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10 Signs You Have A Great Husband

10 Signs You Have A Great Husband

Marriage is both wonderful and challenging at the same time. Who doesn’t want to be married to that perfect man we saw on a fiction story? Your man is as perfect as you make him to be. Both partners are to put in effort, hard work and time for a relationship to work. There are, however, some common qualities that make a great husband.

Here are 10 signs you have a great husband:

1. He communicates with you.

He never takes the importance of communication lightly. He talks to you, listens to what you have to say and really tries to understand where you are coming from. He knows when to talk and when to not. He can talk to you about anything and everything from his favorite sports shows to your favorite reality tv.

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2. He loves to spend time with you.

He loves being around you. It doesn’t matter what you do together, as long as he gets to spend the time with you. He just genuinely enjoys having you as a company. You can be staying home watching a silly romantic movie with chips and peanuts together or going to a restaurant you both love for a good dining experience together, as long as he is doing it with you, he would be happy.

3. He makes you smile and laugh.

Who doesn’t love a man with a sense of humor? He surely knows how to be silly and funny at the right times. He would crack a lame joke or do the funniest facial expression that makes you laugh so hard that you had a stomach pain. Seeing you smile makes him the happiest man alive.

4. He is supportive.

He stands by you through all your ups and downs. He’s always there to back you up no matter the situations. He supports you in every pursue you attempt, and believes in your abilities more than anyone ever did. There will be times when you doubted yourself, but he always ensures you with his love and support to build you back up, for you to keep moving forward.

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5. He is willing to teach you what he knows.

He doesn’t believe that man should always be the smartest or wisest in a relationship. He is willing to shower you with the knowledge he has accumulated throughout his life. He would be honored to share the knowledges he has, for you to utilize for your own benefits.

6. He is loyal.

Let’s be real. Every man has the right to appreciate beautiful things, and beautiful people. We love looking at good looking men too, don’t we? However, a great husband is one who knows that no matter how many good looking women they enjoy looking at, there is only one woman who owns their heart. The woman he owns will always be the most beautiful to him, inside and out, in his heart.

7. He acknowledges his mistakes.

He understands that he is only human, and he is prone to make mistakes. He doesn’t deny when he makes mistakes, instead he admits to his faults and are willing to mend them as best he can.

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8. He protects and cares for you.

He always makes sure of your safety. He would call to check on you to make sure you get to your destination safely. He does his best to protect you from any harm. One of his top priority has been always to make sure you are well taken care of, physically and emotionally.

9. He understands you.

He knows what make you tick. He understands you like no one ever could. It isn’t hard to figure out your favorite color or ice cream flavor, but it is very hard to find someone who truly understands you in a deeper level. He gets you and knows what matters to you. He knows what upsets you, and what makes you happy. He understands your values, and he knows your purpose in life.

10. He doesn’t see you any less than himself.

He acknowledges your strengths and talents. He doesn’t think that he is better than you in everything. He believes that you possess great qualities that are unique to your own. He knows that you can achieve great things in life and makes sure you know that too. He is proud to call you his woman.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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