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6 Old-Fashioned Relationship Tips From Elderly Couples (That Still Work Great Today)

6 Old-Fashioned Relationship Tips From Elderly Couples (That Still Work Great Today)

Our society has changed quite a lot in the past few years. Nowadays people are more focused on technology and having as much money as possible, while forgetting the core values in life. Many fail to love or show feelings to the most important person in their life, mostly because they are so focused on achieving the aforementioned things.

Our parents and grandparents may not know anything about Facebook or Twitter, but they do know a thing or two about how to keep their significant others twitterpated. Getting some good, old-timey relationship advice from parents and grandparents is important, because let’s face it, they still love each other after all of those decades of toughness and hard times — you need to listen to them in order to make your own relationships work. All great relationships take time and commitment, but these 6 great relationship tips from elderly couples will help your relationship last:

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1. Spend quality, individual time with your loved one without interruptions

Sometimes, the best things in life are the simple ones. Losing your connection to the world for a little bit, and spending time connecting with your partner is a guaranteed way to build your relationship. In the olden days, a simple walk in the park, a drive through the countryside, a dance or just a hug was all it took to win someone’s heart. Take a page from the book of George Bailey of It’s a Wonderful Life, and tell your significant other that you’ll give her or him the moon if they so desire.

2. Reach out and touch someone

Back in the old days, when rotary phones were in vogue, our ancestors had to wait for a time when nobody was around so that they could call their girlfriends and whisper sweet-nothings through the telephone wires. Many an elderly person will tell you that they feel that technology is actually killing our abilities to communicate openly with others. It’s important to stay frequently in touch with your partner throughout the day, but instead of sending a text to ask if he or she needs something from the store, try a phone call. Don’t schedule a date with your loved one through Google Calendar – call him or her up and ask for a date. And put the cell phone down while you’re on the date. A friend recently shared with me that she and her husband were at a restaurant, and a young couple on a date was seated at the table next to them. She said that they immediately took their phones out and started checking Facebook and Instagramming photos of their appetizers, when one of them got up and went to the restroom. The girl’s date didn’t look up the entire time, and when she’d come back to the table, he said, “Did you just go somewhere? I didn’t even see you leave.” Don’t be that guy.

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3. Be sincere and focused

Sincerity is the pinnacle of any relationship. By being sincere, you will show your love to the most important person in your life, and this is indeed crucial if you want to make your relationship work. Do that, and the results will appear very fast. Never ignore your love, instead embrace your feelings and always show your true colors.

4. Help each other

My dear neighbor just passed away last week, at the age of 86. She and her late husband were a perfect example of how helping one another made their relationship stronger. They built their home together, from the floor up, and always stood by each other as the years went by. They helped one another so much, that when he passed away she was lost without him. That’s the kind of relationship you want to have – make yourself irreplaceable.

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5. Always see the inner beauty

Love is all about seeing the inner beauty of your partner. It’s not all about looks! Sure, these do matter, but things like intelligence, charisma can be even more important – especially as the years pass. One morning you’ll wake up to see a svelte, athletic guy with washboard abs next to you, but all too soon you’ll be staring at a set of teeth in a glass on the nightstand. The best person for you is the one that seamlessly combines all of these traits, so focus on finding them in the person you love and nurturing them if they can’t be seen.

6. Tell the truth

My grandma always used to say, “There’s no such thing as a little, white lie. They’re all huge and black and will send you straight to hell.” Grandma had a flair for the dramatic, but lying will always lead to very bad results, sometimes even breakups. You need to always try and stay truthful to the person you love, because in the end you will be lying to yourself. Don’t take the easy way out, don’t lie, and see how well things will turn out.

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As you can see, all these old-fashioned tips are very useful for any type of relationship, and no matter how young you are, you should definitely implement them. Don’t fear that they might not be for you, because they are, so try to take full advantage of them right now, they will definitely help your relationship in the long run!

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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