful to the person you love, because in the end you will be lying to yourself. Don’t take the easy way out, don’t lie, and see how well things will turn out.
As you can see, all these old-fashioned tips are very useful for any type of relationship, and no matter how young you are, you should definitely implement them. Don’t fear that they might not be for you, because they are, so try to take full advantage of them right now, they will definitely help your relationship in the long run!
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