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6 Old-Fashioned Relationship Tips From Elderly Couples (That Still Work Great Today)

6 Old-Fashioned Relationship Tips From Elderly Couples (That Still Work Great Today)

Our society has changed quite a lot in the past few years. Nowadays people are more focused on technology and having as much money as possible, while forgetting the core values in life. Many fail to love or show feelings to the most important person in their life, mostly because they are so focused on achieving the aforementioned things.

Our parents and grandparents may not know anything about Facebook or Twitter, but they do know a thing or two about how to keep their significant others twitterpated. Getting some good, old-timey relationship advice from parents and grandparents is important, because let’s face it, they still love each other after all of those decades of toughness and hard times — you need to listen to them in order to make your own relationships work. All great relationships take time and commitment, but these 6 great relationship tips from elderly couples will help your relationship last:

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1. Spend quality, individual time with your loved one without interruptions

Sometimes, the best things in life are the simple ones. Losing your connection to the world for a little bit, and spending time connecting with your partner is a guaranteed way to build your relationship. In the olden days, a simple walk in the park, a drive through the countryside, a dance or just a hug was all it took to win someone’s heart. Take a page from the book of George Bailey of It’s a Wonderful Life, and tell your significant other that you’ll give her or him the moon if they so desire.

2. Reach out and touch someone

Back in the old days, when rotary phones were in vogue, our ancestors had to wait for a time when nobody was around so that they could call their girlfriends and whisper sweet-nothings through the telephone wires. Many an elderly person will tell you that they feel that technology is actually killing our abilities to communicate openly with others. It’s important to stay frequently in touch with your partner throughout the day, but instead of sending a text to ask if he or she needs something from the store, try a phone call. Don’t schedule a date with your loved one through Google Calendar – call him or her up and ask for a date. And put the cell phone down while you’re on the date. A friend recently shared with me that she and her husband were at a restaurant, and a young couple on a date was seated at the table next to them. She said that they immediately took their phones out and started checking Facebook and Instagramming photos of their appetizers, when one of them got up and went to the restroom. The girl’s date didn’t look up the entire time, and when she’d come back to the table, he said, “Did you just go somewhere? I didn’t even see you leave.” Don’t be that guy.

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3. Be sincere and focused

Sincerity is the pinnacle of any relationship. By being sincere, you will show your love to the most important person in your life, and this is indeed crucial if you want to make your relationship work. Do that, and the results will appear very fast. Never ignore your love, instead embrace your feelings and always show your true colors.

4. Help each other

My dear neighbor just passed away last week, at the age of 86. She and her late husband were a perfect example of how helping one another made their relationship stronger. They built their home together, from the floor up, and always stood by each other as the years went by. They helped one another so much, that when he passed away she was lost without him. That’s the kind of relationship you want to have – make yourself irreplaceable.

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5. Always see the inner beauty

Love is all about seeing the inner beauty of your partner. It’s not all about looks! Sure, these do matter, but things like intelligence, charisma can be even more important – especially as the years pass. One morning you’ll wake up to see a svelte, athletic guy with washboard abs next to you, but all too soon you’ll be staring at a set of teeth in a glass on the nightstand. The best person for you is the one that seamlessly combines all of these traits, so focus on finding them in the person you love and nurturing them if they can’t be seen.

6. Tell the truth

My grandma always used to say, “There’s no such thing as a little, white lie. They’re all huge and black and will send you straight to hell.” Grandma had a flair for the dramatic, but lying will always lead to very bad results, sometimes even breakups. You need to always try and stay truthful to the person you love, because in the end you will be lying to yourself. Don’t take the easy way out, don’t lie, and see how well things will turn out.

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As you can see, all these old-fashioned tips are very useful for any type of relationship, and no matter how young you are, you should definitely implement them. Don’t fear that they might not be for you, because they are, so try to take full advantage of them right now, they will definitely help your relationship in the long run!

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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